PERDEV QT Flashcards
“the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.” “The way in which two or more people or things are connected.”
Relationship
A lack of close relationships may produce ?
a negative effect on an individual such as feeling worthless, powerless, and alienated.
a relationship that is closely associated with a person (only specific/exclusive for this person)
Personal relationship
Two characterisics of a personal relationship
Privacy and intimacy
Characteristic of personal relationship, not want to see/ hear
Privacy
Characteristic of personal relationship, special and deep convo with someone
intimacy
may be a commitment to not a person or a group, but an entity, business, organization, principle, or cause.
impersonal relationship
Three attachment styles
SAA
Secure attachment
Avoidant attachment
Anxious-ambivalent attachment
the caregiver is present and available when all the emotional needs of a child are met. (The child will have secure and stable relationships) What attachment style
Secure attachment
the caregiver is cold, detached and unresponsive to the child’s needs. The child faces rejection, premature detachment, and self-reliance. (The child will have unstable and less intimate relationships.) What attachment style?
Avoidant attachment
the caregiver is not consistent in presence and in satisfying the child’s emotional needs. (Child may have separation anxieties and have self-doubt in meaningful relationships)
What attachment style?
Anxious-ambivalent attachment
primarily based on physiology or certain hormones that can be picked up by noses
Attraction
an odorless chemical can be found with the nose that indicates a person’s immune system. Women prefer men who have different immune systems from theirs to boost their offspring’s chances of better survival. Men prefer women who are reproductively healthy.
Pheromones
Theories of. attraction
T P S R P P
Transference
Propinquity
Similarity
Reciprocity
Physical attaractiveness
Personality Characteristics and Traits
The person you are attracted to may remind you of someone from the past who has affected your sense of self. Can be past relationships or a basis to avoid certain types of people. What theory of attraction?
Transference Effect
Solely relies on the prospect of familiarity. These may be people who live close by or have been with you since childhood, etc. This safe feeling means that you can predict your partner’s behavior. What theory of attraction?
Propinquity
Sharing similar traits beliefs, age, etc. as yourself. Easier communication and empathizing with a common ground for understanding. What theory of attraction?
Similarity
Solely relies on the feeling of being liked back. The more we are liked by someone, the more we promote that mutual feeling of attraction. What attraction?
reciprocity
Positive health and reproductive fitness in human survival. Beauty standards by preference and society. What attraction?
Physical attractiveness
Preference of traits (warmth, sympathy, optimism, communicators, etc.) What attraction?
Personality Characteristics and traits
Variables & Responsibilities in a Relationship or Commitment
A T I
Accumulation of all rewards
Temptation of alternative partners
Investment
satisfaction
- The support, sexual satisfaction, emotional, financial, and physical security, and interest
- Relationship or commitment should be mutually rewarding for both parties. What variable of commitment/ relationship?
Accumulation of all rewards
- Presence of possible alternative partner/s can affect the relationship or commitment
- The lesser or lack of alternative/s a couple or person is exposed to, the lesser the possibility of the relationship or commitment to break. What variable in a relationship?
Temptation of alternative partners
- Time spent together
- Common beliefs (religious, etc.) and
experiences with mutual friends - Children
What variable of relationship?
Investment
VARIABLES THAT CAN NEGATIVELY AFFECT relationship
CTDC
Consistent finding of faults
Tone of criticism
Denial of existence of conflict
Contempt
Responsibilities in being in a relationship
B B E R B
Be responsible for what you think or say to the other person
Be responsible for what you promise to do or not do
Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial
Respect the other party or parties involved
Be ready to provide support when needed
KEY FACTOR IN RELATIONSHIP
INTEGRITY
strong feeling of affection or concern toward another person (from close friendship)
- A strong feeling of affection or concern toward another person (from sexual attraction)
- A feeling of devotion or adoration toward God or a god
- A feeling of kindness or concern by God or a god toward humans
- Sexual desires, pleasures, or activities
LOVE
Three stages of falling inlove
L A A
Lust
Attraction
Attachment
driven by sex hormones, testosterone, and estrogen. What stage of faliing in love?
Lust
- love-struck phase
(neurotransmitters: dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin) - Loss of appetite and sleep, daydreaming. What stage of falling in love?
Attraction
continuing in a relationship and commitment, what stage of falling in love
Attachment
Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
I P C
Intimacy
Passion
Commitment
That lovely moment when someone understands and validates us
- Being open and vulnerable to someone they deeply trust
what triangular theory of love?
Intimacy
Communication is a key component where conversations are profound and meaningful. what triangular theory of love?
Intimacy
Intense state of being that drives a person to pursue an interest, vision, or a person
- In a romantic relationship, it involves sexual attraction
WHat triangular theory of love?
Passion
An act of deciding to consistently fulfill an agreement made with another person, entity, or cause (with integrity and respect) What triangular theory of love?
