Negotiating Flashcards
What is negotiation?
The (often) ongoing process through which two or more parties, whose positions are not necessarily consistent, work in an effort to reach an agreement
Do you need to know how to negotiate?
Yes, everyone will negotiate many times throughout their life, even if it’s not in an official capacity
What is “negotiaphobia”
Disease of attitude and skill deficiency: when people are so terrified of having to negotiate that they avoid it at all costs
Describe the three-step EASY treatment process for negotiation: what does EASY stand for?
- Engage
- Assess
- Strategize
- Your One Minute Drill
What is the first step in the negotiation process? Describe it
Engage: recognize you are in a negotiation and quickly review the viable strategies
What is the second step in the negotiation process? Describe it
Assess: Evaluate your tendency to use each of the negotiation strategies, as well as the tendencies of the other side
What is the third step in the negotiation process? Describe it
Strategize: select the proper strategy for this particular negotiation (based on the context and the other person’s strategy)
What do you do before each negotiation?
Your One Minute Drill: take a minute to review the three steps
What are three conditions you need to meet before you can effectively use compromise?
- Late in the negotiation process after legitimate strategies are fully used
- When only a small gap remains on one issue
- Always directly tied to an agreement
What are the four negotiating strategies?
- Competition
- Collaboration
- Accommodation
- Avoidance
Describe the win/lose situation of competition
You win, they lose
Describe the win/lose situation of collaboration
You both win
Describe the win/lose situation of accommodation
You lose, they win
Describe the win/lose situation of avoidance
You both lose
Describe competition
Low cooperation, proactive. Not a relationship building strategy; a “hard line” approach. “I need it my way, or nobody gets anything”
Describe collaboration
High cooperation, proactive. A relationship building strategy, both people end up happy
Describe accommodation
High cooperation, reactive. You are willing to meet their conditions
Describe avoidance
Low cooperation, reactive. The people who don’t want to negotiate because they don’t have the skill set
What are the labels on the axes on the negotiation graph?
Proactive (north), High cooperation (east), Reactive (south), Low cooperation (west)
What really matters in negotiation? Why?
How the other side sees you, because it affects how they negotiate with you
What are the two categories of collaborators?
- Sages
2. Dreamers
Describe what sages are; what are their characteristics?
Sages are wise, they understand that collaboration is not always possible. The sage looks to see if the other person is ready and able to collaborate, and is wise enough to recognize that they need the other person in order to collaborate effectively
Describe what dreamers are; what are their characteristics?
Dreamers are the people who don’t understand that collaboration is not always possible. They think that both parties will win each time. They are a little bit naïve; they believe you will collaborate immediately in all situations
What does “unilateral collaboration is de facto accommodation” mean?
You can’t collaborate without the other people as well
How do you know if you are a sage or a dreamer?
If second highest score is competitive, you are most likely a sage. If second highest score is accommodative, you are mostly likely a dreamer
Why is there a concern when the number for any strategy is way too high?
That means that you deploy this strategy regardless of the situation and the strategy used by the other party, which often results in non-effective negotiation
How can you recognize someone else’s negotiation tendency?
You need to be observant enough to recognize it based on their behavioural style and/or company culture