Relationships (Anki) Flashcards
Signs someone is good for you
- inspire you to see the world in more positive light
- bring out childish self, feel playful around them
- ‘how can we fix this’ type of person
- listen, curious to find out more about you
- your life feels more peaceful
- make you feel easy to love
- don’t take ourselves too seriously around each other
Marry your best friend
Find strongest, happiest friendship in person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you, who you can laugh with. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Be with someone who lets you cry too. Despair will come. Find someone you want to there with you through those times. Marry the one that makes passion, love and madness combine and course through. A love that will never dilute, even the waters get deep, and dark.
- N’tima
15 Deep Convo Ideas
- What is something you are learning about yourself this week?
- What is something that has surprised you about us lately?
- What is one thing you would like for us to start experiencing together?
- What is your earliest memory?
- What is one thing you want or need from me this week?
- Who in your life do you most trust right now and why?
- What is one thing that makes you feel really cared for?
- What is the biggest challenge you are facing right now with….(work, parenting, being a spouse, in your health)
- What is one goal we can work on bringing about together?
- What person in your life are you learning the most from right now?
- What family member do you most admire right now and why?
- What are you most excited about in life right now? And why?
- Describe what your ideas of an ideal day in our life looks like in this current season?
- What is one thing we feel we are doing really well right now as a couple?
Why you?
Life was more vivid, and there was texture in.
Make sense of the world and bask in its joy. Someone to share in that joy with and magnify it.
Two promises
Everything that can happen will, most things will be good but not all.
I will not take our love for granted. Love and relationships tarnish and fade if you do not take care of them.
Build secure relationship
- Keep promises, if you can’t explain why you couldn’t
- Be transparent
- Learn to say “no” when you when you need, so your “yes” is authentic
- Validate their feelings
Alphabet date idea
E.g. F
French Breakfast followed by the Farmer’s Market + building our first Flower Garden
Communicate your needs, don’t just think them
3 first date questions - emotional availability
When did your last relationship end and what did it teach you?
Weekly check ins?
How do you think this week went? Could we both have done things differently?
What is the best thing that happened last week?
Do you want more time for your self next week or do you want to spend more time together?
Is there something you want to get off your chest, anything that bothers you?
After my last relationship ended I made a pact with myself
I would never even entertain the idea of dating somebody who was not kind and gentle and funny and who found me funny for real not just because they liked me who treated me as a person first and a girlfriend second who didn’t see a relationship as a chore or a job but as an honour and a joy
Relationship Priorities
- You
- Relationship
Questions to ask Mum
What’s your happiest memory of us
What was the first year of motherhood like for you
Is there anything about our families history you’ve kept a secret
What’s the nicest thing I’ve ever done for you
What do you want or wish most for your kids
What have been the best and worst parts about getting older
Whats one thing you always want me to remember
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