Prelims Flashcards
What makes up the fear of failure?
Self-Conscious - Extreme self-consciousness that results from negative and self-critical thoughts.
Unworthy - the feeling of unworthiness
Social - It has a central social component which involves fear of being criticized and rejected.
Hidden - Shame can hide in the form of other emotions such as fear, anger and envy.
How can you tell when it’s Healthy Shame?
Correction - when shame helps us re-examine ourselves and strive to become better individuals.
Fleeting - It does not last very long; eventually overlooked as new experiences come in.
Self-aware - Feeling shame makes us aware of the negative behaviors we have that we don’t notice ourselves.
How can you tell when it’s Toxic Shame?
Self-hate - You internalize external negative criticisms
towards you and repeat them to yourself.
Obsession - when It constantly bothers you whenever even when you make the smallest mistake.
Paralyzing - It prevents you from trying out new things and from enjoying life as a whole.
Withdrawal - Toxic shame may also manifest in anti-social behavior.
How does shame grow?
Silence - when you don’t tell anyone about what you feel ashamed about.
Secrecy - when you mask your shame with a
different emotion.
Judgement - when you constantly repeat to
yourself the ridicule you hear from others.
What lessons can we learn from St. Arnold from the obstacles he faced when establishing the SVD?
Prayer - Fr. Arnold was a prayerful man and offered everything he did for the glory of God.
Community - He thought not only about what he wanted but more so what the local church community needed.
Humility - He was willing to look like a fool in front of
everybody in order to do what he believed was right.
Others - Fr. Arnold, despite his talent and skill, knew that he needed the help of others to succeed.
How can you cure shame?
Empathy - Share the things you feel ashamed about along with everything else that weighs down
Who can you talk to and share your shame with?
God - God is always listening, even if it feels like he is
not. You are precious to Him more than you know.
Parents - Talk to your parents because they are not
telepathic. You need to verbalize your feelings.
Friends - If you think you parents wont listen to you, confide in a friend you know you can trust.
Professionals - If you don’t trust anyone close, have compassion on yourself, and ask help from a professional such as the school guidance counsellors.
How can you practice courage?
Gradual - Start with something small and gradually work your way up.
Visualize Your Goal - Thinking that you are a failure is often a self-fulling prophecy. Belief in success is the first step to succeeding.
Ask yourself - what is more terrifying, fail knowing that you tried or comfortable but filled with regret?
Pray to God - As Christians, we walk by faith, not by sight. Only those who know how to surrender to God will know true freedom.
What is the perspective we use?
Culture
What is culture?
the sum of the characteristics and knowledge of a particular group of people, encompassing language, religion, cuisine, social habits, music and arts.
Why do we have culture?
Simplify - The world is infinitely complex and adapting a culture helps give us consistency.
Socialize - We are inherently social beings and culture helps facilitate this experience.
Survive - Our ancient ancestors saw that trying to “belong” increases the chance of survival.
What are subcultures?
Cultures within cultures
What makes up a subculture?
Specialized Language - Sub-cultures develop a unique language.
Deviant - they have different values and norms compared to the larger culture.
Specialized Knowledge - They have in-depth knowledge of a particular topic or practice.
What is the perspective we impose?
Prejudice
What is prejudice?
The formation of an opinion on certain members of a group grounded on previous perception, attitude, and viewpoint.
