Chapter 13 - Communication - Lectures Flashcards
What four negative behaviours strongly predict relationship dissatisfaction?
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
What is the most common way that people communicate?
Non-verbally
What percent of exchanged information in a single encounter consists of non-verbal communication?
60-65%
What are two distressed couples patterns?
Negative reciprocity and demand withdrawal: the tendency to let negative exchanges escalate. And demand-withdraw pattern, “the endless chase”.
What type of distressed couples pattern often results in eventual separation and divorce?
The demand-withdraw pattern.
Who is more likely to make demands?
Women
Who is more likely to withdraw?
Men
Who has a greater need for closeness?
Women
Who has a greater need for independence?
Men
What is one biological reason men might withdraw during conflicts?
They display stronger physiological reactions in conflicts.
Who benefits more from traditional marital relationships?
Men
What are barriers around discussing sex?
Fear that differences can threaten the relationship; feelings of shame and guilt; belief that emotional intimacy, not sexual intimacy, is important; unwillingness to speak up; misunderstanding nonverbal cues; fear of offending; low self esteem.
What types of behaviours are shown in couples where the woman has orgasmic disorder?
More blaming behaviours toward each other, and the female partner was less receptive to discussions of sex.
Four important listening skills
Active listening, paraphrasing, asking for clarification, and respectful disagreement.
Examples of soft emotions
Fear, anxiety, vulnerability
