Relationships 🤔 Flashcards
Paper 3
what are the three main factors of attraction?
- physical attraction (MH)
- self disclosure
- filter theory
how is physical attraction importance assessed?
- using the matching hypothesis
who made the matching hypothesis?
- Murstein (1972)
what did Murstein initially argue?
- we may desire the most physical attractive partner in theory, but we may know we are unlikely to get or keep them
what does the MH propose?
- we look for someone of a similar level of attractiveness as ourselves
why is compromise necessary when looking for physically attractive partners (MH)?
- due to fear of rejection
- need to achieve balance between partners
what did Brown argue in reference to the MH?
- MH phenomenon results from a learned sense of what’s ‘fitting’ rather than fear
- we learn to adjust our expectations of rewards in line with what we believe we have on offer
what was Walster et al’s (1966) study called, exploring the MH?
- computer dance study
what did Walster et al’s computer dance study involve?
- 376 female students and 376 male students volunteered to participate in a computer dance
- when they signed up, 4 independent judges assessed each persons physical attractiveness
- participants were led to believe that a questionnaire (previously filled out) would be used in the computer pairing, but it was random instead
- dance was held 2 days later, before which they were given their dates names
what were the findings of Walster et al’ computer dance study?
- during the dance, they were asked to complete a questionnaire about their dates
- more physically attractive students were liked more by their partners than the less attractive ones
- 6 months later, they asked the students whether they had dated their partner since, found that the more similar in attractiveness partners were more likely to have dated
how can Walster et al’s computer dance study be used to evaluate the MH?
- ironically, failed to confirm the MH
- may be because measurement of attractiveness was unreliable (raters only had a few seconds to judge attractiveness)
- follow up questions (6 months later) did support the MH
how did Walster and Walster’s study support the MH?
- did a repeat of the original computer dance but this time students had met beforehand
- meant they had more time to think about the qualities they were looking for in a partner
- students expressed most liking for those who were on the same level of physical attractiveness as themselves
what is complex matching?
- extension of the MH
- suggests couples can achieve a match in ways other than physical attraction
- the tendency to compensate for a lack of physical attractiveness with other desirable qualities (ie. status, personality, kindness, etc)
what is self-disclosure?
- voluntary sharing/ revealing of personal information bout the self to another person
what are the two main types of self-disclosure?
- superficial (breadth, low risk)
- intimate (depth, high risk)
what is self-disclosure important?
- greater disclosure means greater feelings of intimacy and increased likelihood of relationship stability
what did Sprecher suggest about self-disclosure?
- the amount of overall disclosure in a relationship was predictive of whether the couple stayed together for 4+ years
what are the norms of self-disclosure?
- only engage in a moderately personal level of self-disclosure in the early stages of a relationship
- Derlega and Grzelak
- Miller and Collins
what did Derlega and Grzelak suggest about self-disclosure?
- there should be neither too much personal information that that discloser appears to be indiscriminate for disclosing it to a relative stranger nor too little so the listener feel they are unable to know them better
what did Miller and Collins suggest about self-disclosure?
- found research support for its importance
- those who disclose more are liked better and the relationship is stronger if the recipient believed the disclosure was shared only to them
what is some evaluation for self-disclosure that compares face-to-face to online?
- Khop et al fund more disclosure face to face, due to the lack of intimacy of the internet in context for personal self disclosure
- discloser appreciates non-verbal cues which are absent online
- individuals don’t seize opportunity to reveal personal information online as much as expected
- however, anonymity online allows for people to disclose more occasionally
what is some evaluation regarding the role of gender and culture for self-disclosure?
- varies on topics that are considered appropriate to have conversations about (culture bias and awareness)
- Western cultures often disclose more than places like China and Japan (Chen, 1995)
- cultural norms shape how comfortable men/ women are in disclosing
- Nakanishi found Japanese women prefer lower levels of self disclosure and personal conversations than Japanese men (opposite to patterns typically found in the West)
who studied reciprocal self-disclosure and liking?
