Muslim Kitabul Nikkah Flashcards
قَالَ كُنْتُ أَمْشِي مَعَ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بِمِنًى فَلَقِيَهُ عُثْمَانُ فَقَامَ مَعَهُ يُحَدِّثُهُ فَقَالَ لَهُ عُثْمَانُ يَا أَبَا عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ أَلاَ نُزَوِّجُكَ جَارِيَةً شَابَّةً لَعَلَّهَا تُذَكِّرُكَ بَعْضَ مَا مَضَى مِنْ زَمَانِكَ . قَالَ فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ لَئِنْ قُلْتَ ذَاكَ لَقَدْ قَالَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم “ يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ فَإِنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ وَأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءٌ ” .
He Said: I was walking with Abdullah in Mina. So I met Usman, so i stood with him so he began talking. So Uthman said to him: Oh Abu Rahman. Shall I not get you married to a young slave? So that she can remind you about part what has past from your time. So he said: “ So Abdullah began to speak: So if you say: So indeed the prophet said to us “Oh young men, whoever has the means from amongst you to support so then he should get married for 2 main reasons: He can restrain his eyes and to protect fis private parts. so whoever does not have the means so upon him is fasting. so indeed it controls his desires.
أَنَّ نَفَرًا، مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم سَأَلُوا أَزْوَاجَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَنْ عَمَلِهِ فِي السِّرِّ فَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ لاَ أَتَزَوَّجُ النِّسَاءَ . وَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ لاَ آكُلُ اللَّحْمَ . وَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ لاَ أَنَامُ عَلَى فِرَاشٍ . فَحَمِدَ اللَّهَ وَأَثْنَى عَلَيْهِ . فَقَالَ “ مَا بَالُ أَقْوَامٍ قَالُوا كَذَا وَكَذَا لَكِنِّي أُصَلِّي وَأَنَامُ وَأَصُومُ وَأُفْطِرُ وَأَتَزَوَّجُ النِّسَاءَ فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي ” .
A Group from the companions of the Nabi SAWS asked about the actions done in privacy with their spouses. So some of the companions said: I shall not marry women and some said i wont eat meat and some said I will not sleep on a bed. So he praised Allah and glorified him and said: “ What has happened to the people who say this and this. Indeed I pray and i also sleep. I fast and i also break my fast and I have married women. So whoever turns away from my sunnah then he is not from me.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم رَأَى امْرَأَةً فَأَتَى امْرَأَتَهُ زَيْنَبَ وَهْىَ تَمْعَسُ مَنِيئَةً لَهَا فَقَضَى حَاجَتَهُ ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلَى أَصْحَابِهِ فَقَالَ “ إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ تُقْبِلُ فِي صُورَةِ شَيْطَانٍ وَتُدْبِرُ فِي صُورَةِ شَيْطَانٍ فَإِذَا أَبْصَرَ أَحَدُكُمُ امْرَأَةً فَلْيَأْتِ أَهْلَهُ فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ يَرُدُّ مَا فِي نَفْسِهِ ” .
Indeed the Prophet SAWS saw a women so he came back to his wife Zainab and she was working with leather. So he fufilled his need. “then he left and went to his companions. He said: Indeed women they call in the form of Shaytaan and they reire in the form of Shaytaan. so when any one of you sees a women (other than his wife) he should go to his wife. So indeed it takes away what is in his soul.
عَنْ قَيْسٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ، يَقُولُ كُنَّا نَغْزُو مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لَيْسَ لَنَا نِسَاءٌ فَقُلْنَا أَلاَ نَسْتَخْصِي فَنَهَانَا عَنْ ذَلِكَ ثُمَّ رَخَّصَ لَنَا أَنْ نَنْكِحَ الْمَرْأَةَ بِالثَّوْبِ إِلَى أَجَلٍ ثُمَّ قَرَأَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ { يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لاَ تُحَرِّمُوا طَيِّبَاتِ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ وَلاَ تَعْتَدُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ لاَ يُحِبُّ الْمُعْتَدِينَ} .
