Chapter 3 - The Many Ways We Fool Ourselves

Question 1

Explain how Jeff is stuck and MARV’s role in that problem.

Answer 1

Jeff says he wants to play his own work in a live show, but he always has excuses for why he doesn’t make it happen. He has let the negative thoughts (“I’m not good enough”) create fear and that translates into procrastination. Overprotective MARV strikes again.

Question 2

Describe the three steps to get clarity on the situation

Answer 2

Reframing - Wipe the slate clean and consider the problem fresh
Reinforcement - Dream about the solution and include positive thoughts
Reporting - Have someone hold you responsible (spouse/coach/friend)

Question 3

After getting clarity on solution what are the next three steps

Answer 3

Regroup - surround yourself with supportive helpers
Reality Check - set a firm date/deadline
Reassurance - Tell yourself it will turn out OK no matter what

Question 4

Describe a coping mechanism for dealing with MARV

Answer 4

Awareness of MARV is the first step towards freedom from MARV’s control. Using that awareness to see the humor and absurdity of the negative thoughts defeats the power of negativity.

Question 5

Brain Bottle Opener 3 - Furlough Letter

Answer 5

Specific, Present, True
Take 3 minutes to write a furlough letter to MARV. Tell him that you will be sending him on extended vacations starting now.