Pickup Artist And Seduction Flashcards
What’re Mystery’s top ten tips for pickup artists?
1) Get into the habit of starting conversations just for the practice. Release your outcome and be relaxed in the process.
2) Between approaches, always remember to smile while mingling
3) Lean back and relax when you initiate conversations. Don’t lean in. Speak slowly and expresively. This alone wil improve your game by 300 percent.
4) Be chatty-really-and convey a strong sense of fascination. Talk about relationships and the mysterious, and use lots of humor as well as emotional and sensory descriptions. Enthusiasm is contagious.
5) Don’t say anything to impress her, such as bragging about your job, girls, or friends. Instead, indirectly convey value via demonstration and incidental story details. If she can tell that you are trying to impress her, she will perceive you as lower value.
6) Don’t act as if anything is a big deal. Be fun and playful. Vibe with her, but don’t react to her. Act the same way you would act with your eight-year-old niece.
7) As you hang out with her, and she has an opportunity to win you over, then show her your increasing interest. She must recognize that she has genuinely won you over with her personality.
8) Balance indicators of interest with indicators of disinterest. Do this both in your conversation with her and also as you escalate with her physically. This has a great effect.
9) Wear one accessory that gives other people an excuse to initiate a conversation with you, such as a hat, or a certain ring or necklace. Have a good story prepared for when this happens.
10) Have a life. Go to the gym and stay in shape, and continually improve your wardrobe. Cultivate your circle of female friends. Throw parties. Put effort into your social circle. A girl should imagine herself being a part of your cool life.
What are indicators (signals) of interest (IOIs) from women?
Proximity Self-grooming Scratching face Toying with hair Giving attention Vibing with you Giggling Offering value Touching you Showing appreciation Asking questions Leaning in Facing you Trying to impress Allows escalation
What are indicators (signals) of disinterest (IODs) from women?
Avoidance Impatience Crosses arms Hand toss Rolls off Disacknowledgment Breaking rapport Disinterested Pushes away Disqualifiers, Negs Drops conversation Leans back Faces away Disallows frames Give resistance
If a woman touches you often during conversation for example, if she touches your arm when saying something to you then what?
She is signaling her interest in you. Women are hardwired to touch when they feel attracted.
If she giggles a lot, or asks you a lot of questions, or tries to joke with you a lot, then what?
She is interested in you. These are also green lights.
When a woman continually turns fo face you with her body. This means that even if you turn away from her a little, then she will also turn until she is facing you again. Then what?
She’s interested in you
As she is talking with you, she will touch her hair more and start to toy with it. She’ll toss her hair, drawing attention to it. She will touch her face and her neck, and the back of her hand. She will scratch her cheek, next to her nose, and between the lip and the nose. Then what?
She’s interested in you. (Also, this is Self—grooming indicator)
If she leans in toward you for extended periods of time, or crosses her legs towards you, then what?
She’s interested in you
If she folds her arms or leans back or turns her crossed legs away from you, then what?
She isn’t interested in you. Don’t go for it until these things change. If it doesn’t change, don’t bother going in. Be willing to leave. These are all bad signals.
If you see her do at least three of these indicators of interest (such as touching you, toying with her hair, asking you lots of questions, and giggling during conversation), then what?
You can kiss her.
What is Mystery’s kiss gambit?
As she is talking, hold up your finger to your lips and
say:
“Shh…You talk a lot. Would you like to kiss me?”
Now there are only four things that can happen, and we have a way to handle them all:
• If she says yes, then kiss her!
• If she says no, then say, “I didn’t say you could, you just looked like you had something on your mind.” Then just continue talking and move on to the next part of your conversation–you have avoided rejection.
• If she says maybe, or I don’t know, then it actually means yes! Often a woman wants to kiss you, but she just can’t admit it out loud. It’s okay, just say “Let’s find out,” and then kiss her.
• If she says not here, then she is actually saying, “I want to kiss you, but I can’t do it in front of these people.” Demonstrate your social intelligence by telling her, “I understand.” Now you know you can kiss her the next time you are alone together.
What is the touching technique?
Touching should be a normal and constant part of the way you interact with other people, from the very beginning. There should never be some big moment, but instead a series of tiny little moments, and they’re always no big deal.
When you are interacting with a woman, touching should be a normal part of that interaction from the very beginning. Even in nocuous litle social touches, such as gently pushing a woman’s shoulder, or touching her forearm, or throwing your arm around
her you must be constantly doing this with her. That way, physical touch becomes a normal part of the way that the two of you behave together. It would feel weird not to touch
What is the consequences of skipping the touching technique?
