Book 6 - Family Flashcards
When a child is born what is said
The father of a male welcomes them by whispering the
- Adhan Right ear (call to prayer) - the second line being Shahadah
- Iqamah Left ear- command to rise and worship (essentially the same as adhan, less repeats, “Prayer has started”
*These setup the child for a faithful life
What happens shortly after the baby’s birth, first ceremony
Tahneek - Parent rubs honey or crushed date on the baby’s gums or tongue
- symbolises sweet beginning, child to grow up kind
What happens 7 days after the birth
Aqeeqah
- Animal sacrifice, 1-girl, 2-boy, 1/3 eaten, 2/3 to friends, neighbours and poor (Gift from Allah)
- Shave the head - weight of hair is donated to poor (in gold or silver)
- Child named from Muhammad’s family or friends, or Allah’s 99 names with abd (servant)
What is celebrated when the childis 4 years, 4 months and 4 days
Bismillah
First time the Angel Jibril appears to Muhammad
Start of the child’s religious education, learns the first line of the Qur’an
Why is Marriage and arranged marriages?
- Physical, emotional spiritual wellbeing
- Companionship
- Life long commitment
- Celibacy not encourageged
- Marriage not forced (full consent)
Describe the Mahr
Dowry
- Something of value that is agreed upon
- Safe guard for the women who don’t work
- Given partly by bridegroom to wife on the day of marriage, rest paid in a divorce
Describe the Nikah
- Short marriage ceremony, usually in a mosque
- Wali (guardian) accompanies the bride or represents her
- Imam presides, reads Surah 4:1, Khutbah on marriage
- Consent - acceptance of vows and marriage
- Signing the contract - legal contract with 2 male witnesses
Describe the Walimah
- Party ( wedding feast)
- All have fun and celebrate as recommended by Muhammad
Teachings on men, women and family
- Man works and makes descisions,
- Woman brings up children
- Muhammad gave women rights, ownage of property and inheritence of wealth and property - only 1/2
- Man has financial responsiblity for his wife in divorce
Teaching on the Hijab
Screen or curtain
- Women modesty
- Al-hijab refers to the veil separates the world from God
Care of the Young
- Rights of children are protected and acknowledged
Care of the Elderly
- The old are repayed for the child’s life
- Treated kindly and with respect, responsibility to care for parents
Process of Divorce
- Looked down upon
Man requesting a divorce - iddah (waiting period for 3 menstrul cycles, 3 months, or until birth of child)
- time for reconciliation
- Repudiation (“I divorce you” 3x talaq by the man)
Woman requesting divorce - Must persuade a court she has a good reason for divorce, abuse, or crazy
- Boys up to 7 & girls up to 9 go to the mother
- older than that they decide which parent
- Male relatives financially responsible for her
Process of Death and Funeral
- Last words being “Allah” - shahada said
- Death is beginning of eternal life
After Death - Body faced towards Qiblah
- Washed 3x, husband washed by wife, wife washed by a women
- wrapped in a shroud (cotton sheets) or ihram (equal before Allah)
- carried to mosque or cemetary, mourned
Burial - ASAP after death, directly into earth, head facing Qiblah
Process after burial and mourning
- Visit by Munkar and Nadir question the dead preparing for the Day of Judgement
- Mourners pray the Al Fatihah, and Shahada
- To help the dead answer the questions of the 2 angels
Mourning - No excessive wailing or asking “Why?”
- Allah appoints death
- Mourning lasts for 40 days, Family prays and recits the Qur’an
- Palm leaf placed on grave (peace)
- Give food to the poor
