attraction and intimacy Flashcards
ostracism
exclude, ignore another
used to regulate social behavior
consequences
proximity
geographical nearness
functional distance
refers to how often you cross paths
allows interaction as the person is available
mere exposure effect
familiarity leads to fondness because are familiar with something
ex. preference for mirror image, song
true even if you aren’t aware of exposure
adaptive=predisposes us to attraction
Effect of attractiveness on dating
male vs. female
Hatfield study
looks matter
matching phenomenon
tendency to choose a partner who is a good match
intelligence, attractiveness
marriage vs. dating
compensating qualities
physical attractiveness stereotype
belief that attractive people possess socially desirable traits
towards children
Clifford and Hatfield study the rate of children attractiveness
similarity
birds of a feather flock together
attitudes, behaviors
likeness produces liking
dissimilarity breeds dislike
complementarity
opposites attract
belief that we complete what is missing in another
personality traits
self-esteem and attraction
Hatfield research
low self-esteem found male more attractive
ex. eager for approval
possible explanation for rebound relationships
effects of self esteem on relationships
Sternberg’s triangle theory of love
passion intimacy commitment love passionate love
two factor theory
in a romantic context arousal from any source can be steered into passion
equity
outcomes proportional to contributions
long term equity not "tit for tat" builds trust affects level of satisfaction better deal =guilt give more=irritation and depression
self disclosure
opening up to another
reveal personal information
disclosure reciprocity
self-disclosures match partners