Qisas Said: “Indeed we were with the prophet saws in the battle field. we did not have women with us. so we said “Shall we not constrain ourselves? But we were stopped from this, then a leniency was given for us that one can marry a women giving garments for a temporary time. So Abdullah (RA) recited: ““Oh those who believe, do not make it haram those pure things what Allah has made pure upon you and do not exceed the limit. indeed Allah does not love those who exceed the limit)) “Surah Maidah”
قَالَ عَطَاءٌ قَدِمَ جَابِرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ مُعْتَمِرًا فَجِئْنَاهُ فِي مَنْزِلِهِ فَسَأَلَهُ الْقَوْمُ عَنْ أَشْيَاءَ ثُمَّ ذَكَرُوا الْمُتْعَةَ فَقَالَ نَعَمِ اسْتَمْتَعْنَا عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَأَبِي بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرَ .
Ata said “Sabir(RA) went to Ummrah, so we came to him where he was, the people began to question him about somethings. then he mentioned temporary marriage. So he said : “yes we did mu’tu’a. At the time of Nabi SAWS and the time of abu bakr and umar.
Battle of Kaybar is where the ruling was erradicated
، سَبْرَةَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ أَذِنَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِالْمُتْعَةِ فَانْطَلَقْتُ أَنَا وَرَجُلٌ إِلَى امْرَأَةٍ مِنْ بَنِي عَامِرٍ كَأَنَّهَا بَكْرَةٌ عَيْطَاءُ فَعَرَضْنَا عَلَيْهَا أَنْفُسَنَا فَقَالَتْ مَا تُعْطِي فَقُلْتُ رِدَائِي . وَقَالَ صَاحِبِي رِدَائِي . وَكَانَ رِدَاءُ صَاحِبِي أَجْوَدَ مِنْ رِدَائِي وَ كُنْتُ أَشَبَّ مِنْهُ فَإِذَا نَظَرَتْ إِلَى رِدَاءِ صَاحِبِي أَعْجَبَهَا وَإِذَا نَظَرَتْ إِلَىَّ أَعْجَبْتُهَا ثُمَّ قَالَتْ أَنْتَ وَرِدَاؤُكَ يَكْفِينِي . فَمَكَثْتُ مَعَهَا ثَلاَثًا ثُمَّ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ “ مَنْ كَانَ عِنْدَهُ شَىْءٌ مِنْ هَذِهِ النِّسَاءِ الَّتِي يَتَمَتَّعُ فَلْيُخَلِّ سَبِيلَهَا ” .
The Prophet SAWS gave us permission to enter a temp marriage, so i went and another man to a women from Bani Amr with the intention of temp marriage. It was as though her neck was as long as a camel. they presented themselves to her. so she said: “What are you going to give to me?” I Said “My Cloak” and my companion said: “ I also have my cloak” So my companison shawl was better than mine, but i was younger than him. so when she looked to his shawl, she liked it and when she looked to me she liked my apperance. Then she said: You are your cloak are better for me” (Abi Sabra) so i stayed with her for 3 days. The prophet SAWS said “Whoever has something from this women in regards to Mutua then he should set her free”
“ يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنِّي قَدْ كُنْتُ أَذِنْتُ لَكُمْ فِي الاِسْتِمْتَاعِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ قَدْ حَرَّمَ ذَلِكَ إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ فَمَنْ كَانَ عِنْدَهُ مِنْهُنَّ شَىْءٌ فَلْيُخَلِّ سَبِيلَهُ وَلاَ تَأْخُذُوا مِمَّا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا” .
Oh People, indeed i have allowed for you temporary marriage with women, indeed Allah has made it haram than till the day of Qiyamah. if you have anything from them so let it be in her way and so not take from what anything you gave them.
“ لاَ يُجْمَعُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَعَمَّتِهَا وَلاَ بَيْنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَخَالَتِهَا” .
There is no combination between a women and his dads sister and between a women and her mums sister.
“ لاَ يَخْطُبُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ وَلاَ يَسُومُ عَلَى سَوْمِ أَخِيهِ وَلاَ تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى عَمَّتِهَا وَلاَ عَلَى خَالَتِهَا وَلاَ تَسْأَلُ الْمَرْأَةُ طَلاَقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتَكْتَفِئَ صَحْفَتَهَا وَلْتَنْكِحْ فَإِنَّمَا لَهَا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَهَا ” .
