Ch 2 interpersonal comm Flashcards
Uncertain reduction theory
When people meet they seek to reduce uncertainty about each other
Entry phase
Uncertainty is high so is the desire to find out more about them
Exit phase
Future of the relationship is decided
Social info processing theory
Focuses on online interactions that lead to forming relationships . Electronic mediated comm grow only to the extent that people first gain info about each other and use it to form impressions
2 feature of electronic mediated comm
Verbal cues - content of electronic messages
Extended time- much slower comm , not weaker then other relationships
Social exchange theory
Seeking relationships that benefit them while avoiding ones that don’t
Fundamental interpersonal relations orientation theory
Provides insight into our motivation to comm. consists of three needs: affection , inclusion, and control
Affection
Need to feel likeable or lovable
Affection (personal)
Adequacy fulfilled affect
Affection ( under personal)
Unable to receive affection adequately
Affection ( overpersonal)
Desperate looking for affection everywhere
Inclusion
Need to feel significant and worthwhile
Inclusion( social people )
Satisfied their need for inclusion
Inclusion ( oversocial)
Cannot stop themselves from getting involved and communicating w others
Inclusion( under social)
Do not like being around others. Comm is threatening
Control
Derived from responsibility and leadership
Control( abdicrat)
Submissive to others. Little to no self confidence . Not a risk taker . She’s themselves as useless
Control( autocrat)
Don’t have enough control . Always making decisions or voice strong decisions . Need for power . Shows little respect
Control ( democrat)
Control needs are satisfied . Comfortable as leader or follower . Open minded , accepts suggestions for good of the group
Other reasons we form relationships
- avoid and lessen loneliness
- learn more about ourselves
- share life w others
Getting to know others and ourselves
We evaluate others in positive and negative terms , and evaluate ourself in return
Learning about others through face to face relationships
Encounters several times- comfort ensues to make small talk
Small talk
Casual convo, impersonal and superficial. Hellos, weather, sport, trivia, news events. Avenue for getting to know one another . Prevalent in interpersonal comm
Connecting w others via online
Limited due to lack of proximity . More time online= more likely to form relationships online
Advantages to online relationships
- remaining anonymous
- personality/ inner qualities are shaped through words only
Disadvantages to online relationship
Appearance voice touch is lost . Doesn’t fill interpersonal needs
Self disclosure in relationships
More sincere honest and open interactions , the stronger and more lasting the relationship is likely to be . Type of interaction which self disclosure changes as relationship becomes closer
Self disclosure
Voluntary sharing info about the self that another person isn’t likely to know
Self disclosure process
Moves back and forth from self identity , to very personal info about private life. Always tension between the need for privacy and the need for intimacy - more personal disclosure
Johari window
4 types of info available and hidden from each other . Info shapes the overall info. 1)Open area2) blind area3) hidden area 4) unknown area
1) Open area
Known to self and others. Available through observation and willingness
2)Blind area
Includes info that others perceive about us but we do not recognize or acknowledge about ourselves .
3) hidden area
Personal info we choose not to disclose . As a relationship grows , open area becomes bigger , hidden area shrinks but is never eliminated completely
4) unknown area
Certain info not known to others or ourselves. We may submerge or repress certain info into our subconscious . Info that hasn’t submerged
How to be mo open
More you communicate and encourage feedback
Social penetration model
Process of increasing disclosure and intimacy in a relationship . Model portrays relationships that begin with small talk , and develops convos that are more personal – including feelings about value and self
Why do we self disclose ?
To better know who we are , to gain sympathy, to see what others think, to gain trust, or to connect w others and establish relationships
Reasons for self disclosure
1) self presentation
2) relationship buildings
3) catharsis
Self presentation
Intentional tactic used to reveal certain aspects of ourselves for specific reasons
Relationship building
Self disclosure is used to start and maintain relationships
Catharsis
Communicative release- ridding ourselves of info that is causing tension or guilt in hopes that we will reeceive sympathy or help
When we shouldn’t disclose too much?
Withholding info to protect others , avoid a negative reaction, or avoid hurting others
Self disclosure privacy and gender
Privacy - claim to determine for themselves when, how, and to what extent info about themselves is communicated to others,
Gender and self concept
sex is defined in biological terms as the anatomical and physiological differences between M&F.
sex is defined in biological terms as the anatomical and physiological differences between M&F.
sex is defined in biological terms as the anatomical and physiological differences between M&F.
sex is defined in biological terms as the anatomical and physiological differences between M&F.
