Relationships Flashcards
What does evolutionary psychology say about partner preferences
- driven by sexual selection
- means males and females choose partners in order to maximise chances of reproductive success
- individuals with traits that maximise reproductive success are more likely to survive and pass on genes responsible for their success
Explain gametes in relation to the evolutionarily explanations of partner preferences
- males have gametes (sperm cells) which are able to reproduce quickly with little energy expenditure
- female gamete’s (eggs or ova) are much less plentiful are require far more energy to produce
- this difference (anisogamy) means males and females use distinct strategies to choose a partner
- males use intra-sexual selection and females use inter-sexual selection
What is intra-sexual selection
- where members of one sex (usually male) compete with one another for access to the other sex
- leads to male-female dimorphism => accentuation of secondary sexual characteristics in those with greater reproductive fitness
What does anisogamy suggest about intra-sexual selection
- suggests a male’s best evolutionary strategy is to have as many partners as possible
- males must compete with other males to present themselves as the most attractive mate to fertile female partners
What might males engage in according to intra-sexual selection
- mate guarding
- guard their female partner to prevent them mating with anyone else
- males are very fearful of having to raise another man’s child => cuckoldry
What is inter-sexual selection
- where members of one sex (usually females) choose from available prospects according to attractiveness
What does anisogamy suggest about inter-sexual selection
- women’s best evolutionary strategy is to be selective when choosing a partner
- females tend to seek male who displays characteristics of physical health, high status, and resources
- thus male is able to protect them and provide for their children
- although this ability may have equated to muscular strength in evolutionary past, in modern society it is more likely related to occupation, social class and wealth
What is the sexy sons hypothesis in evolutionary explanations for partner preferences
- females choosing certain traits in partners as these traits are ones they would like their sons to inherit
What are examples of positive evaluation points of evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- Clark and Hatfield (1989)
- Dunbar (2000)
- Singh (2002)
- Greiling (2000)
How is Clark and Hatfield (1989) an example of a positive evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- conducted infamous study where male and female psychology students asked to approach fellow students of Florida State University (of opposite sex)
- asked one of three things; to go on a date, go back to their apartment, go to bed with them
- 50% of both men and women agreed to date
- 69% of men agreed to visit apartment and 75% agreed to go to bed
- 6% of women agreed to visit apartment and 0% agreed to go to bed
- supports evolutionary explanations as shows males ready to sleep with women whereas women more reserved
How is Dunbar (2000) an example of a positive evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- found childless males tend to be shorter than males with children
- suggests females prefer to sexually select a tall mate
- could be a factor programmed in women’s genes
- females wish to reported and have tall, healthy children in future (survival of the fittest)
- therefore want a tall male to reproduce with, supporting sociobiological theory
How is Singh (2002) an example of a positive evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- investigated whether males preferred women’s body size or waist to hip ratio
- found waist to hip ratio was most attractive feature
- ratio of 0:& which indicates small waist and wide hips
- visible indicator of female fertility
How is Greiling (2000) an example of a positive evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- gender biased saying short term mating leads to costs for women
- suggests short term mating can be beneficial to women
- gives them chance to leave poor quality relationship (mate switching) or as a way of producing more genetically diverse offspring
- therefore can be applicable to male and women
- however long term strategies might be seen as unfair for females as they are supposed to be choosy and sexually select only one mate whereas males can select many
What are examples of negative evaluation points of evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- deterministic
- socially sensitive
- variation
- problems
How is determinism an example of a negative evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- evolutionary approach is determinist
- suggests we have little free will in partner choice
- however everyday experiences tells us we do have some control over our partner preferences
How is social sensitivity an example of a negative evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- evolutionary approaches to mate preferences are socially sensitive
- promise traditional, sexist views regarding natural male and female behaviours which do not apply to modern society
- women are now more career orientated and independent and do not look for resourceful partners like before
- additionally availability of contraception means evolutionary pressures are less relevant
How is variation an example of a negative evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- evolutionary theory makes little attempt to explain other variations of relationships
- e.g. non-heterosexual relationships
