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Dialectical tensions are conflicts that arise when two opposing or incompatible forces exist simultaneously.
True
Which is NOT a dialectical tension covered in this module?
control-flexibility
Reframing the so that the contradiction disappears is which strategy for managing dialectical tensions?
Recalibration
Responding to one end and ignoring the other of a dialectical tension is which managing strategy?
Denial
Tommy and his mom deal with connection versus autonomy in their relationship. When they get into conflict Tommy’s mom feels overwhelmed and helpless. Her way of managing the dialectical tension is?
Disorientation
Greg and Judy have been dealing with predictability versus novelty in their relationship. They have decided to embrace novelty in how they spend time together, but will embrace predictability in how often they see each other. This is an example of which strategy for managing tensions?
Segmentation
Richard and Adam have are good friends, but Adam doesn’t tell Richard about his father’s drinking problem and abusiveness. It often causes Richard to have to cancel plans with Adam. The canceling creates issues within their friendship. Which dialectical tension are they dealing with?
openness versus closedness
Sam and Molly are a new couple. They are moving into the integrating stage in their relationship. They are trying to decide how to handle the upcoming holidays. Molly’s family would like Sam to attend all of their holiday functions, but Molly is a bit unsure. Sam and Molly are trying to decide what to do with the friendly pressure from Molly’s family. This is an example of which dialectical tension?
inclusion versus seclusion
Last week while mowing the lawn Hannah’s mother in law stopped by. When she got out of the car she made the statement, “Why are you mowing the lawn? Isn’t that my son’s job! He’s the man.” Hannah ignored the comment, but later told her husband. Her husband was annoyed by his mother’s remarks and said he was going to talk to her about it. This is an example of which dialectical tension?
conventionality versus uniqueness
Predictability versus novelty is a dialectical tension between the relationship dyad and the public.
False
Ashley and Cindy have recently become good friends. They met in college and went to different high schools. Ashley has started dating someone new she is really excited about. Cindy realized in their conversation that Ashley’s new love interest is someone she went to high school with. Cindy did not really care for this individual in high school. Cindy decides to keep this information to herself. Later, Ashley gets stood up by her new love interest. When she tells Cindy her disappointment Cindy says, “Guess they didn’t change.” Ashley begins questioning Cindy and they get into an argument about Cindy’s lack of transparency early on. This is which dialectical tension?
openness versus closedness
Frank lost his job. Him and Ryan did not share this with other people because Frank did not want anyone to know. When Ryan’s sister sees Frank on a weekday during normal business hours at the store she asks Frank why he is not at work. Frank tells her he lost his job. Ryan’s sister feels bad for asking and immediately calls Ryan to see if he knew and why he didn’t tell her. This is an example of which dialectical tension?
revelation versus concealment
When we accept the challenges of the tensions present in our relationship we are using reaffirmation as a managing strategy.
True
Connection versus autonomy, conventionality versus uniqueness, and openness versus closedness are all tensions within the relationship.
False
Felicia and Kurt ebb and flow in relationship. They both get bored really easy. So there are times in their relationship where they like a lot of predictability, but then when they get bored they will switch it up and have a lot of surprise and novelty, until one becomes uncomfortable and they go back to predictability. How are they managing their dialectical tension within the relationship?
Alternation
