Sex and Relationships Flashcards

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List some examples that St Paul says about love in his letter to the Corinthians:

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Even if you can speak all languages of all beings, without love, your speech is no more than a noisy bell.

Even if you have all the knowledge, secrets, and faith needed to move mountains, without love, you are nothing.

Even if you let your body be burnt, without love, this is no good for you.

Love is patient and kind, not jealous, boastful or proud.

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Overall, as a summary, what does Paul want us to understand about the Christian aspect of love?

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Paul reminds us that all our spiritual gifts are nothing unless they have love, which is the greatest gift of all. These gifts are from God himself, and not for personal gain, but for the benefit of others.

Paul lists many characteristics of authentic/genuine love including: patience, kindness, humility and hopefulness. These attributes are lacking in the quarrelsome community at Corinth, and in the current world we live in. Paul writes that all things in life pass away, but faith, hope and love are enduring – none more so than love.

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What is the Christian view of marriage?

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St Paul suggests that love should be the reason you marry, and the basis of everything you do in marriage.

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What is an arranged marriage?

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An arranged marriage is one in which the parents choose who
their son or daughter will marry.

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Why is arranged marriage not forced marriage?

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The son or daughter makes the ultimate decision as they are free to reject as many potential marriage partners as they wish.

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What percentage of marriages are for love and vice versa for arranged marriages?

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47% love
53% arranged

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What is the Islamic view of marriage?

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Muslim weddings are frequently arranged by the parents (depending on the culture, e.g. European, Turkish, African etc.)

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Why are many young Muslims not encouraged to mix freely with the opposite sex?

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This is to protect them from ‘falling in love’ and the associated
unsuitable relationships, heartache, clouded judgment etc.

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What does it say in the Qur’an about marriage, and what does this suggest?

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‘God created for you mates that you might find tranquillity in them.’

This suggests that God pre-plans your partner (so when you mess up you will find forgiveness and love from your partner).

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What is the Hindu view on marriage?

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Most Hindu marriages are arranged
(sometimes when the child is very young), and believe that ‘the couple should grow together and share their joys and sorrows.’

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What happens during a Hindu wedding that represents promises that a couple make together?

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The bride and groom take 7 steps around a holy fire as each step
represents a promise that the couple make to each other (after the seventh step they legally become husband and wife):

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What are the 7 promises of Hindu marriage?

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  1. To be nourished (fed well)
  2. To grow stronger together
  3. To preserve their wealth
  4. To share joys and sorrows
  5. To take care of children and
    parents.
  6. To be together forever
  7. To remain lifelong friends
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Why do Hindu couples take 7 steps around the holy fire?

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Of numbers 1-9, 7 is the only number that 360 cannot be
divided into exactly, so it
represents that the couple will
never be divided.

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What is the Sikh view on marriage?

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Most Sikh marriages are arranged, and the couple is believed to ‘have one soul in two bodies.’

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What is the Buddhist view on marriage?

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Buddhists see marriage as a choice, so there is no religious element to
the marriage ceremony and no formal teachings on marriage. A marriage is generally seen as successful if the person finds a suitable and understanding spouse.

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What is the Jewish view on marriage?

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Many Jewish weddings are arranged. Sometimes parents use an official matchmaker who they believe works on God’s behalf to find their son or daughter a husband or wife.

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What does it say in Genesis that may affect the way a Jewish person may find a spouse?

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‘A man should leave his parents and be united with his wife so that they become one flesh’. Jewish people believe this means that your husband/wife should come first before anyone apart from God.

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What is polygamy?

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Polygamy is when someone (usually a man) has more than one wife (or husband) at the same time. It is illegal in the UK.

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What is a forced marriage?

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Where one or both people do not consent to the marriage, or cannot consent to the marriage (i.e.: those with learning disabilities or under-age), and duress is used to enforce the marriage onto the person/couple.

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What is duress?

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Psychological, sexual, financial, physical and/or emotional pressure.

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What does the Qur’an say about forced marriage?

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Marry the one you wish to; forced marriage is not accepted under Sha’ria/Islamic Law.

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What can you do to make sure that someone isn’t or won’t force you into a marriage?

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  • Make sure to confirm that the reason that your parents tell you is true.
  • Don’t let others influence you.
  • Make sure to not self-harm yourself.
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How many cases of forced marriage are there officially and unofficially in the UK?

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Official - 400
Unofficial/Unreported - Thousands

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What things should people look out in others for as signs of “forced marriage”?

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A drop in grades, weight loss, self-harm, unexpected absences

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Where can people go to get help for issues related to forced marriage?

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Make the school aware, contact other agencies, and don’t talk to the parents.

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How can the Muslim Arbitration Tribunal help with forced marriage issues?

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Mentoring and Advice Systems are available, the family can experience community pressure, and education services are also available.

27
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What are the types of families?

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Nuclear (normal), Co-Parenting, Unmarried, Foster, Single-Parent, Same-Sex, Step/Blended/Reconstituted, Extended

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What is adoption?

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Adoption is the process where a child who cannot be brought up with their biological family becomes a full, permanent and legal member of a new family.

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Why does adoption happen?

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This is so that children, who for many different reasons can’t be looked after by their biological parents, can find a new family.

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Where have adopted children usually been before the children’s services decide that the best option for them is to be adopted?

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Living in care or foster care

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Who can adopt?