- cultural variations in relationships existing across the world
- e.g. arranged marriages
How are problems an example of a negative evaluation point for the evolutionary explanations of partner preferences
- evolutionary explanations can cause problems in relationships
- if males need to be big to acquire and protect females, this can cause males to abuse power in relationships and justify being possessive and aggressive towards females
- could lead to domestic violence whereby males feel justified in controlling women to protect them
Who has carried out research into sexual selection
- Buss (1989)
What did Buss (1989) do
- investigated what males and females looked for in long term partner
- 10k partners across 37 cultures
- rated 18 characteristics using 4 point scale, 0 = irrelevant and 3 = indispensable
What were the findings of Buss’ (1989) research
- females desired males with good financial prospects, resources and ambition
- males desired females who had reproductive value and were fertile, and all males universally wanted females who were youthful and younger than them
- both males and females wanted a partner who was intelligent and kind
What are examples of evaluation points for Buss’ (1989) study
- Buller (2005)
- sample
- Dunbar (1999)
How is Buller (2005) an example of an evaluation point for Buss’ (1989) study
- criticised Buss’ findings and evolutionary explanation of sexual selection
- questioned idea females universally prefer high status males with resources
- many studies have used female undergraduate students who had high educational status and high income, so maybe they are seeking high earning males who would be similar to them in educational background and income
- weak evidence females select males with resources and income to support them as many females have vast educational opportunities and good income to support themselves
How is sample an example of an evaluation point for Buss’ (1989) study
- conducted cross culturally across a range of cultures
- conclusive and consistent results
- seems universal
- can be generalised
- supports Buss and evolutionary explanations
How is Dunbar (1999) an example of an evaluation point for Buss’ (1989) study
- found older women try to disguise age to seem more fertile and younger
- if women perceived as being younger than males might sexually select and reproduce with them
- supports Buss and evolutionary explanations
What is self disclosure
- revealing of personal, intimate thoughts, feelings and information about ourselves to another person
What did Altman and Taylor (1973) propose about self disclosure
- social penetration theory
- self disclosure is a central concept in the theory
- claims that by gradually revealing emotions and experiences, couples gain a greater understanding of each other and display trust
- self disclosure will then increase attraction
What is reciprocal self disclosure
- both people self disclosing
- people expect same level of self disclosure from others as they give
How does self disclosure increase
- as people build trust in partner, breadth and depth of self disclosure increases
- people only disclose superficial details at the start and then move onto more intimate things later
What are the factors affecting the success of self disclosure
- appropriateness
- attributions for self disclosure
- gender differences
- content
How does appropriateness affect the success of self disclosure
- self disclosure may not always be appropriate
- e.g. on a first date it may seem over the top and people might be judged as lacking social skills and not be attractive
- social norms govern this
How does attributions for self disclosure affect the success of self disclosure
- this addresses reasons why someone is self disclosing information to us
- self disclosure is seen as less successful in leading to attraction if we feel that the individual self discloses information to everyone anyway
How do gender differences affect the success of self disclosure
- we might expect females to self disclose more than males
- however if a male does self disclose to a female, it might be views as very rewarding for females
- signals male might trust and like her and could increase attraction for both
- sometimes males might feel threatened by females self disclosing information to them
How does content affect the success of self disclosure
- self disclosure of highly intimate information might be seen as inappropriate and violating social norms, especially in early stages
- can decrease attraction levels and make recipient feel threatened and not know how to respond
- attraction is low/weak when self disclosure is very low/high
- attraction is stronger when self disclosure is at a medium level and balanced
What are examples of positive evaluation points for self disclosure
- Altman and Taylor (1973)
- Kito (2010)
- Tal-Or (2015)
- Cooper (1997)
How is Altman and Taylor (1973) a positive evaluation point for self disclosure
- research supports theory of self disclosure
- found self disclosure on first date is inappropriate and did not increase attraction levels
- person self disclosing seen as maladjusted and not very likeable
How is Kito (2010) a positive evaluation point for self disclosure
- found research evidence to support idea of self disclosure across different cultures
- investigated Japanese and American students in different types of relationships
- found self disclosure was high for Japanese and American students in romantic heterosexual relationships
- shows self disclosure is an important factor in romantic relationships and is cross cultural
How is Tal-Or (2015) a positive evaluation point for self disclosure