A man should not propose over the proposal of his brother, do not fix a price over the price of his brother, and do not combine a women over her dads sister and over mums sister or do not initiate a women divorced of her sister to deprive her. indeed she should marry her share. indeed for her is what Allah has written for her.
“ لاَ يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلاَ يُنْكَحُ وَلاَ يَخْطُبُ ” .
There is no nikkah for someone in the state of ihram and to arrange a marriage or send a proposal.
“ لاَ يَبِعْ بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى بَيْعِ بَعْضٍ وَلاَ يَخْطُبْ بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ بَعْضٍ ” .
There is no transaction upon yourselves over the transaction over someone else and do not propose over the proposal of someone else.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم نَهَى عَنِ الشِّغَارِ . وَالشِّغَارُ أَنْ يُزَوِّجَ الرَّجُلُ ابْنَتَهُ عَلَى أَنْ يُزَوِّجَهُ ابْنَتَهُ وَلَيْسَ بَيْنَهُمَا صَدَاقٌ .
Indeed Rasullah SAWS prevented from Nikkah of Shigar. Shigaar: A man gives nikkah of his daughter on that the other gives his daughter. there is no dowry between them.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ” لاَ تُنْكَحُ الأَيِّمُ حَتَّى تُسْتَأْمَرَ وَلاَ تُنْكَحُ الْبِكْرُ حَتَّى تُسْتَأْذَنَ ” . قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَكَيْفَ إِذْنُهَا قَالَ ” أَنْ تَسْكُتَ ” .
~Indeed the prophet saws said there is no nikkah for a non virgin until she openly gives permission. there is no nikkah for a virgin until she gives permission. They said “Oh Rasuallah, how is her permission? he said “she remains silent”
“ الأَيِّمُ أَحَقُّ بِنَفْسِهَا مِنْ وَلِيِّهَا وَالْبِكْرُ تُسْتَأْذَنُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَإِذْنُهَا صُمَاتُهَا ” . قَالَ نَعَمْ .
A non virgin wome is more responsible over herself than her Wali, and a virgin must seek permisson from herself, is her silence permission? He said: Yes
عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ تَزَوَّجَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لِسِتِّ سِنِينَ وَبَنَى بِي وَأَنَا بِنْتُ تِسْعِ سِنِينَ . قَالَتْ فَقَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ فَوُعِكْتُ شَهْرًا فَوَفَى شَعْرِي جُمَيْمَةً فَأَتَتْنِي أُمُّ رُومَانَ وَأَنَا عَلَى أُرْجُوحَةٍ وَمَعِي صَوَاحِبِي فَصَرَخَتْ بِي فَأَتَيْتُهَا وَمَا أَدْرِي مَا تُرِيدُ بِي فَأَخَذَتْ بِيَدِي فَأَوْقَفَتْنِي عَلَى الْبَابِ . فَقُلْتُ هَهْ هَهْ . حَتَّى ذَهَبَ نَفَسِي فَأَدْخَلَتْنِي بَيْتًا فَإِذَا نِسْوَةٌ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ فَقُلْنَ عَلَى الْخَيْرِ وَالْبَرَكَةِ وَعَلَى خَيْرِ طَائِرٍ . فَأَسْلَمَتْنِي إِلَيْهِنَّ فَغَسَلْنَ رَأْسِي وَأَصْلَحْنَنِي فَلَمْ يَرُعْنِي إِلاَّ وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ضُحًى فَأَسْلَمْنَنِي إِلَيْهِ .
Aishah RA said “ Rasuallah SAWS married me when i was 6 year old and i went to him when i was 9 years old. she said “ so we went to Madinah as i had strong fever and my hair was reaching my earlobes. so mother Ruman came to me and i was playing on the swing and with me as my friend. so my mother came to me and i came to her and i didnt know what she intended by this call. so she took me by my hand and took me to the door so she said to me Ah Ah, until her agitation went to me, so then she took me to the house from there. there was a women from the ansar. they said upon goodness and blessings and good fortune. then she entrusted me to them so they washed my hair and embellished me and i was not frightened except Rasuallah SAWS came to the next morning so they entrusted me to him.
