Week 4 Flashcards
Define and emotional triangle
When there is chronic anxiety in someone’s life, they tend to have trouble in a 2 person relationship. To manage their inability to handle any anxiety, they tend to bring a third person into the issue at hand.
Triangles are the _________ ________ of an emotional system.
building blocks
Mature leaders must do what 4 things:
- See clearly the emotional systems around them
- Observe and recognize the triangles
- Remain a calm presence
- Make a thoughtful response, not an emotional reaction
What happened whenever Jesus found Himself in an unavoidable triangle?
He maintains contact with both parties and takes a stand with each based on His principles, Not the emotion of the situation.
When learning to respond in an emotional triangle, we must focus on …..what?
Our own personal transformation
When we are brought into an emotional triangle, the goal should be what 2 things?
- Stay emotionally connected to both parties
- Remain Emotionally Neutral
The most strategic role in the system is that of a _________ _________.
calm observer
Name 4 symptomatic behaviors:
- Conflict
- Distancing
- Over/under functioning
- Projection onto a Third Person
Conflict is always a _________, not the main issue.
symptom
When it comes to distancing, __________ relationships keep conflict to a minimum but does not make the _________ disappear.
superficial
anxiety
Describe over/under functioning
Someone who is not doing so well in the relationship (under functioning), so to compensate for this, another member of the system works hard to make up the difference (over functioning), sometimes complaining the whole time
