Thinking, Feeling, and Behavior Flashcards
thinking and feeling
relationship cognition–><–relationship affect
bidirectional
reciprocal (cycle)
role of behavior
romantic beliefs scale: love finds a way
if another person and I love each other we can overcome any differences or problem that arise
romantic beliefs scale: love at first sight
younger vs. older adults
when I find my true love I will probably know it soon after we meet
romantic beliefs scale: one and only
there will only be one real love for me
romantic beliefs scale: idealization
men vs women
the relationship I will have with my true love will be nearly perfect
romantic beliefs influencing relationships
passion
fall in love earlier
psychological presence
satisfaction and commitment
dysfunctional beliefs influencing relationships
relationship satisfaction
-expectations likely unmet
behaviour
-most likely to reciprocate negative behavior
-less likely to respond positivity
affect
-insecure or negative feelings about relatioship
positive illusions: unrealistic positive self views
more positive traits then negative
recall personal successes more
take credit for the positive and not negative
view self as better than the average person
positive illusions: unrealistic optimistic about the future
good things will happen to me and for me
bad things will not happen to me
self serving bias
protect self esteem
overestimate contribution to relationship
relationship enhancement biases
see own relationship as superior
idealize their partners
view parter as more favorable than partner views themselves
minimize/downplay importance of partners faults
memory bias of more positive events
rewrite history to reflect positivity
not everyone idealizes
environmental or personal reasons
negativity bias
mood filter
-everything is bothering a person on a particular day
-anticipate negative behavior from partner
sentiment override
-overarching feelings serve as a filter for interpreting all of the partners actions and the relationship
cognitive distortions
inaccurate thoughts that reinforce negative thinking or emotions
cognitive distortions: mind reading
people assume what others are thinking without sufficient evidence
