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Communication
a systemic and transactional process where we simultaneously act as senders and receivers and use verbal and nonverbal symbols to encode and decode messages as they travel across a channel. The entire process is affected by both social, phychological and physiological noise and by the cultural, social physical and chronological context
All in effort to create shared meaning
Perception Process
Selection: What you actually decide to focus on
Organization:arrange things in someway that is meaningful (mentally fitting people in your brian, he’s mean, he’s nice, etc.)
Interpretation: Assign meaning, but it might not be accurate
Negotiation: When you actually go out and interact with someone, check in with the person
Paul Rankins Study of Communication
Talking: 30%
Writing: 9%
Reading: 16%
Listening: 45%
Listening Process: Alder, Beebe
- Hearing/Selecting: non-verbals you want to attend to, hearing is physiological where listening is psychological
- Attending: deciding what to focus on
- Understanding: interpretation, deciding what to focus on
- Responding: Do something to let the person know you are listening, could include asking for clarification letting them know you don’t understand
- Remembering
Verbal (words) & Vocal (voice)
Speaking
Non-Verbal (no words) & Vocal (voice)
Paralanguage, vocalics, tone, inflection, rate, volume fillers
Verbal (words) & non-vocal (no voice)
Writing, ASL
Non-verbal (no words) & non-vocal (no voice)
Facial expression, proxemics, posture, olifactics, gestures, eye contact, physical environment, appearance, artifacts, chronemics, kinesics, territory
Intimate Space Zone
Personal Space Zone
Social Space Zone
Public Space Zone
0-18 inches
1.5-4 feet
4-12 feet
12-
Principles of Nonverbals
They exist
They have value
Ambiguous
Culturally Bound
Primarily relational
-express how we feel but can also express content
-emblems are gestures that have direct verbal translations such as the “okay” hand signal
-illustrators: simple movement of hands and arms to emphasize message
What makes relationship interpersonal
-Quantitatively: Takes place between 2 people
-Qualitatively:
Uniqueness: How we act with our best friend, I know you, you know me, we have our own connection that is different than anyone elses
Irreplaceable:
Interdependence: depend on each other
Disclosure: how much you reveal about yourself
Intrinsic Reward: Fulfillment, feeling happy and rewarded, get something out of the relationship, the relationship itself is a reward
Self
An ever-changing systems of perspectives that is formed and sustained in communication with ourselves and others
Self-Concept
The relatively stable set of perceptions you hold of yourself at a given time
- Does not exist at birth, but evolves
- Resists change
- Subjective
- Healthy self concept is flexible
- Not only determines how you see yourself in the present bu also can affect future behavior
Self-Concept Dimensions:
Physical appearance, skills, social talents, roles, intellectual traits, emotional states, etc. It also changes.
Three Selves
Material (Body), Social, & Spiritual (introspective)
Social/Public Self vs. Spiritual/Private Self
Social Public Self is your presenting self, or your public image-the way we want to appear to others
Spiritual Private self is your perceived self-the person you believe yourself to be in moments of honest self-examination
Self-esteem
How you evaluate yourself
Reflected Appraisal Theory
We figure out who we are by how others treat us
Significant other
Person whose opinions we especially value. General other is society
Social Comparison Theory
We figure out who we are by comparing ourselves to others
Types of Social Comparisons
- We decide whether we are superior or inferior
- We decide whether we are the same as or different from others
Reference Groups
Groups who plan an important role in shaping our view of ourselves
Self-fulfilling Prophecy
Occurs when a person’s expectations of an event influence the outcome.
-Self-imposed or other-imposed
Changing Self-concept
- Need a realistic perception of yourself
- Realistic expectations
- Will and skill to change
Perception
Observe the world to make sense of it
Perception Process
- Selection: Limit frame of reference, choose, what are you focusing on/taking in? Neglect others when you take in
- Organization: Fill in the blanks, assume, arrange in meaningful way
- Interpretation: Assign/ attribute meaning
- Negotiation: Share your interpretations, check in, learn, see where they’re coming from because they are sane
Influences on Perception
- Fatigue
- Hunger
- Senses
- Age
- Health
- Culture
- Social Roles
- Self-Concept
Perception Barriers
- Judge ourselves more charitably than others
- Influenced by what is most obvious/ignore details
- Cling to first impressions/hold on to preconceptions and stereotypes
- Assume others are similar to us
- Focus on the negative
- Over-generalizing
- Preferring simple explanations
- See only the good or bad
Improving Perceptions
- Increase understanding of perception process
- Check our perceptions with perception check statement:
1. describe behavior (who, what, when)
2. provide 2 possible interpretations for behavior
3. request feedback/clarification
Symbolic
Arbitrary, ambiguous, and abstract representation of a phenomenon
-meanings are in people, not words, and we use symbols to communicate meaning
Rule Governed
Patterned ways of behaving and interpreting behavior
- syntax: punctuation, grammar, arranging words
- semantics: governs words meaning
- phonetics: how to say words (phonics)
- can get over rule governed rules with bffs because create new language
Subjective
With bias, in the mind, personalized
Bypassing
Same words, different meanings
- process when we become confused about words meanings. Ex. safe could mean not harmed, or a chest
- -equivocal terms->ambiguous->bypassing
- equivocal terms are ambiguous language which leads to bypassing