Mindset Flashcards
Repetition
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What is the pain motivator?
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Strenuous work, (Toxic dust)
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“If I do not do it, who will” = _________?
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Ownership
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The only thing that matters?
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How you feel about yourself when you are by yourself.
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Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and weak minds discuss people.
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If you feel Burnout?
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Stop immediately, must avoid a mortality event
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Goal-based judgment calls
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“Does it move me to my goals and current objectives” Simple way to make decisions and filter emotions
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Goals must have? Three things
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WHAT, HOW, and a by WHEN
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When getting answers, information from people
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Yes, no, or a restraining order
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Be obsessed with “ “
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“Is it working or not” Do not tie up your self-esteem in it
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Be skeptical of your ideas
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Skeptical of everything. Dont lose self confidence
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Anti-fragile identity
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Learner
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Don’t praise the intelligence, Praise ______?
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Praise the process
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Excuses are__________?
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Real and terrifyingly valid. They will destroy you.
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The last 10% takes as much as ____________
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as the first 90%. Recognize when you need to just push through.
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Balance obsession and delusion
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The delusion will give you something larger than life to shoot for.
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Growth mindset =
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Believing you are not limited by your current position or how you were born
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False growth mindset =
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Thinking you’re growing, but not making any progress towards goals/objectives
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Extreme Ownership
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Own everything
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Attributing Agency to Difficulty
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Giving power to difficulty. Do not let it happen
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Physiological immune system
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Designed to protect you, but will lie to you. “It’s okay you didn’t get the job, you didn’t want it anyway”
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Alway find a path to YES
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You are a meaning-making machine
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Deep limbic system- the only job is to assign meaning. Right or wrong
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Your brain uses shortcuts
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Heuristics. Made to save energy, but make sure you make good ones or they will fuck you up faster and more efficiently
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Your brain has modes: Sympathetic and parasympathetic
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Sympathetic- fight or flight
Parasympathetic- Rest and Digest
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Thinking: All or Nothing
Black or white, Success or Failure. Nothing in between
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Thinking: Overgeneralizing
When you apply one detail of a scenario to every aspect of your life.
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Thinking: Catastrophizing
When you imagine the domino effect of a worst-case scenario
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Thinking: Personalization
Making everything about you, whether it applies or not
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Thinking: Mind reading
When you convince yourself that you know what people are thinking.
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Thinking: Mental filtering
Focusing on the negative and ignoring the positive. We tend to assume the negative to protect ourselves (Survival instinct)
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Thinking: Emotional reasoning
Inaccurate belief that your emotions are the truth. There is no relationship between feelings and truth
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You are having a biological experience
Tug of war between mind and physics
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Thinking: Labeling
Basing your identity on a single behavior, characteristic, or event
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Thinking: Fortune Telling
Predicting the future through the lens of your beliefs. Beliefs are assigned meanings and narratives about yourself and the world. If your beliefs are negative you will predict a negative outcome. This is the root of anxiety.
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Brain and body are a singular unit
Body talks to brain (Gut Biome). Deep limbic system will take signals from body to assign meaning to external events. (Chile Enchilada)
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"What you allow yourself to repeat...
...you will become."
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"You're never going to be able to move forward in the way that you want...UNLESS...
You can compel yourself to act."
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 1
Optimize your mind and body
Sleep, meditate, exercise, diet, joyful connection
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 2
Get hyped on yourself
-earn self-credibilty
1. set small goal
2. achieve the goal
3. never waiver (no excuses)
4. repeat
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 3
aim to something you care deeply about
-gives you energy-
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 4
build discipline into self-identity
"I'm the type of person who _________"
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 5
trap yourself with congruence
tell other people, create another source of accountability
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 6
create a discipline rule set
-what are the things you must do-
1. Be extremely truthful (it makes you act truthfully)
2. Dont allow impulse decisions
3. Think to create action. Act to create new thoughts
4. Mix in the inevitable overhead work.
5. What you start, is what you finish (Be careful of what you start)
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 7
Make failure hard
-Simplify and eliminate decisions
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 8
reward and punish yourself
Carefully, 80% reward - 20% punish until you get a handle on yourself
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Steps to iron-clad discipline
Step 9
surround yourself with disciplined people
-like everything, surround yourself with people who have what you want.
