Week 6: Assertiveness Flashcards
What does assertiveness allow individuals to do?
- act in one’s best interest without infringing on or denying the rights of other people.
- conveys self-assurance and respect for other people
Do assertive people express feelings and emotions confidently, spontaneously, and honestly?
Yes
What can assertive individuals deal with compared to nonassertive individuals?
- can deal with criticism and manipulation by other people and learn to say no, set limits, and resist other people’s efforts to impose guilt.
What kind of statements do assertive individuals use?
“I” statements
ex: I will be able to get to that task, but only later today. Will that work for you?
What qualities do passive communicators exhibit?
- don’t complain
- stay silent
- submissive
- soft voice
- often without expressions
What qualities do assertive communicators exhibit?
- respectful
- open
- clear
- honest
- knows how to say “no”
- sets limits
- resists others from making them feel guilty
What qualities do aggressive communicators exhibit?
- strong opinions
- angry
- overbearing
- expresses self at expense of others
- using a lot of “you” statements
What qualities do passive-aggressive communicators exhibit?
- avoid conflict
- unexpected frustration
- talk “behind the back” after to others
- complains a lot
How does one acquire assertiveness?
Through practice; it is a learned skill
What specific style describes the “ability to communicate your preferences, ideas, and feelings in a manner that is clear and direct”?
Assertiveness
Allowing individuals to act in their own best interest without infringing on or denying the rights of others demonstrates which communication style?
Assertiveness
What are the characteristics of assertive communication (5)?
- openness (express feelings)
- confidence (question without fear; use firm tone and moderate pitch; positive view on our communication)
- self-awareness (able to deal with criticism and manipulation of others; learn to say “no”; set limits and resist guilt)
- respect for others (“I” statements; address issues related to only present conflict)
- independence (stand up and make own mind on decisions)
What are the principles of increasing assertive communication?
- observe and analyze the message of others
- analyze the situation in which you are (assertive, non-assertive, aggressive)
- describe the problem
- state how this problem affects you
- propose solutions that are workable
- confirm understanding
- reflect on your own assertiveness (where assertiveness is low and how that makes you feel)
What are some strategies for assertiveness?
- use “I” statements
- express your feelings
- project confidence
- active listening
- you can say “no” with an explanation
What does assertiveness allow you to do?
- allows you to treat others fairly while taking care of your own needs