Test 3 Flashcards
Who is Kim Phuc and how is her story related to forgiveness?
- She was severely burned during an attack in the Vietnam War
- Had 17 operations to treat her burns on 65% of her body
- In 1996 she met on the pilots that participatd in the bombing of her hometown and forgave him stating “ forgiveness is stronger than any weapon in the world”
What 5 things did we say that forgivness is in class?
- Giving up or cease to harbor resentmet for a wrong another has committed against oneself
- Reducing negative feelings, thoughts, and behaviors towards the person
- Increasing positive feelings, thoughts, and behaviors towards the person
- A process that takes time and work
- A paradox in that we come out of it feeling enriched and not diminished
What 5 things did we say that forgiveness is not in class?
- Pardoning what someone else has done
- Condoning (justifying) what someone has done
- Excusing what someone has done
- Forgetting what somene has done
- Denying the harmof what someone has done
What are the 6 reasons people give for forgiving?
- To quiet your angry feelings and feel more peaceful
- To reduce the harmful effects of anger and hostility of health
- To free move on from the past
- To develop better relationships with others
- To improve your relationship with the one who hurt you
- To motivate the other person to change
What are the 4 phases of forgiveness?
- Uncovering your anger
- Deciding to forgive
- Working on forgiveness
- Discovery and release from negative emotions
What are the 5 questions for determining when positive thinking is beneficial?
- Does the person telling us about it have something to gain from getting us to believe them or do it?
- Is it presented as a panacea, cure-all, or solution for all of our problems?
- Is it just a wish or does it also include action?
- Is it just a way of denying reality or avoiding doing something that is hard?
- Can we use science to determine that it works and why it works?
What was the definition of humility given in class?
- The ability to see yourself accurately with all of your strengths and weaknesses
What are 4 negative associations with humility?
- Being weak
- Being passive
- Lacking self-respect
- Lacking self-confidence
How did we define narcissism in class?
- The tendency to overestimate one’s abilities of importance
What are the ways that self-control is like using a muscle?
- Self-control requires both psychological and physical exertion
- The capacity for self-control becomes depleted after it is used
- Self-control can grow stronger through regular exercise
What were the findings of Walter Mischel’s marshmallow regarding the “grabbers” and the “waiters”?
- The “grabbers”
- had low self-esteem
- were viewed by others as stubborn
- were prone to envy
- were easily frustrated
- The “waiters”
- better copers
- more socially competent, self-assertive, trustworthy, dependable
- more academically successful- with SATs 210 points higher
What were the findings of Rodin and Langer’s experiment regarding those who were and were not assigned to care for plants?
- The low control group (given a houseplant but told the nurse would care for it)
- worsened in physical health
- more in this group died (30%, 13 of 44)
- The high control group (those given the houseplant and told to care for it)
- more active, vigorous, and sociable
- improved in physical health
- (15%, 7 of 47)
What was the definition of self-efficacy that we focused on in class?
- The belief that you can do what it takes to reach an important and specific goal
What are the 4 ways that self-efficacy may make a difference?
- It may make you more likely to approach difficult tasks
- It may make you set more challenging goals
- It may enable you to sustain your efforts
- It may reduce the stress and emotional distress
What are the 2 ways that self-efficacy may improve health?
- Increasing good health behaviors
- Decreasing the stress response
What are Bandura’s 5 sources of self-efficacy?
- Performance experiences
- Vicarious experiences
- Verbal persuasion
- Imaginal experiences
- Physiological and emotional states