Personal Relationships Flashcards
Describe the processes of romantic attraction.
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Describe the processes of intimate relationships.
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Explain Sternberg’s triangular theory of love.
- Consummate love: intimacy, passion, commitment
- Companionate love: intimacy + commitment
- Empty love: commitment alone
- Fatuous love: passion + commitment
- Infatuation: passion alone (starts to fade after 6-30 months)
- Romantic love: intimacy + passion
- Liking: intimacy alone
What are the 5 love languages?
- Words of affiirmation: verbal compliments, words of appreciation, straight forward or indirect statements that help someone feel worthy or loved
- Quality time: focused and full attention, quality conversation and activities done together
- Giving gifts: inexpensive or expensive, purchased or handmade
- Acts of service: housework, yard work, organizational work, buying groceries, doing what partner has asked you to do in past month
- Physical touch
What are signs of emotional abuse?
- Attempting to control various aspects of your life
- Frequently humiliating you and making you feel bad about yourself
- Wanting to know where you are and who you’re with at all times
- Becoming jealous or angry when spending time with friends
- Threatening to harm you
- Trying to coerce you into doing what you’re not comfortable with
What is physical monogamy and emotional monogamy?
- Physical monogamy: defined as exclusive physical sexual experience with one’s partner
- Emotional monogamy: sets boundaries around emotional connections and affairs with others outside of primary relationship, can include relationships at work, friends, and online
What is social and serial monogamy?
- Social monogamy: perception of being monogamous by others
- Serial monogamy: where committed monogamous relationship is entered into until the relationship ends and another monogamous relationship beings
What is polyamory and an open relationship?
- Open relationship: partners agree to sexual involvement with others outside of primary relationship
- Polyamory: acceptance of having intimate relationships with more than one person at a time, with both knowledge and consent of everyone involved
What is cohabitation?
Couples that live together (common-law relationship)
What are the 7 key factors used to determine whether people are cohabiting?
- Shelter: share accomodation
- Sexual and personal behaviour: intimate interdependant relationship
- Services: share traditional functions of family
- Social: portray themselves as couple to the world
- Societal: how are unmarried partners treated by their community?
- Children: do unmarried couple see children as part of their home and interact parentally with each other’s children if there are any?
What is sexual identity? What is gender? What is gender identity, presentation, and roles?
- Sexual identity: biology or personal self-identificaiton perspective (who they are attracted to)
- Gender: built on role we play by society in which we live
- Gender identity: person’s internal sense of themselves where they may identify as being male, female, or transgender
- Gender presentation: influences way individuals manage their appearance, dress, behave, and present gender identity
- Gender roles: socially determined behavioural rules and standards assigned to men and women in our society
How do people identify their gender?
- Male
- Female
- Androgynous: identify as neither male or female
- Intersex: people who were born with male and female anatomy
- Transgender: umbrella term for people whose gender identity or expression differs from sex assigned at birth
What is sexual diversity?
- Bisexual: attracted to both sexes
- Heterosexual: primary sexual orientation is toward members of opposite sex
- Homosexual: person who is sexually or romantically attracted to individuals of the same sex
What are the different types of sexual activity?
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What are the different types of sexual behaviour?
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What is sexual harassment? What does the research say?
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What is sexual victimization of students?
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What are the factors associated with rape/acquaintance rape?
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What can be done to prevent sexual violence?
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How can you support someone who has experienced sexual violence?
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What is sexuality and the various dimensions?
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Why do men and women have sex?
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Why do lesbian women have sex?
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Why would someone not have sex?
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Is masturbation a risky activity?
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What are the pros/cons to having sex?
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What are STIs prevalent?
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What are the behavioural, social, and biological factors that contribute to the spread of STIs?
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What are women more susceptible to infection?
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What are STIs more common for university students? Which ones are?
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How do you protect yourself from a STI?
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What is friendship?
- Basic source of happiness
- Those with more close friends and those who have a greater support network have better psychological health
- Connection to a larger world
- Source of solace in times of trouble - see us at our worst but never lose sight of our best
- Transcends boundaries of distance and difference
- Enhances feelings of warmth, trust, love and affection
- Human beings of every culture make friends
- Friends of adolescence and young adulthood are the strongest of our lifetime
What are the types of casual relationships?
- FWB: know an acquaintance, move into a physical relationship, friendship where you are able to satisfy sexual needs with each other
- FB: friends with benefits but with less respect and focus on just having sex
- ONS: someone you don’t know, alcohol involved
- BC: midnight, someone texting you, planned or random
Discuss hooking up and its consequences.
- Sexual activity with a casual partner who may be a friend/stranger
- Term describes a variety of sexual behaviours
- No commitment of exclusivity
- Perhaps occurs less often than we perceive?
Consequences for women:
- Depressive symptoms and causal sex
- Females felt shame and regret if they didn’t know partner and risks/sexual history were not discussed
- Lack of future contact increase shame and anger against self
Consequences for men:
- Males regretted hooking up with an unattractive or undesirable partner or someone labelled as promiscuous
- Men report more positive and less negative reactions to casual sex than women
Discuss long-distance dating relationships.
- Living apart for not less than 3 months
- Being on average 321 km apart
- ⅕ end
- 20% become more difficult
- 18% said distance improved their relationship
- Fewer but longer, more intimate conversations
- More idealization = honeymoon effect, more satisfaction?
- Less conflict sometimes because you don’t want to ruin conflict
- Not any less satisfactory than relationships in person
- Quality of relationship stayed high if they used more video-media technology
Discuss attraction.
Factors for finding someone attractive:
- Warmth and kindness
- Desirable personality
- Something specific about the person (unique)
- Reciprocal liking (we tend to like people who like us)
- Designed to motivate us to want to spend more time together = focus on one person = emotional attachment = passionate love = we mate
- Euphoria but decreased productivity in other areas
- Not sustainable long-term = evolutionary reason is or else we wouldn’t get anything else done
