Unit Five

Question 1

Love

Answer 1

Bigger than you. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate the two

Unpredictable and irrefutable

Inherently free

Cannot be turned on for reward

Is not made with conditions

Question 2

Lust

Answer 2

Fake love

Interested in someone superficially

Question 3

Criticism and ridicule

Answer 3

One or both people put the other down

Question 4

Lack of communication

Answer 4

No open, loving, honest, communication

Question 5

Loss of emotional intimacy

Answer 5

Connection through sharing vulnerability

Question 6

Disengagement

Answer 6

Lose willingness to invest time, energy, emotion

Question 7

Passive aggressiveness

Answer 7

Manifests in nonverbal negativity. Manipulation

Question 8

Inability to forgive

Answer 8

Essential for health. Grudges; no intimacy

Question 9

Codependant behaviour

Answer 9

Dysfunctional; supports negative behaviour

Question 10

Substance abuse

Answer 10

Alcohol/ drugs. Impossible to be authentic

Question 11

Verbal abuse

Answer 11

Shame/ control, sarcasm, threats, blaming

Question 12

Physical abuse

Answer 12

Use of force/ violent behaviour. Solution is to leave

Question 13

Disagreement in moral value

Answer 13

Puts a wedge in couples

Question 14

Loss of respect

Answer 14

No longer supporting other’s values/ needs

Question 15

Little physical affection

Answer 15

Touch deficit; lifeless. Intimacy is necessary to

Question 16

Dishonesty/secretive

Answer 16

Don’t feel safe sharing w partner

Question 17

Jealousy/ insecurity

Answer 17

Lack of trust

Question 18

Sexually focused

Answer 18

Primarily sex; no foundation

Question 19

Narcissistic

Answer 19

Self centered. Constant attention

Question 20

Poor money skills

Answer 20

Causes resentment

Question 21

Competitive

Answer 21

Rivalry for supremacy

Question 22

Overly involved extended family

Answer 22

No boundaries

Question 23

Threats of leaving

Answer 23

Never feel safe or valued

Question 24

Trying to fix you

Answer 24

Change appearance or behaviour

Question 25

Identifying lust

Answer 25

Gut says beware Discomfort around them Attraction is dark Uncomfortable w how they’re treating you

Question 26

Love vs lust

Answer 26

Focused on body vs spend time together Sex vs conversation Fantasy vs real Doesnt motivate you va motivatws you

Question 27

Men and women

Answer 27

Created by God for companionship Physically different but spiritually the same

Question 28

Consent

Answer 28

Voluntary, mutual agreement to engage in sex.

Question 29

Consent is

Answer 29

Active - clear, cannot be implied Ongoing - consenting to all activities Voluntary, informed, conscious Mandatory - responsibility to gains

Question 30

Dignity

Answer 30

All people deserve to be treated with dignity,

Question 31

Sexuality

Answer 31

Created men and women as equals Created to be companions Confirm that we’re not alone Initially rooted in physical bodies Develop we prepare for marriage If god wills it then we’ll have it Respect body to respect soul