Unit 1 Test Flashcards
Reasons for parenting education
To increase knowledge and resources
To cope in a changing world
To build a strong society
To gain the rewards of parenting
To meet parenting responsibilities
Rewards and responsibilities
- A youthful perspective
Parents can forget about everyday concerns and relive the excitement of childhood.
Children remind parents of the simple pleasures in life.
- Rewards and responsibilities
Emotional fulfillment
The love of a child warms the heart
Will continue to please throughout life as long as the bond stays strong
Rewards and responsibilities
Family continuation
Raising children gives a sense that a family will last
Family traditions will be passed on
Rewards and responsibilities
Personal growth
Parents develop skills, strengths, and understanding
Parents can learn more about themselves
Rewards and responsibilities
Sense of pride
Parents feel proud of their children and of themselves for their efforts in raising them
Most parents would say that their happiest moments in life are seeing their children succeed
Rewards and responsibilities
Responsibilities for nurturing a child
Encourage growth and development
Every child is born with potential but their ability to fully realize this potential depends heavily on how they are raised.
Ensure the child is content and secure
Crucial for brain development
Rewards and responsibilities
Responsibilities for protecting a child
Infants and toddlers need constant supervision
The growing child sees life as an adventure and doesn’t always recognize dangers
Learning about safety and putting them into action is a parent’s obligation
Rewards and responsibilities
Responsibilities of teaching children
How well the child’s mind develops depends on the close attention given by parents
Making sure a child has opportunities to learn is critical to cognitive (brain) development
Skilled parents find many ways to teach children and make learning fun
Responsibilities for guiding children Rewards and responsibilities
Shapes behavior and attitude
With proper guidance, a child can become the type of person that others like to be around
Careers
Community Mental Health Counsellor
Child and Youth Worker
Psychologist
Teacher
Early Childhood Educator
Midwife
paediatrician
paediatric dentist
Parenting Skills
Confident
Resourceful
Sense of humor
Sensitivity
Team player
Decision maker
Good listener
Patient
Realistic
Factors to consider when deciding to become a parent
Psychological Maturity
Physical Maturity & Health
Condition of the Relationship
Lifestyle & Goal Considerations
Financial Considerations
The Decision making process
Idenitfy the exact decision to be made
List all the options
Weigh all the pros and cons
Consider values
Make a decision and take action
Evaluate the results and take responsibility for consequences
Changing role of parents (beginning, parenting, middle years, retirement years)
Beginning stage
ROLES: newly married couple acting as future parents
RESPONSIBILITIES: making decisions about their life and future
DEMANDS: decisions could affect future children
Parenting stage
ROLES: Lengthy stage of having children
RESPONSIBILITIES: raising children from infancy to adolescence help them grow
DEMANDS: making decision for the children
Middle years stage
ROLES: when children move out empty nester
RESPONSIBILITIES: hands off parent provide advice/support guidance
DEMANDS: to let go offer advice
Retirement years stage
Wisdom years
Guide/counsel adult children help with grand children
Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs
Four basic needs as deficiency needs require fulfillment by the environment for the person to avoid physical sickness.
Physiological or physical: biological requirements for water, oxygen, proteins, vitamins, proper body temperature, sleep, exercise
Safety and security: security protection, stability, structure, law and order and freedom from fear and chaos
Belongingness or acceptance: Affectionate relations with people and a sense of place in family and groups
Esteem: personal desires for adequacy, mastery, competence, and independence as well as desires for respect or esteem from other people such as attention, recognition, appreciation
Self Actualization: the “single” ultimate value through which every person’s inherent goal is to realize his or her inner potentialities.
D-NEEDS (Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs)
The first four basic needs - require furfilment by environment to avoid sickness
Without these four you would never even begin to think of the 5th
D Stands for DEFICIENCY NEEDS
G-NEEDS (Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs)
5 - self actualization is a g-need because it is a growth need, it is “growth-motivated” not “deficiency motivated”
G Stands for GROWTH NEED
Storge
It is a natural familial love. Parents naturally feel this love for their children
No prior association needed, it is automatic love that comes naturally. Like The two mammoths in the ice age when they had their baby mammoth and loved her.
Agape
Unconditional love that sees beyond the outer surface. This kind of love is all about sacrifice. It is the type of love that everyone strives to have towards their fellow human being.
it is the highest form of love, nothing prevents it regardless of conditions and you don’t expect anything in return. Jesus.
