“3. You Can Change Your Hormone Profile to Become an Alpha Male” Flashcards
Assume The Pose
Dr. Cuddy showed that by having subjects assume power poses for just two minutes prior to a stressful event, that their testosterone level increased by 20%, their cortisone level decreased by 25%, and their willingness to take risks increased”
“Risk-taking ability means that you are more likely to approach the attractive woman, more likely to ask for a raise, more likely to go for the better job, and so on.”
Use the nervousness and pressure to thrive in all situations
Overachievement, “Butterflies are a good thing.” Relaxation leaves you emotionally flat, so that you come across as limp and lifeless. The best athletes and clutch performers use their nervous energy to fuel their performance. The power poses serve this function, amping up your emotions and channeling them in a positive direction.”
“Do not to spend your time prior to
a big event hunched over your phone. This hunched posture lowers your testosterone and your performance.”
“. Practice Alpha Male Body Language”
“If adopting Alpha body language two minutes before a key event can boost your testosterone levels, decrease your cortisol levels, and improve your performance, then there is reason to think that adopting Alpha Male body language on a regular basis will constantly boost your testosterone levels and improve your charisma, presence, and perceived dominance.”
“Alpha body language can be characterized as open and expansive, while Beta body language is closed and contracted. Open body language means that you do not cover or cross yourself. Expansive body language consists of positioning that makes you seem larger. Any time you cross your legs or arms, you are closed, which is bad. Holding your drink in front of your body is a closed shielding gesture, which conveys insecurity. Instead, hold your drink at your side. Don’t cross your ankles when you sit or stand. Keep your hands out of your pockets –put them on your hips. Don’t touch your face or neck, because these are closed, covering gestures.
When sitting, spread your knees. Don’t cross your ankles or arms. Spread out, draping your arm over a nearby chair or the back of the sofa.”
You must begin to monitor your body language
“Practice the Gunslinger Walk, by Sebastian Drake. Here are the essentials of the Gunslinger Walk:
Horizonview: Staring beyond the crowd and expecting it to part.
Thrown back shoulders: The essence of good body language.
Roll in the heels: An exaggerated roll of the heels at the end of each step.
Roll in the hips: An exaggerated push from the hips with each lift of the leg.
Slow movement: Moving extremely slowly through crowds.
Knowing smile: The disarming, self-assured smile finishes the look.”
“Notes for Alpha Body Language
“Be as Big as You Can Be Comfortably.”
Take up space.
Square up your shoulders.
Stand tall.
Stand with your feet apart.
Don’t cross your arms, legs, or feet.
If there are armrests, put your arms on them. (Prevents crossing of arms, hands)
If you have a prop like a whiteboard or a chair, put your hand on it. Anything that makes you
stretch out.
When you walk, swagger, swaying your shoulders and swinging your hands.
Think “gunslinger.”
When you sit, spread your knees/legs. Stretch out.
Slow down. Speak more slowly. Move more slowly. Quick movements betray nervousness and a lack of confidence.”
“5. Being muscular, arrogant, and confrontational works for one night stands
“Seduction expert David DeAngelo is well-known for recommending that men use a “cocky and funny” strategy. Roissy refers to “asshole game.” In an interview, actor and screenwriter Billy Bob Thornton explained that just a bit of arrogance is a key element in seduction.”
“Being confrontational is a sign of dominance, which is a key trait that women find attractive”
- Speak deeply
“Women are attracted to mid range and deep, masculine voices. Ovulating women are even more attracted to deep
“7. Change up your speech. Switch from fast and excited to slow, deep, and intimate.
One study found that successful seducers “modulate” their voices, meaning that they changed or varied the pitch of their voices. In the opening stages of meeting a woman a higher pitched voice was used, and seducers spoke rapidly, which conveyed excitement”
“. In the later stages of the encounter, successful seducers used a deeper voice and spoke more slowly, which created a feeling of closeness.”
- Wear red.
“Research shows that men who wear red are more attractive to women. Women were shown photos of the same man, but dressed in red or other colors. The women judged the same man, but wearing red, to be more attractive”
“9. Wear stubble.
When polled, 54% of women prefer a man with facial hair. Two thirds of those women prefer a man with overall stubble. 19% of those preferred a mustache, 12% preferred a beard, and only 6% preferred a goatee. Pickup artist Paul Janka swears by stubble as a woman-attracting grooming style. Recent research shows that 10 days’ growth of stubble is rated by women as most attractive”
“One third of all women polled preferred a clean-shaved man. Several commented that a man with no facial hair looked young. If you are younger, keep in mind that a smooth face may make you look too young.”
“10. Don’t remove your chest or back hair.”
“Only 27% of women polled preferred a man with no body hair. 51% like a man with hair on his chest and back. 40% of women found a man with no body hair to be “too feminine”
“11. Wear your scar proudly”
“The point here is not to go out and to get a scar, but to realize that women are attracted to rough, masculine men. Stubble, scars, and chest hair are not flaws, but assets in attraction”
“12. Buy a nice car.”
“Financially, this may not always be an option, but research shows that women are more attracted to men who make flashy luxury purchases, such as a red Porsche, especially for women seeking short-term sexual relationships.”
“13. Show your creativity”
“Creative types, like musicians and artists, have more sexual partners. Research shows that ovulating women are more attracted to creative men than wealthy men”
- Swagger.
“Men who walk with either a mild or extreme swagger are judged to be more attractive by women. Swagger can be defined as little movement in the hips and greater movement in the shoulders. In order to get this down, study Daniel Craig of James Bond fame and Mel Gibson, and imitate the way they walk”
- Don’t smile
“The study found that women were least attracted to smiling, happy men, preferring those who looked proud and powerful or moody and ashamed.”
OK Cupid reports that in pictures for online dating profiles, “Men’s photos are most effective when they look away from the camera and don’t smile: ”
- Walk tall
“One theory is that women like taller men because taller men tend to earn more money and are more socially dominant”
“If you learn to project strength and confidence, you may be able to look taller.”
