week 4 Flashcards
objectives of the arrangement conference (3)
- identify facts; who died, how, when, where, etc.
- acknowledge the loss; offer sympathy
- gather background info on family and deceased
- assess needs and concerns of the survivors (wants and needs)
- formulate an atmosphere of trust and confidence
- alleviate tension and anxiety
- share meaningful information
- one of the most important elements of the funeral process
- during this time, the family and director create a blueprint for the services
during the arrangement conference
details of blueprints of arrangement conference
- time, date and location of service
- musical selections
- family floral piece
- merch selection
- type of disposition
- automobile needs
- memory table/picture boards
- explanation of expenses
- options concerning financing
beginning the arrangement conference (4)
- ensure everyone is comfortable, offer beverages, tissues, etc
- summarize role in the funeral planning process
- emphasize importance of planning a personalized, meaningful funeral
- review goals goals for the arrangement conference
- learn about family and person that died
- help family understand the many opportunities they have to celebrate and mourn the life
why do we have funerals? (5)
- final disposition for the body of the deceased
- religious ritual
- social support
- celebration of life
- acceptable environment to express
6 logical steps of the funeral
- event of death
- notification of death
- confrontation of the reality of the event
- support of the community
- providing religious, spiritual, or philosophical support
- disposition of the physical remains with ceremony
funeral experience for families (4)
- funerals with meaning
- requesting funerals without clergy present
- want participation not just product
- should be multi-dimensional not one-dimensional
during arrangement conference we ;
- collect vital statistical information about the deceased
- garner info for death notice and/or obituary
- discuss method of disposition; burial or cremation
- plan the service for the deceased
- select appropriate merchandise
- discuss families financial obligations
family entitlements for veterans
- plot and burial allowance
- 2,000 for service connected deaths
- 255$ lump-sum death benefit from social security
important form numbers for veterans (4)
- ssa-721 ; statement of death by funeral director (2 years from date of death to file for benefit)
- 21-530 (21P-530) ; application for burial benefits (2 years from date of final disposition)
- 27-2008 ; flag application (prior to disposition)
- 40-1330; application for headstone and marker (unlimited time to file)
burial and plot interment allowance amount for non service connected deaths
- va is authorized to pay up to 300$ towards a veterans funeral and burial expenses and up to 700$ toward plot interment costs. Only for deaths whose occurred on or after September 30, 2011.
- Veterans net assets don’t affect the amount of burial allowance that the NOK can receive; however allowance will be reduced if the burial expenses are paid by veterans employer, state or another government source.
death in a VA facility, ie. hospital, contracted nursing home care, or nursing home that were being paid by the VA;
- the secretary of VA will pay the veterans burial and funeral costs; not to exceed 700$.
- some or all of the costs for transporting the veterans remains to the state for interrment will be reimbursed.
- VA doesn’t reimburse the cost for transportation of remains whose deaths occurred in other countries
Service connected deaths for VA
- may pay up to 2,000 dollars of the veterans funeral and burial expenses if veteran died as a result of a service connected disability
- if death occurred prior to September 10, 2001; va will pay up to 1,500$ of the funeral and burial expenses.
- if veterans is buried in National cemetery, some or all of the cost for transportation may be reimbursed
veterans benefits (7)
- burial flag
- government marker
- military funeral
- burial in a national cemetery
- presidential memorial certificate (pmc) 40-0247
- plot and burial allowance if applicable
- reimbursement for transportation charges*
how to properly display flag on caskets
- closed casket
- half couch casket
- full couch casket
- the stars go over veterans left shoulder
- 3 layers (10 inch folds) to cover the closed half of the casket
- fold flag into a triangle and place in the casket cap just above the left shoulder of the deceased
veteran funeral protocol (4) order of ceremony
- rifle squad volleys
- sounding of taps
- folding of fold
- presentation of the flag to the family
a recess of space in a columbarium used for the permanent placing of cremated remains
niche
reduction of bone fragments which remain after cremation to a uniform consistency
pulverization
casket made entirely of wood, containing no metal parts
aron
religious singer who assists the clergy; the rabbi in the jewish faith, or the priest in the Eastern Orthodox faith
cantor
Hebrew phrase meaning holy society; group of men or women from the synagogue who care for the dead; may be referred to by laymen as washers; in the past, took care of all funeral arrangements and preparation for jewish funerals.
chevrah kadisha
in the jewish faith; a memorial service; literally god full of compassion; usually the last prayer of the funeral service, sometimes referred to as the malei
El malei rachamin
in the jewish faith, a euology or true evaluation of the deceaseds life as a p art of the funeral service
hesped
monotheistic religion of the jewish people
judaism
in the jewish faith, prayer recited for the deceased by the direct mourners (parents, siblings, spouse and children) for the first time at the conclusion of the interment service; subsequently recited by children for parents at every service for eleven months and by other categories of mourners for 30 days
kaddish
the burial for the jewish faith
kevurah
Hebrew word meaning redoing or tearing; symbol of grief; tear in the upper corner of the garment or on the symbolic ribbon worn by survivors
kriah
funeral procession in jewish faith
levaya
a candelabrum with a central stem bearing seven candles; oldest symbol in judaism
menorah
a hexagram formed by the combination of two triangles; also called the jewish star; symbolizes a new hope both the jewish people
mogen David (Star of David)
teacher or ordained leader in the jewish faith
rabbi
jewish sabbath; begins at sundown on Friday and ends at sundown on saturday
shabbat
a seven day mourning period
shivah
30 day mourning period for jewish faith
sholoshim
a watcher; one who sits with the body until burial
shomer
hand sewn white linen in which deceased members of the jewish faith are dressed
tachrichim
orthodox jewish religious building
synagogue
ceremony of washing the deceased before the burial; serves as a ritual purification or cleansing of the body; should be performed by the chevra kaddisha
taharah
prayer shawl worn by men during the morning prayer service in the jewish faith
tallith
prayers said before the funeral by a group of friends and the shower; taken from the book of psalms
tehillim
religious building of the reform and conservative jewish faith
temple
book of law, instruction and learning
torah
anniversary of death in jewish faith
yahrzeit (Mahlzeit)
skullcap worn by the men at temple services and funeral services
yarmulke (kipper, yamaka)
memorial service recited four times a year
yizkor
