The Science Of Seduction Flashcards
“Scientists unexpectedly found that sociosexuality, or the willingness to pursue short-term, no-strings-attached sex, was a powerful force in men’s attractiveness to women.
The sociosexuality emerged as a relative powerful predictor of men’s popularity to women, particularly because women largely expressed a long-term mating interest. A possible explanation is that that male sociosexuality indicates a history of successful mating experience or mating skills that are attractive to women…”
Women are less focused on looks than men
“A landmark study by David Buss in 1989 looked at 37 different cultures all over the world, and discovered in every one that while men are attracted to young and beautiful women, women seek men who have resources (money) or the ability to get resources.
In fact, women have difficulty agreeing on how good looking men are. In one study, men tended to agree in their ratings of women’s attractiveness, whereas female raters varied widely”
“Some men were rated as attractive, but other women looking at those same men judged them not to be attractive at all.
Women may have trouble rating men’s attractiveness in photos because they are looking for clues of traits like ambition, dominance, high status, and so on, which are hard to tell from photographs. These other factors are all factors that you can change.”
“3. Be ready to show your ambition.
A study by Townsend and Wasserman found that women judging the attractiveness of men in photographs rated the men more highly when they were described as ambitious. In the 1989 Buss study, women looked for resources or the ability to get resources, as evidenced by being ambitious and hard-working
“April lives on her own, but to a woman, a man living with his parents is a huge turn-off, because he fails to meet the ambition test. If you are living with your parents, but explain you are doing so in order to save up money to buy a home or to start a business, then you can pass the ambition test.
Be a man with a plan. In any encounter with a woman be prepared to detail your plans for the future and to portray yourself as an ambitious, driven man.”
“4. Who a woman finds attractive changes with her monthly cycle”
“When a woman is in the fertile phase of her cycle, the time of the month when having sex is likely to lead to pregnancy, she is attracted to masculine men. When a woman is not ovulating, she prefers kinder, more feminine men.”
“This fact has two important implications. First, there is no surefire formula that will get you any woman 100% of the time, simply because women are attracted to two opposite types of men depending upon where the women are in their monthly cycle.”
“Secondly, although women may marry the nice guy they are attracted to when they aren’t fertile, when women with nice guy husbands are fertile they are more likely to cheat and to get pregnant by a “bad boy,” the masculine macho man
But during the fertile phase of her cycle, she becomes like Mr. Hyde –more likely to have a one night stand, more likely to cheat on her husband, and more attracted to the Mr. Hydes of the world, the animalistic men with no impulse control.”
But this is 50/50 depending upon her monthly cycle