- Sprecher et al (2013)
what was Sprecher et al’s study on ‘reciprocal self-disclosure and linking’ procedure?
- pairs of unacquainted students were asked to participate in a self disclosure task over Skype
- there were two conditions: reciprocal condition (pair immediately took turns asing questions and disclosing) and non reciprocal condition (one person asked questions, the other answered and then rolls were switched)
what were the finding of Sprecher et al’s study on ‘reciprocal self-disclosure and linking’?
- individuals in the reciprocal condition reported more liking, closeness, perceived similarity and enjoyment of the interaction than those in the non reciprocal condition
- this difference remained after they switch roles in the non reciprocal condition
- this showed that turn taking self disclosure reciprocity is more likely to lead to positive interpersonal outcomes than is extended reciprocity
what are strengths of self-disclosure as a factor in attraction?
- evidence supports the role of self disclosure as an explanation (ie. correlations between levels of self disclosure and satisfaction with the relationship
- compatibility with filter theory as it enables the assessment of similarity of attitudes and complementarity of needs
what are limitations of self-disclosure as a factor in attraction?
- contrast with importance other factors (ie. physical attractiveness, equity and social exchange)
- cultural limitations (research is often culture specific), may be less appropriate for romantic relationships in cultures where partners are not allowed free choice
what is the filter theory as a factor in attraction?
- relationships develop through filters (3)
-‘field of availables’ and ‘field of desirables’
what is the ‘field of availables’ in the filter theory?
- possible people with whom we could have a relationship
what is the ‘field of desirables’ in the filter theory?
- those who we could consider potential partners
what are the 3 filters in the filter theory?
1- social demography
2- similarity in attitudes and values
3- complementary of needs
what is social demography in the filter theory?
- refers to variables like age, geographical location, ethnicity and background
- exerts its influence without us being too aware of it
what does similarity in attitudes and values involve in the filter theory?
- if a couple shares ideas and beliefs, communication will be easier and the relationship will progress
- Kerckhoff and Davis found this was of central importance in the early stages of a relationship and was the best predictor of relationship stability
what does complementarity of needs involve in the filter theory?
- once a couple is in a fairly long term relationship, emotional complementarity becomes important
- people are attracted to those whose needs are harmonious with their own rather than conflicting
what was the key study when looking at the filter theory by?
- Kerckhoff and Davis
what was Kerckhoff and Davis study’s procedure?
- tested the filter theory using a longitudinal study of 94 student couples
- each couple completed several questionnaires over a 7 month period
- these assessed the degree to which they shared attitudes and values, the degree of need complementarity and how close they felt to their partner
what were the findings of Kerckhoff and Davis’ study?
- divided into long term (dated more than 18 months) and short term couples (dated less than 18 months)
- short term couples, similarity of attitudes and values was the most significant predictor of how close they felt to their partner
- long term couples, psychological compatibility and the ability to meet each others needs was predictive of how close they felt to their partner
- supported claims of how close they felt to their partner
how did Kerckhoff and Davis’ study provide support for the filter theory?
- long versus short term couple division shows support
- supports degree of the filters importance and order of filters
what limitations did Kerckhoff and Davis’ study have when researching the filter theory?
- lacks temporal validity (1962)
- only students (lack of population validity and generalisation)
- self report data (lacks validity as may not be entirely accurate or honest)
- failure to replicate (Levinger et al)
what was Levinger et al’s study (filter theory)?
- studied 330 couples using procedures similar to Kerckhoff and Davis’ study
- found no evidence that either similarity of attitudes and values or complementarity of needs influenced progress towards permanence in relationships
- found no relationship between length of couples relationships and influence of different variables
- failed to replicate findings of K and D’s study
how can the rise of online dating be used to evaluate the filter theory?
- reduced importance of some social demographic variables
- easier to meet potential partners
- suggests filter theory is out of date
- lacks temporal validity
- questions the relevance of some of the factors in modern day
what do the theories of romantic relationships suggest?