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Creating Clarity
Step 1
Quiet your mind
-Find a quiet centered space to create clarity
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Creating Clarity
Step 2
Decide what you're going to want
1. starter business to buy a larger business
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stop comparing yourself to others
comparison is the thief of joy
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Creating Clarity
Step 3
identify the person living your ideal life
-list five things (Not RSTLE) about them
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Creating Clarity
Step 4
interact with the 5 "perfect" things
-find the ways to achieve the 5
-two outcomes: 1. Nothing feels right ( tried 10 or so things but nothing feels right; the problem is your commitment) 2. They all feel right ( You have to choose one and go hard)
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Creating Clarity
Step 5
create certainty from confusion
-1. map out daily life with your new pursuit
-2. when in doubt, zoom out
-3. control internal dialog
-4. double down on skill acquisition
-5. set a timer
-6. emotionally reward yourself
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Inputs and outputs of clarity
Open and close doors based on something as close to data as we can get. I/O
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60% cool- 40% overhead
Overhead is the boring (not fun) stuff that has to be done. Only do as much overhead as it takes to return to the cool stuff.
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Share of stomach
(Even if someone is in a different market than you) There is a finite amount of eyes and time to share amongst everyone.
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Get comfortable with the idea that nothing will feel obviously right.
You dont need to overcome uncertainty, only paralysis.
-Certainty does not become a condition of action, except for certainty around the fact that action is the most effective way to learn.
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Get unstuck: 1. Reframe, Release, and forgive
Drop the weights holding you down.
Reframe them as learned lessons.
Forgiveness is for your benefit.
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Get unstuck: 2. Own your life
The rest of your life is your responsibility. It can be anything you make it. Define what you need and spend your life achieving that.
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Get unstuck: 3. Learn to create new values
Define clearly what you value. They will progress you towards the needs in your life. If they do not, why do you value the lack of progress?
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Get unstuck: 4. Build this value stack
Self-Reliance- Adopt the mentality of not looking for people to save you. Accept that no one will come and rescue you.
Growth- Value the notion of getting better at something. Once you fall in love with the idea of progress and its role in human potential, the reality of growth will drive you to improve daily.
Resilience- Toughen the fuck up. Treat pain as a reminder that there is something valuable on the other side. (Habit loop trigger) Feel pain = work harder, push through by any means, as fast as possible, and see the reward on the other side.
Antifragility- The more you are challenged the better you get from it. Value encountering challenges and learning from them.
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Get unstuck: 5. Create an exciting vision for your future
You must create a clear picture of your future life, so you know what you are working toward. Using Introspection, choose what brings you joy and excitement. That starts a rough plan to get you feeling unstuck to start moving forward.
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Get unstuck: 6. Get your mind right
Get rid of mental distortions:
-Filtered negative thoughts
-Polarized thinking
-Overgeneralizing
-Jumping to conclusions
-Catastrophizing
-Emotional reasoning
-A "Should" mindset (The world should be this way etc.)
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Transition time debt
The amount of time lost switching from one thing and starting something else.
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What is momentum
Enough baby steps in the right direction will make it easier to progress to larger steps toward your goals. Things start making themselves happen.
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Landmarks
Specific points throughout time to reflect on progress towards your goals. More than once a year, every month maybe.
During the Landmark evaluation ask "Is this really working?" with brutal honesty
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O.K.R
Objectives and Key Results: Have a Bianary set of O.K.R's. Must be measured by a YES or NO. Include dates and be specific, and measurable. *Recommendation- 3-5 big objectives per year, 3-5 Key Results per objective.
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Why progress matters
Exploration (Curiosity), Mastery (Understand and Conquer), Connection (Desire to connect), Serve (Contribute)
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Effective reflection: 1. Make Time
You are never too busy to prioritize Reflection. You made time to be busy doing other things, you need to make time to Reflect. It should feel good to Reflect. It's one thing that will get you the life you want.