- conducted research which agrees with fundamental concepts of self disclosure being a gradual process than can affect attraction for romantic relationships
- analysis of reality TV shows, like Big Brother, revealed viewers did not like contestants who self disclosed early on
- preferred contestant who self disclosed gradually
How is Cooper (1997) a positive evaluation point for self disclosure
- research supporting self disclosure has found relationships formed over internet involve high level of self disclosure and attraction compared to face to face relationships
- because individuals on internet can be anonymous and feel more comfortable self disclosing
- Cooper devised Boom or Bust theory
- where people on internet self disclose information earlier than they would if they were meeting someone face to face
- relationship can get intense quick (boom) or might be difficult to sustain relationship as it moved too face (bust)
- positive and negative
What are examples of negative evaluation points for self disclosure
- Sprecher (2013)
- other factors
How is Sprecher (2013) a negative evaluation point for self disclosure
- found research evidence stating self disclosure is important for romantic relationships but most important factor is amount of self disclosure received rather than given
- level of self disclosure received is best predictor of liking and loving than amount given
- therefore goes against idea of reciprocal self disclosure and focuses on information received
How are other factors a negative evaluation point for self disclosure
- seems unlikely that attraction to a potential partner is based on self disclosure alone
- might be important element but other factors are needed to increase attraction
- e.g. physical attraction, similarity of attitudes and complementarity of needs
Who has carried out research into self disclosure
- Sprecher (2013)
What did Sprecher (2013) set to investigate and what was the sample
- whether reciprocal self disclosure or one sided self disclosure was more important in determining attraction in relationships
- 156 American undergraduates that did not know each other before
- put into pairs
- 66% were female to female and 33% male to female
- each pair engaged in the self disclosure task on Skype
How did Sprecher (2013) carry out his research
- one group were the reciprocal self disclosure group, each person in pair took turn asking a question and self disclosing information
- second group were non reciprocal group, one person in pair asked all questions and other person answered and self disclosed information. Switched roles after
- participants assessed on a range of factors about interaction they had experienced
- e.g. liking, closeness, perceived similarity, enjoyment of interaction
What were the findings of Sprecher’s (2013) research
- showed reciprocal self disclosure leads to more liking, closeness, perceived similarity and enjoyment than those in non reciprocal group
- therefore reciprocal self disclosure is very important in terms of attraction and the positive forming of relationships
What’s is a positive evaluation point for Sprecher’s (2013) research into reciprocal self disclosure
- study can be supported by theory proposed by Altman and Taylor
- seems self disclosure is only successful when both self disclose equally to each other
- supported by equity theory by Hatfield which says successful relationships are fair and equal and this can apply to self disclosure too
What are examples of negative evaluation points for the research conducted by Sprecher (2013) into reciprocal self disclosure
- ecological validity
- sample bias
- groups
How is ecological validity a negative evaluation point for self disclosure
- research can be criticised because self disclosure was measured using Skype rather than face to face like a real date
- could be argued that Skype distorts/interferes with quality of self disclosure
- study lacks ecological validity when investigating how self disclosure affects attraction
How is the sample a negative evaluation point for self disclosure
- study conducted in American so results are culturally biased and do not have cross cultural validity
- self disclosure might differ in more collectivist cultures
- therefore results cannot be generalised to other cultures
How are groups a negative evaluation point for self disclosure
- study did not investigate male to male self disclosure
- looking at al three interactions of the groups, Sprecher could have compared self discourse amongst different genders and between genders to see if differences exist
- sample was biased as 66% were female to female and 33% were male to male
- maybe sample could have been divided into three groups with equal percentages
- would have given broader view of self disclosure
What is physical attractiveness
- factor affecting attraction in romantic relationships
- men place great deal on physical attractiveness for short and long term partners
- women also put emphasis on physical attractiveness but more on short term than long term
- physical attractiveness varies across culture and time
What is the halo effect
- when the general impression of a person is incorrectly formed from on characteristic alone
- physically attractive people often seen as more sociable, optimistic, successful and trustworthy
- people tend to behave positively towards people who are physically attractive
- creates self fulfilling prophecy where physically attraction person behaves more positively because of attention received
What are examples of positive evaluation points for the halo effect
- Palmer and Peterson (2012)
- Cunningham / Kim (1997)
- applicability