Commitment
it is expressed consistently in caring and loving actions for the beloved. what relationship
loving or romantic?
loving
it is agreeing to be in a married commitment.
loving or romantic?
romantic
8 types of love
N L I E R C F C
Non love
Liking
Infatuation
Empty Love
Romantic
Companionate
Fatuous
Consummate
No intimacy, passion, or commitment
- Usually reserved for casual relationships (acquaintances)
what type of love
non love
Only intimacy (no passion and commitment) - Friendship
- Feeling of closeness and trust
what type of love?
liking
Only passion (no intimacy and commitment)
- Physical attraction and sexual arousal (crushes)
infatuation
Only commitment (no intimacy or passion)
- Strong commitment to maintain relationship
- Unhappy and arranged marriage
what type of love?
empty love
Combination of intimacy and passion (no commitment)
- Physical and emotion bonds before married life
what type of love?
romantic love
Combination of intimacy and commitment (no passion)
- Stronger than friendship love because there is a commitment
- Long-term marriages (no need for passion because the affection still remains)
what type of love?
companionate love
Combination of passion and commitment without intimacy
- A tumultuous relationship usually seen on television
- Short-term marriages without emotional attachments
what type of love?
fatuous love
Perfect and ideal type of love
- All three components are present
- Sexually intimate years into the relationship
- Content with their partners
- Can find intimacy in divulging problems and solutions
- Difficult to maintain
what type of love?
consummate love
Two or more people perceive one another as a threat to their needs or interests (a triggering event)
- Perceived incompatibility between people
Conflict
Lack of recognition of one’s basic human values (respect or justice)
Conflict
Stages of conflict
I I I I
Intrapersonal
Interpersonal
Intragroup
Intergroup
oneself (indecision, self-doubt, etc.)
– You vs You, what stage of conflict?
Intrapersonal
between friends, family members
– You vs Other people
what stage of conflict?
interpersonal
between people in the same group
(business, organization, club, etc.)
– Leader vs Member
what stage of conflict?
intragroup
between one group and another group (varsity teams, corporations)
– One group vs Other group
what stage of conflict?
intergroup
NEGOTIATING THROUGH A PERSONAL CONFLICT SITUATION
U A E C D H
Understand the nature of the conflict
- What caused the conflict?
- Did someone lack or fail?
Acknowledge your feelings and emotions
- Be aware of the stirring emotions within you
- Verbalize these emotions constructively with the other person
Examine your relationship with the person
Clarify your intentions
- If you wish to continue your relationship with this person, solve for a collaboration or even compromise.
Discuss how much you value your relationship
- state what was done or not done to you
- ask for an explanation for the other person’s actions and intentions
Have a reconciliatory act
- Have a handshake or hug
- Grant or ask for an apology
- Promise to move on
Two basic dimensions of conflict behavior
Assertiveness
Cooperativeness
You try to satisfy your own concerns during a
conflict.
- How you might try to meet your needs or receive support for your
ideas.
Assertiveness
You try to satisfy the other individuals’ concerns.
- How you might try to help the other individual meet his or her needs or how you can be receptive to the other individuals’ ideas
Cooperativeness
5 types of conflict
Competing
Collaborating
Compromising
Avoiding
Accomodating
Assertive and uncooperative. what conflict style?
Competing
“you lose i win” what conflict style?
Competing
Both assertive and cooperative. what conflict style?
collaborating
you win, i win. what conflict style?
collaborating
Moderate/ intermediate in both assertiveness and cooperativeness. what conflict style?
Compromising
I win some, you win some
– Value of own issue/goal:
what coflict style?
compromising
Is both unassertive and uncooperative.
what conflict style?
Avoiding
– I lose, you lose
What conflict style?
avoiding
Is unassertive and cooperative. what conflict style?
Accomodating
You win, I lose
what conflict style?
Accomodating
“A group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head.”
household
Two or more persons who share resources, share responsibility for decisions, share values and goals, and have a commitment to each other over time
family
Where and how children learn their basic social
skills
family
kinds of family structure
N S E C C
Nuclear family
Single parent family
Extended family
Childless family
Contemporary family
father, mother, children
what type of family?
Nuclear
single biological parent, children. WHat type of family?
Single-parent family
(initial) nuclear families of the
parents, cousins, aunts, etc.
What family?
extended family
no children, couple. what family?
childless family
Blended families: Step-families, Adopted Families, Same-sex marriage families, etc. what family?
contemporary
Parents insisting their child learns important values, norms, and rules
- Willing to negotiate should the child resist
- Imposing certain rules is believed to develop better-adjusted children
Authoritative parenting
Learning takes place through observations (modeling)
Albert bandura’s theory of social learning
Mental states are important to learning (self-enforced or rewarded)
- Not all learning can lead to changes in behavior
albert bandura’s theory of social learning
Doing what you love to do with all your knowledge, skills, and traits to fulfill your life goals
vocation
More consistent even in different situations and conditions
- Passion
- Can be formal or informal (orthodox or unorthodox)
vocation
A profession that a person may get into (good match for goals, skills, personality, and interests with a dream job or financial-wise)
career
Internal factors affecting ones career choice.
S P M S P P P E S
Self identity/ concept
Personal preferences
Motivation
Self-confidence
Personal skills
Personality trait
Personal health
Emotional considerations
Self sabotaging thoughts
EXTERNAL FACTORS AFFECTING ONE’S CAREER CHOICE
GIIVE THREE
Parental pressure
Financial constraints
Job market demand and supply
School/Career location
Peer pressure
Gender bias
Language limitation
Academic performa
