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ListeningWe listen to a number of sounds and conversations. Listening can be time consuming and at times can take a lot of effort.Stages/Components of listening process:Hearing: Attending: Understanding: Remembering:
We know that listening takes efforts. It’s makes listening an active process that we must choose to participate in.Not all our listening is exactly the same. Different types of listening exist.
is the process where selectively attend to and assign meaning to sound.
Listening
when you are registering the sound
Hearing:
when you are focusing on what you’re hearing
Attending:
when you are assigning meaning to what you’re hearing
Understanding:
when you are recalling and thinking about what you heard
Remembering:
- Informational listen:2. Empathic listening3. Critical listening/evaluative
3 Types of Listening
Listen to gain information of some sort: students sitting in business communication to learn new material
Informational listen:
You try to understand and/or solve a problem and/or help the speaker. (Also usually pay special attention to the emotional tone of the speaker)Ie: your speaking to a friend who has expressed their dilemma in making a decision
Empathic listening
Try to understand speakers point of view (angle)
Pay particular attention to detailIe: a salesperson is speaking to you about which cellphone plan to buy and your being cautious for any hidden fees
Critical listening/evaluative
ListeningWhen communicating with others we hope they are listening so our message can be delivered how we had hoped.Sometimes this does not happen and we not aware that the receiver is not listening. Many times they are guilty of poor listening.If we can be aware of the reason why people listen poorly we might be able to prevent
Ways to Improve ListeningListening is a skill. Much like any other skill you can practice and work to make yourself at it!Here are some tips to help improve listening skills:1. Be silent: let others speak and wait until they are done before responding2. Do not judge prematurely: draw conclusions after you heard and understood what is being said3. Look for key ideas4. Listen for emotions5. Ask questions6. Analyze all information
- Pseudolistening: pretending to be attentive2. Stage hogging: only interested in expressing their ideas3. Defensive listening: a response style in which the receiver a speakers comments as an attack4. Selective listening: listening only to what interest you5. Effort: it takes the same amount or more effort to listen then it does to talk6. Message overload: listening for 9-10 hours a day7. Distracting sounds and noise: cell phones, talking, etc8. Environment: bright lights, attractive person, unusually sights, or other stimuli
Reasons for Poor Listening1. Pseudolistening:2. Stage hogging:3. Defensive listening:4. Selective listening:5. Effort:6. Message overload:7. Distracting sounds and noise:8. Environment:
Perception is a way we take in information, give it order, and assign it meaningWe all have our own perception of ourselves, the world around us, and ultimately our reality.-have you ever heard the saying “perception is reality” -bob perceives his life to be happy one so bob’s reality is he has a happy life. Lets say Ellen hears the details of Bob’s life and perceives it to be sad, does that change Bob’s reality?
No one knows how people will perceive things until after their perception is formed. This makes it challenging to know how your attempt at communication will be perceived till it has already taken place.What people perceive is what becomes a reality to you. Each person has a perception about who they are. How do they form this perception of self?
We all have our own self-concept. Self-concept is the relatively stable set of perceptions each individual holds of themselves.Self-concept is developed by how we think others see us. Specifically it is developed by:1. reflected appraisal: when others give us appraisal (good or bad) for things we do or say.2. significant others: how the people most near us feel about us and their thoughts about who we are and what we stand for.3. roles we take on: it is when we try new things that we find out what we are or not capable of.You might notice that all the above involve communication.
Self-esteem: how you feel about yourself and your attributes.Self-fulfilling prophecy: a prediction or expectation of an event that makes the outcome more likely to occur than it would be otherwise. Ie: by simply expecting to fail an exam you increase the likelihood that you will.
Trust is the firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.Trust is an important element for communication. When we trust people we self-disclose information about ourselves and allow for a relationship to develop.Imagine having to speak with a person you do not trust….how willing are you to open communication with them?Don’t allow for bad communication because of mistrust! Look for bad behaviors and replace them with good ones….you will notice a change in how others communicate with you.
Benefits of trust for communication1. opens channels for communication2. Encourages awareness and understanding 3. helps to develop significant interpersonal communication