How is Palmer and Peterson (2012) a positive evaluation point for the halo effect
- found physically attractive people were rated as more politically knowledgeable than unattractive people
- halo effect so powerful it persisted even when participants found out that the physically attractive person had no expertise in politics
How is Cunningham / Kim (1997) a positive evaluation point for the halo effect
- research supporting halo effect found by Cunningham and might be consistent across range of cultures
- found female features of large eyes, small nose, prominent cheek bones rated as physically attractive by white, Asian and Hispanic males
- Kim found USA and Korean students just died physically attractive people to be trustworthy, mature and friendly
- less evident for unattractive people
- seems stereotypes of physically attractive people is strong in collectivist and individualist cultures, supporting halo effect
How is applicability a positive evaluation point for the halo effect
- halo effect has support as it does not just apply to romantic relationships
- applies to other areas of life such as friendships, job interviews and meeting peple for first time
- therefore it is very powerful in terms of physical attractiveness and how people are judged by others
What is a negative evaluation point for the halo effect
- Towhey (1979)
- asked male and female participants to rate how much they liked an individual based on a photograph
- participants also completed a MACHO scale measuring sexist attitudes and behaviour
- found participants scoring high on MACHO scale were more influenced by physical attractiveness
- those scoring low on MACHO scale did not value physical attractiveness
- therefore influence of physical attractiveness is moderated by other factors
What is the matching hypothesis
- when initiating romantic relationships, individuals seek partners that have same social desirability as themselves
- physical attractiveness becomes major determining factor as it is an accessible way to rate other person as a potential partner before forming relationship
- most people prefer to form a relationship with someone who is physically attractive
- in order to not be rejected, many people approach others who are of a similar level of attractiveness to themselves
What are positive evaluation points for the matching hypothesis
- Fangold (1988)
- Murstein and Silverman (1972)
- Cavior (1972)
How is Fangold (1988) a positive evaluation point for the matching hypothesis
- found supportive evidence by carrying out a meta analysis of 17 studies using real life couples
- found strong positive correlation between partners’ ratings of physical attractiveness, just as predicted by the matching hypothesis
How is Murstein and Silverman (1972) a positive evaluation point for the matching hypothesis
- data collected from correlation studies by Murstein and Silverman (1972) found support for matching hypothesis
- therefore it seems that in experiments and real world, matching hypothesis can be applied when examining physical attractiveness in relationships
- studies relied on psychologists judging each person in terms of physical attractiveness
- findings suggest that the matching hypothesis is a very strong factor when forming relationships
How is Cavior (1972) a positive evaluation point for the matching hypothesis
- found strong evidence supporting matching hypothesis amongst long term committed couples rather than short term relationships
- therefore couples engaged, married or in long term relationships seemed to following hypothesis more than casual daters, especially when relationship was being formed in the first place
What are examples of negative evaluation points for the matching hypothesis
- complex matching
- Taylor (2011)
How is complex matching a negative evaluation point for the matching hypothesis
- sometimes a very physically attractive person forms relationshops with unattractive person
- often a rebalance of traits occurs
- less physically attractive person has traits making up for lack of physical attractiveness
- this is called complex matching
- goes against matching hypothesis
How is Taylor (2011) a negative evaluation point for the matching hypothesis
- found evidence contradicting matching hypothesis
- studied activity logs of an online dating site
- real test of the matching hypothesis as it measured date choices and not just preferences
- online daters wanted to meet with partners who were more physically attractive than themselves
- did not consider their own level of physical attractiveness
- shows matching hypothesis does not operate in real world and many people aim to date people who are more physically attractive than themselves
Who carried out a study into the matching hypothesis
- Walster and Walster (1966)
What was the Walster and Walster (1966) study
- consisted of 752 first year students from University of Minnesota attending a dance party
- randomly matched to a partner
- when students were picking up their tickets, they were secretly judged by a 4 person panel in terms of physical attractiveness
- during intervals at dance party, and 4-6 months later, students were asked whether they found their partner attractive and whether they would like to go on a second date with them
- contrary to matching hypothesis, students expressed higher appreciation to partner if they were attractive, regardless of their own level of attractiveness
What is the filter theory
- proposed by Kerchoff and David (1962)
- proposed we using filtering to reduce field of available partners down to a field of desirable partners
- when we meet a potential partner we engage in three levels of filtering