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People from all backgrounds can adopt, it doesn’t matter if they are single or married, gay, straight or lesbian, disabled, male or female, or have children already or not.

They must be over the age of 21, be a non-smoker and have a spare bedroom. The most important thing is that the child is welcomed into a loving family that will care for them

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What is foster care?

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Foster care is when a child goes to live with another family for a while because their family can’t and are not able to look after them.

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What does foster care provide a child with?

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Fostering provides the child with a safe and caring family which is usually in a fairly close location to their home. Sometimes they stay there for just a weekend, other times they can stay for years

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Are foster carers trained and assessed before being approved to look after a child/children?

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Foster carers in the UK are trained and assessed before being approved to look after
children.

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What is the care system?

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When the council or local authority decides children should be away from their parents for a while, it’s known as living in care.

Most children in care are fostered, which means they live with another family for a while.

Others live in children’s homes, but staff look after the children instead of parents.

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Why do children live in care?

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Children are put into care for lots of different reasons. Sometimes it’s because their parents can’t look after them properly or it’s unsafe at home and it’s decided that children should live somewhere else. Some reasons for a child being taken into care include abuse, neglect, family breakdown or a parent or child’s illness or disability. It can also happen if a child’s parent has to go into hospital or dies. In most cases, children are only meant to live in care as a temporary measure although for some staying in care is the best option.

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What is the Christian view on adoption?

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It runs through the entire Bible and is at the heart of Christianity. We believe that the foundation of adoption is not actually in humans adopting humans, but in God adopting humans.

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What does the word ‘domestic’ mean?

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to do with the home, house or family

39
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What is meant by abuse?

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A cruel and violent treatment of a person.

40
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What are the six types of domestic abuse?

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Physical, Emotional, Psychological, Financial, Sexual and Online/Cyber

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What does FGM stand for?

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Female Genital Mutilation

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What is FGM?

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Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is the act of cutting some or all of a female person’s external genitals, for reasons which are not medical. It is also sometimes referred to as female circumcision.

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What are the types of FGMs:

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Clitoridectomy
Excision
Infibulation

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What is Clitoridectomy?

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Clitoridectomy is where part or all of the clitoris is removed.

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What is Excision?

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Excision is where part or all of the female person’s clitoris and the lips surrounding the vagina are removed. The outer lips may or may not be removed.

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What is Infibulation?

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Infibulation is the most severe type of FGM. This is where the female person’s outer lips and clitoris are removed, and her genitals are stitched up so that she cannot have
sex, or cannot get any pleasure from having sex. A small opening is left, so that the girl can still go to the toilet and have her period. If a woman who has undergone this
kind of FGM gets pregnant, her genitals then have to be unstitched to allow her to give birth. Her genitals are then sewn back up again after she has given birth.

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Who does FGM affect?

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FGM happens to girls, at any age, but usually when they are below the age of 15. It may be carried out when a girl is a baby, or in her childhood, adolescence, or even before she gets married or pregnant.

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What is the estimated number of women and girls who have undergone FGM?

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200M

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Who performs FGM?

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FGM is often performed by people who do not have medical training, using a razor blade, without any painkillers or anaesthetic.

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Where does FGM happen?

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FGM happens in 29 countries, mainly in Africa, the Middle East and some parts of Asia. The most severe kind of FGM, called infibulation, is mostly done in North-Eastern
African countries like Djibouti, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Somalia, and Sudan. However, because of migration, there are also people affected by FGM living in Europe, Australia, North America, and other countries worldwide.

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What happens in the UK when it comes to FGM?

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It is illegal for anyone to carry out FGM in the UK. No arrests have been made for FGM in the UK. However, just because nobody has been arrested doesn’t mean it isn’t going on. There are an estimated 130,000 women and girls who are affected by FGM in the UK, and in 2014, hospitals across England reported an average of 18 new cases of FGM per day.

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Why does FGM happen?

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FGM is mainly carried out for cultural reasons. It is considered to be a tradition which promotes modesty and what is considered to be ‘appropriate’ sexual behaviour in women. It is supposed to put women off having sex so that they don’t have sex before marriage
and only have sex with one person (their husband). It is sometimes also considered to be a sign of religious faith or a symbol of passing into adulthood. FGM is often carried out by women on younger girls

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Why do the relatives of a girl undergoing FGM usually describe it?

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The girls’ relatives or elders may try to describe the procedure as normal and symbolizing a ‘coming of age’.

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What are some of the impacts of FGM?

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It can lead to all sorts of debilitating, life-long health problems, constant pain, bleeding infections and even death. Women who are the victims of FGM are far more likely to die giving birth.

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What is consent?

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A permission or agreement which has been informed or voluntary by a person who is free and able to make a choice that can be withdrawn.

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What is coercion?

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A forceful persuasion to do something that they don’t want to do with the use of physical, negatively impactful or psychological pressure to get the point through.

57
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What does LGBTQ stand for?

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Lesbian, Gay Bisexual, Trans, Queer/Questioning

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Give some types of discrimination:

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Physical Abuse, Verbal Abuse, Offensive Comments, Online Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Separation, Ignorance, Isolation, Psychological Abuse, Imprisonment Death Penalty

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What is someone’s biological gender?

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The scientific gender at and since birth.

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What is someone’s gender identity?

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How someone is identified and/or expressed as.

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List 3 Bible teachings about LGBTQ:

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  • “That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other.”
  • “You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.”
  • “If a man lies with a man as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.”