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Effective reflection: 2. Create Silence
You need silence in order to explore your conscious and subconscious mind. By unraveling the feelings attached to your emotions, you will better understand why you react to things the way you do. Then, you'll be in charge of your behaviors.
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Effective reflection: 3. Thinkation
Using the brain state created from meditation to think through problems, prioritize, and expand onto goals. Taking advantage of the calm brain state where you and your surroundings do not affect your thought process.
1. Picture the purpose (topic) of your Thinkation.
2. Get into your calm meditative state
3. As you meditate, return back to your topic like it was the breath.
4. As thoughts bubble up, write them down, go back for more.
5. Whether good or bad, find their root and use hem where necessary.
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Effective reflection: 4. Clear the way for truth
Reflection is pointless without Truth. "Stare Nakedly at your inadequacies". Setting low goals and lying about progress is a false growth mindset. You need to know, truthfully, when you are progressing
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Effective reflection: 5. Rate your progress
Use binary scale like 1-10. Rate your year from start to finish. Remember: You are rating your progress, not if you hit your goal.
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Effective reflection: 6. Make no excuses
The hardest part is that they can be valid. The psychological immune system plays a role in excuse-making. It soothes the ego and protects you from harsh truths. DON'T LET IT WIN.
1. Extreme Ownership- Own everything in your life. Nothing external controls your destiny.
2. Detach your self-esteem from success- judge and reward yourself for sincere pursuit. Are you really giving it your all? Did you leave everything on the table?
Ask yourself that instead of patting yourself on the back.
3. Stop tolerating excuses- Develop awareness around your excuses. Be able to spot and reject them immediately.
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Effective reflection: 7. Set Goals
Put action behind your dreams by setting goals. Be terrifyingly specific about what you want. In one crisp sentence state your dream. Layout what you need to get there with goals and due dates, binary (measurable) objectives.
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Effective reflection: 8. Formalize the process
Using the O.K.R or K.P.I methods, formalize your process for tracking goals.
EX.
Objective: Study 5 mindset flashcards every day for 15 weeks
Key result 1: Study one card per meal
Key result 2: Study one card while pooping
Key result 3: study two cards before bed
KPI: When I ate, did I study a card? YES/NO
KPI: Before bed, did I study two cards? YES/NO
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You are inherently lazy. You need to find motivators and techniques to avoid the impulse.
1. Environmental design- Make it physically hard to be lazy
2. Mindset motivators: Don't disappoint people you respect. Take to heart who you want to become and what that will take (Being lazy is not one of them). Feed your incredible desire to be autonomous.
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Don't be so cautious it prevents you from exploring and taking risks.
Experimenting will propel you far faster than analyzing on paper.
If you want to be interesting, you need to live an interesting life.
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Always test your beliefs and ideals
Ask yourself: "Do I really need all this?" "Is it time for action?"
"Am I really headed in the right direction"
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Find the lead domino
Your effort to one domino will take out many others on its own. Best bang for the buck.
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Opinion: "Life begins at forty, everything before is just experimenting"
Explore Damn it. Take a calculated risk and be rewarded. You cannot earn more time, but you can earn a shit ton more money in a heartbeat.
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Goal stick: 5 key principles
1. Commitment- Go all in until it's done
2. Clarity- One defining sentence of direction
3. Challenging- You need to feel a stretch to progress. The stretch creates excitement.
4. Task complexity- We don't do overwhelm. Do not change the goal, change the action steps to make it manageable.
5. Feedback- Social accountability is important, but don't forget to keep things sacred.
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Goal stick: How/What equation
(What + Plan) x (Commitment + Passion) = Completion
What: Must be perceived as valuable, stay committed to, have a sense of how to achieve it.
A powerful WHAT, that you believe is valuable to attain, will create motivation and interest. That M and I will help create the plan. Progress and positive checkpoints, in the plan, will create a belief it can be done. Belief creates commitment. When all else fails, your discipline will push you to the next M and I checkpoint and keep you on track.