- we tend to be attracted to those who pass through a series of filters
What are the three filters according to the filter theory
- social demography
- similarity in attitudes
- complimentarity of needs
What is social demography as a filter in the filter theory
- filter is based on social characteristics and concerns variables such as age, ethnicity, social background, geographical location and likelihood of meeting person in the first place
- can be recited as we are likely to meet people from our own social and excitation al groups, or people who live nearby
- if we have similar social demography, we feel at ease and might find them more attractive as we have more in common
What is similarity in attitudes as a filter in the filter theory
- based on psychological characteristics
- looks at whether people have same attitudes, beliefs and values
- attitudes and values are of central important at start of a romantic relationship and can help predict stability, especially if relationships has lasted 18 or less months
- through self disclosure, individuals weigh up decisions about whether to continue or end relationship based on this filter
- partners who have very different alums and attitudes are not seen as suitable to continue their relationship
What is complementarity of needs as a filter in the filter theory
- based on emotional characteristics
- people who have different needs in relations up and more attraction might occur if people have complimenting needs
- both might like each other because they have mutual satisfaction and opposing needs that have been met
- research found that needs should be complementary and not similar for the relationship to work and be successful
- long term relationships have more attraction when needs of partners are harmonious rather than conflicting
What are positive evaluation points for the filter theory
- Taylor (2010)
- Hoyle (1993)
How is Taylor (2010) a positive evaluation point for the filter theory
- research found evidence to support
- found 85% of Americans who got married in 2008 had married someone from their own ethnic group
- supports social demography filter
- individuals seem to choose partners that are similar to them and have a similar background
How is Hoyle (1993) a positive evaluation point for the filter theory
- research supports importance of attitude similarity and sharing common values for attraction
- found perceived attitude similarity can predict attraction more strongly that actual attitude similarity
- Tidwell tested this hypothesis during a speed dating event whereby participants had to make quick decisions about attraction
- measured actual and perceived similarity of attitudes using questionnaire
- found perceived similarity predicted romantic liking more than actual similarity
What are negative evaluation points for the filter theory
- Levinger (1970)
- Anderson (2003)
- time validity
How is Levinger (1970) a negative evaluation point for the filter theory
- found many studies failed to replicate findings from Kerckhoff and David based on filter theory
- conducted research using 330 couples and found no evidence that similarity of attitudes or complementarity of needs was important when looking at how permanent the relationship became over time
- also an issue on deciding when a short term relationships becomes long term
How is Anderson (2003) a negative evaluation point for the filter theory
- filter theory criticised as it suggests people are attracted to each other based on similar social demography
- Anderson found from his longitudinal study of cohabiting partners that they became more similar in terms of their attitudes and emotional responses over time which increased attraction
- at start attitudes were not so similar
- emotional convergence
How is time validity a negative evaluation point for the filter theory
- research using online dating shows lack of support for filter theory in that it might not be an accurate way to see how relationships progress and form
- internet has meant a reduction in social demographic variables when we meet someone and it is now easier to meet people living far away or having a different ethnicity, social class and background
- we might meet people who are outside of our demographic limits compared to past 30 years
Who conducted research into the filter theory
- Kerckhoff and Davis (1962)
What did Kerckhoff and Davis investigate for filter theory
- conducted longitudinal study
- 94 couples from Duke University
- each person in couple answered 2 questionnaires to assess degree of shared attitudes, values and complimentary of needs in order to assess closeness
- 7 months later, they completed another questionnaire to see how close they felt to their partner, this was compared to the first questionnaire
What were the findings of Kerckhoff and Davis’ (1962) study on filter theory
- couples divided into two groups for findings
- short term partners had been dating 18 or less months and found similarity of attitudes and values were important for closeness
- long term partners dated for 18 or more months and relied on complimentary of needs as a predictor for closeness
- long term and short term relationships rely on different filters to predict closeness, attraction and permeance in a relationship
What are the positive evaluation points for the study by Kerckhoff and Davis (1962) into filter theory
- longitudinal study that followed couples over time in order to test theory over a long time period
- theory can thus be tested via short and long term and offers strong support for how filters can be linked to attraction and relationships in general
