Personal Relationship – Attraction, Love, and Commitment Flashcards
Who said, “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage”?
Lao Tzu
It is the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something, and a quality or feature that evokes interest, liking, or desire.
Attraction (Merriam Webster Dictionary)
When you have a positive attitude or evaluation regarding a particular person in relation to different components.
Interpersonal Attraction
Attractive people draw out a more positive first impression. Initially, people tend to be influenced by what they see.
Physical Attractiveness (Langlois, et.al. 1991)
Sharing a connection between the two of you that you do not have with others. We can say that you are “on the same wavelength”.
Similarity
It is one of the important aspects of any relationship.
Distance
It pertains to physical distance from other people and it is related to functional distance (how often people interact or communicate with each other).
Proximity
It is when feelings with someone are being returned in the same way as you do. We tend to get along with people or with someone with whom we have the same feelings.
Reciprocity
Who said, “Another way to think of it is that relationships are built on a give and take; if one side is not reciprocating, then the relationship is doomed”?
Brannan and Mohr, Together: The Science of Social Psychology
(a) strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties;
(b) attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers;
(c) affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
Love (Meriam-Webster Dictionary)
Sometimes, discussions about love may affect the emotional and psychological well-being of a person, thus influencing his/her emotions toward another. This emotional bond depends on the presence or absence of support from others.
An Assurance of Affection
It is one of the important components of a complex neurochemical system that allows the body to adapt to highly emotional situations.
Love (Sue Carter and Stephen Porges)
It is one of the accountable chemicals for the connection of two individuals like between mother and child inside her womb and even after giving birth.
Oxytocin (Keverne, 2006)
It is a peptide also known as the love hormone, a female reproduction hormone, which helps to deepen the connection between mother and child through breastfeeding.
Oxytocin
The “feel good” chemicals are:
Oxytocin
Endorphin
Serotonin
Dopamine
It is also a peptide that conveys the behavior of an individual’s social engagement. One of its roles is to produce a behavior of developing a stable, loving, and long-term relationship with others.
Vasopressin (Kenkel et al, 2012)
The studies of Cohen 2007; Fisher et. al, 2009 explained that the _________ of newly-in-love individuals increases up to 40% just like with the brain of a drug addict. And, when a person experiences heartbreak, the brain processes just like an addict quitting a heroin habit.
Serotonin production
In the book of Principles of Social Psychology – 1st International Edition by Dr. Charles Strangor, he explained Robert Sternberg’s proposed _____________.
Triangular Model of Love
The seven different types of love are:
- Liking
- Romantic Love
- Infatuation
- Fatuous Love
- Empty Love
- Companionate Love
- Consummate Love
Each type of love consists of a combination of variables (Cognitive, Physiological, and Affective variables) that are specified in three different factors which are:
- Intimacy
- Passion
- Commitment
It is consisting of affective variables such as closeness, caring, and emotional support.
Intimacy
It consists of physiological and affective variables like physical attraction, emotional responses that promote physiological changes, and sexual arousal.
Passion
It is a cognitive process and decision to dedicate love to another individual with the willingness to keep the relationship.
Commitment
Intimacy alone
Liking
Intimacy + Passion
Romantic Love
Passion alone
Infatuation
Passion + Commitment
Fatuous Love
Commitment alone
Empty Love
Intimacy + Commitment
Companionate Love
Intimacy + Passion + Commitment
Consummate Love
There are different ways of showing love to our loved ones or partners and these are emphasized in ____ attachment styles.
Three (Eastwick and Finkel, 2008)
A healthy style wherein the children receive care and easily communicate with the parents.
Secure Attachment Style
Children are seeking more affection from parents because they are too dependent on them.
Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style
It is when children are distant from their parent/s, sometimes due to unpleasant experiences.
Avoidant Attachment Style
It is a long-term relationship between individuals. A more complex relationship that resulted in increasing turn to each other.
Commitment (Wegner, Erber, & Raymond, 1991)
It refers to the feelings and actions that keep partners working together to maintain the relationship.
Commitment (Dr. Rajiv Jhangiani and Dr. Hammond Tarry’s reiteration of Slotter et al., 2011)
It is a choice, a long and hard process that needs to be participated by you and your partner.
Commitment
Tips on how to keep healthy relationships with others:
- Stay happy
- Be empathetic
- Keep open communication
- Always trust
- Show respect
- Be a helping hand
Happiness gives you the feeling of satisfaction for both abstract and concrete things.
Stay happy
Empathizing with another is acting with greater cooperation and overall selflessness—the desire to help, even at a potential cost to the self.
Be empathetic
It provides an opportunity to size up the trustworthiness of a person by verbally committing to cooperate with another.
Keep open communication
Working with others toward a common goal requires a level of faith that others will repay our hard work and generosity.
Always trust
People are likely to give respect to others by being polite, honest, and by showing kindness all the time.
Show respect
In times of trouble (e.g., mentally/ emotionally), make him/her feel that he/she always has you on his/her side.
Be a helping hand