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Goal stick: Tom's 7 key's
1. Clarity and focus- One defining sentence of direction with a deadline. Sustain focus, not just initial clarity. Create reinforcement and excitement with physical imagery. Maintain constant interaction with your goal.
2. Massive excitement- Your (Goal, why, what, destination) needs to make you excited. Desire is a powerful motive force behind progress.
3. Massive Pressure- Decide on your identity. Who do you want to be, because that is what you do. Create peer pressure by sharing with like-minded people. Create a fear of Quitting!
4. Be Strategic- Make an If/Then hypothesis, take your best guess and get to the action. Research, find who has done it before. Get to know why it worked, why it worked is more important then what it was. Things are different for you, understanding the physics of why will help shape to a different environment.
5. Take action- It is essential to test your theories and test what you have learned from the book. Action cures all.
6. Evaluate and adjust- What gets measured gets improved
7. Accountability- You need to ensure you are getting stuff done, because that is the minimum requirement of progress. It is an element of self-control. Self-control is the holy grail of personal assets.
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Goal stick: 3 steps to build desire
1. Visualize- imagery (pictures, vivid internal paintings)
2. Find a strong why. Constantly think and boil down what is that "WHY".
3. Invest emotionally. Get hyped on yourself, it will make what you do feel much more important.
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Goal stick: Boredom
Creating "Boredom", resisting easy forms of dopamine hits (social media, youtube, reddit), allows you to loop around your goals. Think about them, the challenges associated, and create solutions or more action steps.
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When Boredom, Fatigue, and Doubt creep in...
Deploy Excitement and pressure. This will keep you in the long game. Remember: You only lose when you stop trying, but you can become very inefficient in the short term with boredom, Fatigue, and Doubt.
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Your first strategy is wrong...
Just start somewhere. Then, adjust, adjust, adjust using real-time data and constructive feedback.
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Belief in yourself is Built...
This takes baby steps or big leaps, whatever keeps you progressing without a mortality event.
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Mortality event
An event that is all or nothing. This is not a risk worth doing. Not worth losing everything you have physically built. *Remember: You will still have your Knowledge and Skill stack.*
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efficiency trumps everything...
When learning new things and raging to master them, being efficient is the most important. (Producing results with minimal waste) Do whatever it takes to be efficient.
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Progress mode
Do and act ONLY that moves you towards your goal
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Do not be a slave to your mind
You must control your thoughts emotions etc etc
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Comparison is the thief of..."__"
joy
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Principal of proximity
We do not find things to compare ourselves to. We compare ourselves to the things we see around us. STOP IT
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Take selfish time
Deliberately take time to step away from day to day running and do something you enjoy. Something for yourself
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Consistency over..."__"
Perfection. The one that makes the most pots will make the best pots.
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Bright lines
Binary choices you live by. YES or NO, nothing in between.
Yes- Tell the truth and act truthful
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ii = io
ideas in = ideas out
Taking in info and ideas will help create Improved or new ones. Don't try to make something of nothing. Humans are meaning making machines and feed off info taken in
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What is the standard you hold yourself to?
Find it, work your way to it, then hold yourself there.
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If you want self-worth
You must! Do things that are worthy
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"Parroting"
Repeating things heard or read without understanding what it means.
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Earn self-respect: "Be so good, they cannot ignore you."
This works on every level. Family friends won't be able to talk down to you. Business professionals will take you seriously. You'll have large amounts of self-confidence that will carry you over the insignificant "Haters"
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"Fake it, til you make it."
This delusion can provide you with a surge of confidence to command a room and get you rolling into learning in swarms. It is not forever, but with the right internal narrative, can be very motivating short term.
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Strong convictions, loosely held
You present something you feel is correct with stern confidence, but you are willing to hear counter thoughts on why you may be wrong.
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Keep asking yourself "Am I any closer to... *Insert goal here*"
If you are not, then break it down into the working pieces and find out how to manipulate them further.