- highlights how different filters have more prominence at various stages of relationship
- e.g. similarity of attitudes is important for short term couples whereas complementarity of needs is more important for longer term couples
What are the negative evaluation points for the study by Kerckhoff and Davis (1962) into filter theory
- similarity in relationships might not always be important to every individual
- individual differences might mean some people are attracted to people opposite to them
- psychologists have conducted lots of research to suggests opposites attract which opposes findings from this study
- use of questionnaires can be criticised
- might not be adequate when investigating sensitive issue
- participants might lie or be affected by social desirability bias and not give valid responses
What is the social exchange theory
- economic theory of romantic relationships
- based on idea relationships are like a business where we monitor rewards and costs
- we all want maximum rewards and minimum costs
- theory proposes individuals focus on getting out more than they put in
What does the social exchange theory assume
- those who offer rewards are attractive and those who are perceived to involve great costs are less attractive
- relationships that are mutually beneficial will succeed whereas relationships that are imbalanced fail
What did Blau say about the social exchange theory
- relationships are expensive as they take up our time and energy
- therefore we need to gain some rewards from them in order for the relationship to be successful
- aim for both parties in a relationship is that they should have maximum rewards and minimum costs to work
What are comparison levels
- comparing of current relationship
- normal comparison level is comparison of current relationship to previous relationships
- present relationship should have higher rewards and less costs than previous to be seen as successful
- comparison level for alternatives is comparing present partner to people around us who we could potentially have a relationship with
- we look for a better deal if our current relationship s not satisfactory
What are the positive evaluation points for the social exchange theory
- Gottman (1992)
- Jacobson (2000)
- individual differences
How is Gottman (1992) a positive evaluation point for the social exchange theory
- found evidence supporting social exchange theory
- found individuals in unsuccessful marriages frequent report lack of positive behaviour exchanges with partner and excess of negative exchanges
- in successful marriages, ratio of positive to negative exchanges is 5:1, but in unsuccessful marriages ratio is 1:1
How is Jacobson (2000) a positive evaluation point for the social exchange theory
- social exchange theory has practical applications
- integrated couples theory (Jacobson, 2000) helps partners break negative patterns of behaviours to to decrease negative exchanges whilst increasing positive exchanges
- 66% of couples reported significant improve to in their relationships after receiving this form of therapy
How are individual differences a positive evaluation point for the social exchange theory
- different people perceive rewards and costs differently
- this theory can thus account for individual differences in attraction
What are the negative evaluation points for the social exchange theory
- Moghaddam (1998)
- Argyle (1987) / Duck (1994)
- Blau (1964) / Littlejohn (1989)
- students
How is Moghaddam (1998) a negative evaluation point for the social exchange theory
- criticised social exchange theory
- states it is more applicable to individualistic cultures than collectivist cultures
- perceived costs and rewards of relationships might be very different from one culture to the next
- family values and compatibility might be more important rewards in collectivist cultures
- in individualist cultures, rewards might be views as partner buying expensive presents
How is Argyle (1987) / Duck (1994) a negative evaluation point for the social exchange theory
- disagrees with idea that people spend a great deal of time monitoring their relationship in terms of rewards and costs
- states people only monitor rewards and costs once relationship becomes dissatisfying
- Duck (1994) agrees with Argyle and states we only look at comparison levels in a relationship when we are dissatisfied, not when we are happy and the relationship is successful
How is Blau (1964) / Littlejohn (1989) a negative evaluation point for the social exchange theory
- Blau argues human beings are selfish to think of relationship maintenance in terms of rewards and costs
- social exchange theory is rooted in behaviourist approach where focus of relationship maintenance is from operant conditioning
- however some relationships have little rewards and many costs but still continue
- therefore cognitive approach might explain social exchange theory more accurately
- Littlejohn (1989) found its very difficult to define what a reward and cost is in a relationship and might differ from person to person
- theory needs to carefully examine how individuals view and think about rewards and costs
How is students a negative evaluation point for the social exchange theory
- much research conducted on theory focuses on students in short term relationships
- using limited sample of participants might mean results are invalid and not strong evidence
- might be able to successfully apply research findings to long term committed older couples who will have a different dynamic in their relationship
- therefore we should treat research findings from studies with caution and identify results are not strong in supporting social exchange theory