If you wait too long, if you don’t start touching her and her friends when you first meet them, then even innocuous touches will seem weird later on.
So you see, the reason it feels so weird when you try to make a move at the end of the night is that you waited too long you should have been touching her the whole time.
What is the shoulder tap technique?
As you are saying something to her, tap her shoulder with the back of your hand.
Now, this Shoulder Tap move might not seem like that big a deal, but that’s the whole point! After all, if you want to become a more physical person, the easiest way to start is by using harmless little touches as you talk to people, which will seem normal and social to the both of you, like it’s no big deal.
How hard can it be to tap a woman on the shoulder as part of what you are saying to her? There’s nothing to it. So there’s no excuse not to immediately start adding this piece into your conversations with women. Don’t just do it once-do it all the time.
What is the key secret of the touching technique?
Touch her “absentmindedly”, as though you yourself are not even aware that you are touching her.
The secret is to touch her as if you yourself do not even notice your own touches. Your touches should SEEM as though they are automatic, beneath the rest of your conversation and below your conscious awareness.
What is shoulder grasp technique?
STEP I: Look away from her with your eyes and grasp her shoulder with your hand at the same time as you say some- thing to her.
STEP 2: Look back toward her as you let go of her shoulder.
That’s all there is to it. Again, this is just a simple little move that you can start incorporating into your social interactions. It doesn’t convey any sexual or romantic interest; there’s nothing creepy about it at all. All it does is help condition people to feel that it is normal for you to touch them.
The important thing to notice about this move is that I am giving her mixed signals of interest and disinterest. In this example, I touch her shoulder with my hand, which signals that I am interested in her, but I also look away as I do it, which signals that I am disinterested in her.
Whenever you do something that signals that you are interested in her, such as touching her shoulder, then what is the best way for you to follow after that?
soften the impact of that interest by also doing something to signal disinterest, such as looking away while you touch her. Of course, that is only an example be sure to play around with various combinations. By the way, the actual words that you say to her are not really important. All that matters is that you have something to say, so that your touch appears to be part of the bigger whole.
For example, I might touch her shoulder as I look out across the rest of the room and say, “Look at all of these people in here.” Then I let go of her shoulder at the same time as I look back toward her, saying, “I love people watching.”
What should your touches appear to be?
Your touches should appear as though they are a natural part of your words, even though they may be completely unrelated, logically, to whatever you are actually saying.
After finish the touching technique, what should you do appropriately?
Touch and release, touch and release. You are the one who makes the move, and you are also the one who pushes it away. She will never be in a position to “reject” you because you already pushed her away first.
What is grab both shoulders technique?
Use both of your hands to grab both of her shoulders, move her a little, and then let go.
For example, as you are saying something to her, use both of your hands to grasp both of her shoulders, and physically move her, as you are talking, so that she is positioned slightly differently from how she started even if you have only turned her a few inches. Then let go of her. You should continue talking through this entire process, as if you don’t even notice the fact of your own touch.
What is the Thumb Wrestling technique?
As you are talking to her, hold up your right hand in front of you, so that it is Hat and your palm is facing to the left. Say to her “Co like this,” so that she will hold up her right hand in the sarne way. Next, say, “Let me see,” as you use your left hand to gently grasp her wrist and then bring her right hand so that it is palm to palm with your own right hand. Next, say, “Okay, go like this,” as you curl your fingers and bring both hands into thumb-wrestling position. Thumb wrestle with her for a little bit, just for fun, and then push her away and continue on to the next topic of conversation. Act like it was just a bit of fun.
What is to be noted about Thumb wrestling technique?
Always use baby steps to get what you want. Never try to get too much at once.
What is the High-five technique?
Whenever something particularly cool happens, or she says sonething to impress you, or you just want to vibe with her, hold up your hand, fingers pointed up and palm facing out, toward her.
Exclaim, “High-five!”
If she high-fives you back, just smile and continue talking. This is almost always what will happen.
If she doesn’t high-five you, then she is being rather rude. Hold up both your hands now and say, “Whoa … excuse me fun. Smile and continue talking, to her or to anyone else you prefer. “ as if you are joking to yourself and having If a woman refuses your move, no big deal, youll just chill back for a few moments and then make another move. That’s the kind of guy you are. In fact, she will appreciate this carefree vibe that you bring.
What is to be noted from the High-five technique?
It’s not about avoiding rejection; its about responding to it attractively.
