Chapter 13: Personal Attraction Flashcards
Loneliness
Can affect physical and mental health
Lower immune system
Rejection
Impacts Psychological and physical health bc the part of the brain that triggers emotional pain also triggers physical pain
Also seek some coping mechanism that aren’t healthy (drugs,alc,food)
Propinquity effect
The closer you are in proximity to someone the more likely to are to find them attractive
Reward model of liking
people like others whom they associate with positive stimuli and dislike others whom thy associate with negative stimuli
Transference
Transfer qualities with someone you know to someone you just met that reminds you of them
Cutterally valued personality traits
Agreeableness
Emotional stability
Intelligence
Trustworthy
Speed dating study
-The people they wanted to see again had no traits that they said they liked
-This proves that tire not gonna like WHO you think you do
-what people think they find attractive isn’t always what they find attractive
Attitude similarity
-Similar values
-similar attitudes
-Similar world views (politics,religion)
BUT personality traits don’t matter (ex: intro and extro )
Do opposites attract?
We tend to prefer ppl who complement us (opposites)
We like Strengths in diff domains (one in school one works)
Existential isolation
If you view the word one way & everyone else sees it diff, you can feel Like your don’t belong
-we seek people who share the same outside world views because we don’t wanna feel alone
Norm of reciprocity
When Someone else likes us we’re more likely to like them back bc it makes us feel good bc now we’re associating feeling good with that person
We assume that person is going to treat us well bc they like us and it could make us like them back
Flattery
More likely to like who flatter us
But only when it’s authentic
Gain loss theory
Compliments mean more when it’s once and a while than all the time
And it’s means more when that person doesn’t compliment everyone
And means more from strangers
Criticism from your partner holds more value than criticism from a stranger
Physical attractiveness
Can influence political decisions
Most important factors when considering a second date
Why? Reward model (it’s pleasant to look at attractive peoples)
Halo effect
Assume peoples with one positive attributes have a bunch of other God things
Averageness
People find average most attractive
We like what is average bc it’s what we’re used to
Mere exposure effect
If all the faces we look at now are filtered or edited it creates a distorted reality
Everyone now looks the same bc everyone wants to look like the average
You’ll start to think that’s what people look like so it’s alters you views of a face with no filter
Reasons people have sex
Pleasure
Intimacy
Increase self esteem
Make your feel better emotionally
Social approval
Infidelity & gender differences
Men women get upset for emotional and physical cheating
Both genders get upset over emotional cheating