Eros
Eros is a passionate and intense love that arouses romantic feelings. It is an emotional and sexual love.
love that comes from connection both physically and eternally, romantic. The notebook/anyone but you.
Philia
Is an affectionate and warm brotherly love. It makes you desire friendship.
love that doesn’t need reminding, you know they are always there for you regardless. Show ‘Friends’.
Love (vs infatuation)
- Chemical High feeling May lesson but you will still have strong feelings for the person
- Love Is The Good The Bad and The Ugly
- loving through the reality of life
- deep love / actual love
- Love that goes beyond the surface and love that accepts all flaws and Imperfections
-letting each other be - having balance and Trust
- giving space
- true love understands
- real love comes with ups and downs
- there must be some sense of peace and comfortability, in the right way and for the right reasons
Infatuation
- Not real love
- not accepting
- a chemical High
- a fantasy or Illusion
- the perfect form or situation of everything
- surface level love
- not accepting your person’s insides and feeling/emotions
- Obsessive
- feeling lost
- prioritizing the wrong things
- for getting about what you really love/love to do
- addiction to feeling ‘love’ (honeymoon stage)
- falling hard and fast
Effects of Teen Pregnancy on Teen Parents:
- Medical Problems
- Poor eating habits, smoking, alcohol and drugs increase the risk of having a baby with health problems.
Teenage mothers who may not be fully developed could have difficulty carrying a baby to full term. - Financial Responsibilities
- The income of teen mothers is half that of those who first gave birth in their 20s.
There is a higher likelihood of “solo” parenting - where one parent is absent from the child’s life, which leads to further financial difficulties. - Education and Job Concerns
- Finishing high school is a challenge, but can be overcome with hardwork and dedication (and a strong support system).
Due to the challenges associated with receiving a higher education, this could lead to lower salary jobs. - Emotional Challenges
- Teenage pregnancy can invoke many negative emotions, such as isolation, anxiety, shock, and guilt.
Internal influences on teen pregnancy
Sexual feelings
Reluctance to talk
Desire for love and attention
External influences on teen pregnancy
Societal pressures
Pressure from partners
Pressure from peers
Options for Teen Parents (from a catholic perspective)
- Single Parenthood
Many young girls don’t have the choice if the father doesn’t want to be involved - Marriage
Rarely improves the situation
Usually feel isolated from friends - Adoption/open adoption
Teen parents get a fresh start
Adoptive parents are grateful to have a child to love and raise
Is difficult for the teen mother to forget as she matures
Sources of support for teen parents:
Parents/Family
Teachers and Guidance Counsellors
Health-Care Professionals
Religious organizations and local parishes
Social Service Organizations (Such as Rose of Sharon)
Erik Erikson
- His Theory: he said that there are 8 phases of psychological development from birth to elderly, everyone faces challenges at every stage and it is believed that this is what develops one’s personality
- When you successfully overcome these challenges, traits like optimism, will become at part of your personality, although these challenges can also affect your personality negatively
- He also looked at the elements of personality, these include: social/cultural identifications, ego identity, and personal identity
- Author of many books
Maria Montessori
- Her Theory: she emphasized on individualized instruction and self-paced learning
- She said that children learn best in an environment that has been prepared to enable them to do things for themselves
- She also believed that children are naturally curious and fully capable of learning by themselves (independently)
- She established the first montessori
Albert Bandura
- His main Theory: says that observation and modeling play a primary role in how and why people learn
- ‘Social learning theory’
- Bobo doll experiment (basically he split up a group of kids into three groups and put them all into different rooms, one room watched the doll get abused, one room watched the dolls be cared for and nurtured, and the other room didn’t watch anything. Next they were all put into the same room with a bunch of dolls, the first group all starting abusing the dolls like they saw in the video, and the second group all cared and nurtured the dolls like they saw in the video, and then lastly the third group starting caring for the doll and being kind to it because of natural human nature instinct)
- Conclusion: Most human behavior is learned observationally through modeling, from observing and watching others one will form a new idea of how new behaviors are preformed
Personal influences on parenting style
Personal:
Personality - being happy and optimistic
Feelings about children - beliefs about childhood, people who don’t like children
Parenting values - importance of good parenting
Parenting goals - conscious target that requires planning + effort
Outside influences on parenting style
Families + culture - cultures follow different values, rules, discipline
Economic conditions - Financial stability for safety
Social policies - laws exsist to ensure parents follow rules
Parental role - Once divided by gender
