6 Toxic Relationship Habits Flashcards
This isn’t about two halves becoming a whole.
It’s about two people with their own lives, dreams, and goals working together to magnify their human experience.
Magnify: to make sth larger than it is
There are dozens of toxic habits that are present in most relationships, but these six are more common than any others.
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If you find yourself constantly spending time with your partner and never having the freedom or space to enjoy your alone time, something needs to change.
Co dependence isn’t healthy in any of its forms and even in a marriage, both partners need to have their own lives and their own time.
Constantly: repeatedly, frequently
Codependence: relying too much on each other emotionally
If you have expectations for your partner that you aren’t clearly verbalizing you are stuck in a toxic pattern.
Your partner isn’t a mind reader.
They can’t always figure out what you want or why you want it.
Especially if the two of you have different personalities (e.g. introvert vs extrovert) it can be hard to know what the other person is thinking or what they need.
Be sure to clearly verbalize what you need from your partner so that if an expectation is unmet, you know it isn’t because of poor communication.
Verbalize: to express ideas, opinions. Or emotions in words
Introvert-extrovert
As hard as this is to admit, you aren’t responsible for your partner’s happiness.
You can’t take their emotional well being onto yourself.
Your partner needs to be able to handle and deal with their own emotions without constantly dragging you into them.
They need to be able to self soothe and come to solutions independently of you and you need to be able to do the same.
Well being: general health and happiness
Handle: deal with
Soothe(v) make sb feel calm or less worried
Keeping a relationship scorecard is a surefire way to end up at a nasty breakup.
Especially since the scorecard is never unbiased.
If your partner isn’t pulling their weight emotionally, financially, or with household responsibilities, have a conversation about it.
Don’t hold it over your partner’s head and try to guilt trip them every time you get into a fight.
Scorecard
Surefire: certain or likely
Unbiased: abletojudgefairlybecause you are notinfluencedbyyourownopinions:
unbiasedadvice
an unbiasedopinion
Guilt trip: astrongfeelingofguiltbecause of something you have donewrongorforgottento do:
I nevercallher and everytimeshecallsme I have aguilttrip.
In most cases, if you feel the need to make your partner jealous, there’s an underlying problem with the relationship that needs to be talked about.
Underlying : fundamental
If you have a problem… State it.
Don’t drop hints or act passively aggressively.
Again, your partner isn’t a mind reader.
State: say
Hint: indirect statement
If you go out and start flirting, dancing, or touching on other people to make them jealous this will probably make them think you no longer love them and simply exacerbate the issue.
Exacerbate: to make sth worse / deteriorate
