Chapter 11: Relationships and Roles Flashcards
Children
- Feeling closer to one child over the other is normal
- Mothers tend to feel closest to the child who seems most bonded to them
Divorce
- the parents that is incredibly attached to their children will suffer more
- resentment and having a lot of difficulty forgiving will tend to create fights that become more personally hurtful (leading to deteriorate the relationship and difficulty resolving conflicts)
Marriage
- after being married for 6 years, a couple is out of the main danger divorce zone
U-Shaped curve of marital satisfaction
Married couples are happiest during honeymoon > marital happiness decreases duping to a low point > increases when empty nest occurs
Cohabitating
- Does not increase your chance of getting divorced
- Marriage survival rate is not impacted
- When having conflict or a different in opinion, keep to the issue and do not get personally hurtful
- Avoid using a credit card
Healthy Relationships
- Compromising your own need for your partners well being helps relationship stay strong and lovingly survive
- Keep marital equity
- Are apt to see each other as one another’s “ideal” person
Triangular Theory of Love (facets of love)
- Intimacy (Best Friends)
- Passion (A Crush)
- Commitment (“Empty Marriage”)
Combinations of Facets: Intimacy + Passion
Creates a romantic love (lovey dovey)
Combinations of Facets: Passion + Commitment
Created a purely sexual marriage
Combinations of Facets: Commitment + Intimacy
Creates a compassionate marriage
- Includes being the best of friends and are happily married but are no longer sexual
Combinations of Facets: Intimacy + Passion + Commitment
Creates a consummate relationship/love
- Includes having great sex, are the best of friends, and are firmly committed in the relationship
Keeping the Passion Alive
- In a marriage spend time doing exciting things together
- Incorporate doing exciting activities together that you and your spouse both love
