Ch.3 connecting self and comm Flashcards
Self concept
An organized collection of beliefs and attitudes about self. Depends on context, situation, and the other person.
Social identity
how we see and evaluate ourselves.
Perception
The way we see things. The accuracy of our perceptions are questionable b/c we perceive differently than others.
Self concept and ________ are closely related
Perception
2 subcomponents of our personality
1) Self image – mental pic of self . EX: student, athlete
2) Self esteem- feelings and attitudes toward ourselves and how we evaluate ourselves.
Development of-self concept
Begins as a child. Environment and parents helped shape how we saw ourselves. Age brings a strong development of self. Based on past and present experiences.
Components of developing self concept
Values, attitudes, and beliefs
Value
Ideas that guide our behavior EX: blackberries have made our lives more easier and efficient
Atitudes
Viewpoints, way of thinking, evaluative attitudes are attitudes. Values are reflected in attitudes.EX: Blackberry users are more technology savvy than nonusers.
Beliefs
A conviction or confidence in the truth of something not based on absolute proof. Closely related to attitude. EX: blackberries are the best ways to communicate with others.
Kinch model of connection between self concept and comm
Self concept->behavior->behavior-> actual responses of others->perception of others responses-> perception of others responses-> self-concept
social self
Combination of interpersonal relationships and larger groups
2 ways that the self can be categorized
1) personal level- emphasizes the uniqueness of the individual
2) social identity level- Self is thought of as a member of a group
Communication apprehension
Anxiety associated with real or anticipated com with another person. Related to self concept
Self-fulfilling prophecy
Expectations we have of ourselves or that others have of us that help to create the conditions that lead us to act in predictable ways.
Impression management
Creating a positive image of oneself to influence the perceptions of others.
Self enhancement and other enhancement at the same time.
Facework
Verbal and nonverbal ways we act to maintain image.
Individualistic orientation
Tendency to stress self or personal goals and achievements over group goals and achievement
Collective Orientation
Tends to put aside individual goals for the well being of the group
Self Conception- is subjective . what influences it ?
1) reflective appraisal
2) Social Comparison
3) influence by culture- clash of cultures
reflective appraisal
our perception of how others sees us reflect our own self concept.
comes from people we think our competent,
consistent repeated appraisals shape us.
social comparison
comparing ourselves to others around us and evaluate ourselves based on those. changes on diff situations
superiority
changes ourselves to feel more superior
inferiority
use it to gauge where we are
evaluating feedback
self concept might be based on obsolete info, unwilling to see how info is changing
Distorted feedback
people trying to be negative. we often pay the most attention to negative stuff.
social expectation
we’re not supposed to be overly confident
resists change
we cling to past, do not change even if theres a better perception
cognitive conservatism
see what we only see. looking for info you already know
self delusion
only seeing what you want to see and repressing things that should change.lack of growth
what is a healthy self concept?
one that is flexible open to change.
self presentation (private self)
What we really think of ourselves both good&bad ‘perceived self’
self presentation (public self)
Our presenting self, the self you present to the world.
self presentation (ideal self)
‘desired’ self
Impression management .. impossible. regular.social role
- impossible not to create an impression
- Regular part of our behavior
- done because of social roles
- impossible not to create an impression
- Regular part of our behavior
- done because of social roles
high self monitors
very aware of the impression they make
low self monitors
unaware of the inappropriate actions they display. oblivious, rebels that dont care.
How to manage impression
1) manners
2) appearance
3) settings
4) interactions
manners
words and nonverbal actions
appearance
depends on the relationship. ex: tattoos, piercing, work clothes vs reg clothes
settings
Where you live ex: conservative vs. Liberal this creates an impression on people
2 diff strategy for self presenting
- direct self presentation
- indirect self presentation
Ingratiator strategy (direct SP)
Appear to be likable. eye contact, smell good, compliment,etc. used at work places, class, dates
Intimidator strategy (direct sp)
Intimidating impression. walking alone at night, you must give an impression you are sure and confident and can put on a fight if need be. At work if you deal with customers.
self promoter strategy(direct sp)
Confidence in yourself, so people will see you as competent. used for job interview,School, driving, work, life
exemplifier strategy (direct SP)
want to appear to be dedicated and committed. relationship, work. EX: ON time, leaving only when job is done.
Suplicator strategy (direct sp)
Appear to be helpless. to get out of doing things, to get what you want,.
Basking in reflective glory strategy(indirect SP)
Sharing in someone elses light. Being associated “highlighting your association with someone.”
ex: clipper band wagon because right now they are victorious compared to Lakers
blasting oppositon (indirect SP)
put down enemies. seen by the way we put down the opposition
ex: “you belong with me” song
Boosting an association (indirect sp)
seen in a different light when we have something in common. Liking someone because theres a common interest. more trustworthy because of a special association. EX: Masons helping each other out. This association changes the relationship.
Accounts
when someone is failed and the accounter much give an account as to why they did it– an apology. If the reproacher doesnt accept apology, the cycle repeats till either, the account is accepted or the relationship is terminated
account sequence
1) failed
2) reproach
3) account
4) evaluation
5) accept/reject
6) conclusion / next step
1) concession account
acknowledge the wrong doing and takes responsibility . acknowledgement of guilt.
apology+restitution, makes it up to you.
4 types of accounts
concession, excuse, justification, refusal
2) excuse account
failure to take responsibility of account. appeal to human nature, to addiction, negative past, provocations, loyalty, insufficient skill or knowledge. “yes, i did this wrong but its bc…”
3) Justifications account
Acknowledges wrong doing but justifies it
denies actual damage, minimizes damage, appeals to positive consequence, right to self fulfillment
4) Refusal account
Refuse to take responsibility for a wrong doing. Insists failure did not occur. Attributes fult becaues of someone elses wrong doing. or I dont know who did this.