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Don't be "Patient"
Be actively patient. Work all the angles, and keep the momentum. Do not stop and wait. Keep working the angles
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Most destructive thought...EVER...
"You cannot get better." Saying you are incapable of improvement or unworthy. It will tear you down in every way and its the greatest lie you'd ever tell yourself.
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Reframe stress as a challenge
Take mental control and conquer
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Greatness is what you do every day...
Therefore it is a habit. Make sure you have great habits.
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Accountability question. Zero tolerance for weakness
Why don't I want to do ____________? Is this a moment of weakness or am I just excited to move on to the next thing?
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Mantras can be powerful forms of repetition.
Do not mentally masturbate. Make sure these mantras help you create results towards your goals.
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The 3 values
1. Tell the truth no matter what. It will force you
to act in a matter that you can tell anyone about.
Less stressful when there are no secrets.
2. Seek first to understand. This will get more
accurate results faster. You'll learn more in
the long run.
3. The platinum rule: Treat others the way they
want to be treated, regardless of how they
treat you. You will get better cooperation
and you can always walk away if they dont
reciprocate
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My mantra
"Remember why you started (Autonomy, trapped) and where you want to go."
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It is routinely better to embarrass yourself and fail by taking action than standing still.
You will learn far more and there is a much higher chance of success and progress by taking action than standing still
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Once you epiphany and learn something...
Then it is only a matter of "How much time" until you apply it next to create a solution. You have it, be diligent to use it immediately when the opportunity arises.
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Activity-Dependent Plasticity (3 things)
Dependent on: Your behaviors "actions", Your environment, and Your thoughts.
YES...your thoughts alone can change your brain's structure.
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greatness requires time, patience, and insane commitment to eternally improve your skill sets.
-Tim Grover
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Primary human drivers of behavior...
Acquisitiveness- The reward of acquiring something. Money, status, skills
Autonomy- Ability to do things at your own will
Meaning- The need to understand why we are doing something.
Significance- How does what I do matter to the bigger picture.
Desire of Mastery- Attainting a skill set that propels us forward
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Prep yourself for personal growth: Step 1
Master prioritizing: Initially prioritize things by possible lead domino. Lay it out so you can get to action. Through action you will learn what the actual priorities are.
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Prep yourself for personal growth: Step 2
The Power of NO: Unapologetically, close doors and remember everything that can be sacrificed everyday so you can stay focused on what matters.
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Prep yourself for personal growth: Step 3
Manage time according to priorities:
-Create and update "Important things list"
-Write out exact goals
-Schedule time for learning and practice
-Focus, one thing at a time, on what needs to be done "Lead Dominos"
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Prep yourself for personal growth: Step 4
Set the intension: Take actions to reinforce the future life you want. Remind yourself what you are doing now to get there and where you want to go. (The past and current life is more immediate and can cause your vision of the future to fade often)
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Prep yourself for personal growth: Step 5
Shut down the ego and actually learn:
-Listen and learn
-Learn from anyone
-Embrace mistakes and failure
-Embrace truth of your personality
-Embrace the truth of your current skillset
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What do you need to change the brain?
Stimulus!
-Behavior- spend the time doing the things you want your brain to get better at. Repetition
-Environment- Surroundings dictate what your mind absorbs
-Thoughts- Repetitive thoughts will wire your brain a certain way and can turn genes on and off. Be careful what you think!
-Emotions- How you feel and react to things mirror the brains response patterns. Make sure your brain is digesting feeling accordingly.
-Active learning- Neurons the fire together wire together. Physical Engagement will wire in new functions into the brain.
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3 stages of skill aquistion
1. Cognitive learning- Consciously try to understand new concepts
2. Associative learning- Environmentally cued timing develops in the learning. More automatic than cognitive
3. Autonomous Learning- learning with the default network, conscious thought begins to cease. A different part of the brain is activated for learning
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Use scientific method
1. Ask questions - find subject of hypothesis
2. Research to action- avoid starting from scratch. Anyone already done it?
3. Hypothesis- If and Then statement
4. Test it with experiment
5. Analyze data and draw conclusion