- why couples decide to maintain or end a relationship
what are the three economic theories of romantic relationships?
- social exchange theory
- equity theory
- Rusbult’s investment model
what do economic theories of romantic relationships assume?
- individuals continually assess their relationships in terms of costs and benefits
who proposed the social exchange theory?
- Thibault and Kelley (1959)
what does the social exchange theory suggest overall?
- likelihood of a person staying in a relationship is determined by an assessment of what they get out of the relationship compared to what they put in
- and how the relationship measures up against what they expect and what they might achieve in a different relationship
what does the social exchange theory assume?
- all social behaviour is a series of exchanges
- individuals attempt to maximise the rewards and minimise costs to earn a ‘profit’ from the relationship
- stresses commitment to the relationship is dependent on the profitability of the outcome (rewards minus costs)
what are some examples of rewards in a relationship according to the social exchange theory?
- companionship
- being cared for
- sex
what are some examples of costs in a relationship according to the social exchange theory?
- effort
- financial investment
- time wasted
what are the two ways the social exchange theory suggest how we can measure our satisfaction with a relationship?
- comparison level (CL)
- comparison level of alternatives (CLalt)
what is the comparison level (CL) in the social exchange theory?
- how satisfied individuals are with their current relationship when they compare it to previous relationships profitability
- standard against all our relationships are judged
how do we assess the comparison level (CL) in the social exchange theory?
- if previously someone had unpleasant/ unsatisfying relationships, they may have low CL and may be happy in a poor relationship
- if previously someone had very rewarding relationships (high CL) they may have high expectations for future relationships
what is the comparison level of alternatives (CLalt) in the social exchange theory?
- how satisfied individuals are with their relationship compared to the alternatives
how do we assess the comparison level of alternatives (CLalt) in the social exchange theory?
- if current relationship is more profitable than possible alternatives (or if there are no alternatives available) then the individual is likely to be satisfied and maintain their current relationship
- if the possible profit level is much higher in an alternative, then they could end their current one and form a relationship with someone else
if the CLalt is high elsewhere, what will happen to the individuals in the relationship?
- the person’s dependence on their current relationship will decrease
- the relationship will become less stable
- they will lack commitment
what are strengths of the social exchange theory?
can account for the maintenance of abusive relationships
- accounts for maintenance of satisfactory relationships but also unsatisfactory relationships
- if previous relationships were unsatisfactory (CL) and they have poor alternatives (CLalt) even an abusive relationship may be considered profitable and the individual may be motivated to stay in that relationship
- real life application
- emphasises subjective personalisation of profit
what does the social exchange theory fail to acknowledge (limitation)?
- views individuals as self centered and likely to end a relationship if costs outweigh rewards
- it is evident many people stay in a relationship if costs outweigh rewards due to the investment theory
- investment is what you put into a relationship and stand to lose if you leave (ie. access to your children)
what is a limitation of the social exchange theory?
culture bias
- Moghaddam suggests it can only be applied to individualistic Western cultures, as it assumes the individual ha choice and that relationships are temporary in nature
- lacks cultural validity as can’t be applied to collectivist cultures where there is less of a focus on personal gain
not applicable to all couples
- Mills and Clark found some couples evaluate their relationship in terms of costs, rewards and profit and are identified as being high in ‘exchange orientation’
- not all couples do, with some being primarily concerned with their partners needs (‘communal couples’)
- contradicts assumption that we continually evaluate relationships in terms of rewards and costs
what is the investment model of relationships?
- states individuals level of commitment in a relationship is determined by three factors
who created the investment model of relationships?
- Rusbult and Van Lange
what are the three factors determining commitment in Rusbult’s investment theory of relationships?
- satisfaction with the relationship
- quality of alternatives
- level of investment
how is satisfaction determined within a relationship (investment model)?
- feeling that it is rewarding
- dependent upon outcomes of the relationship (ie. rewards minus costs)
- outcomes are compared to personal standard of acceptable outcomes (comparison level)
- if outcomes are favourable to comparison level, individual will be satisfied