MidTerm Flashcards
Commitment is dedicated to promote each other’s ________________ and _________________.
welfare & happiness
What are the two types of times necessary for fantastic families?
Quality/Quantity
This belief in the quality of a strong family provides strength and purpose.
Spiritual Well-Being
_________________ is emotionally driven.
affection
We (people) want to be ________________ for who we are and for what we do
valued
What is one way in ending fragmentation within the commitment of families?
Setting Boundaries
According to your notes, when a person commits to the long haul, they are hanging in there through difficult ________________.
times
To have a fantastic family one needs to examine their marriage for DANGER SIGNS
Danger Signs
When children can come and talk to their parents at any time and about anything, this is called the ________________.
Open Door Policy
To handle a conflict correctly, one must_____________________________
Ban the Bombs
Good communication promotes mental _________________
health
A secret to cultivating appreciation and affection is to ______________________
Dig for Diamonds
_______________________ expressions of appreciation gracefully.
Accept
A rule for good communication is to get inside the other person’s _______________________
World
Good communication builds ___________
belonging
James 1:9
Wherefore my beloved brethren be slow to speak slow to anger and slow to wrath.
Parents/Caregivers are overprotecting when they are ____________ children from everything
Rescuing
A way parents, caregivers and counselors overindulge is that we ___________ them.
Bribe
Not all parents have a ___________ impact on their children
Positive
Ultimate parenting example is to pass on our _______________
faith
All relationships require a ________________ of time and effort
commitment
Too much overprotection keeps kids from growing into strong, _____________ adults
independent
Over-controlling parents can constantly demand and ______________
critique
Parents are motivated by ___________ or wanting to improve on their childhood when they are overindulging
guilt
Children should get what they ______ not what they want
need
According to your notes, Children are a ___________ from God
gift
Most parents are working hard to raise their children, but find that kids are ____________
defiant
Overindulging prevents ________ and encourages spoiling
maturity
Stressing _______ through achievement and then achievement to perfectionism is unreasonable
success
Best to learn from mistakes _____ in life
early
___________ displayed how to and how not to have a positive impact on children
David
What are the two losses that parents and children deal with in unhealthy love?
physical/experience
When we are facing fear, parent’s/caregiver tend to ______________
over indulge
A reason we give unhealthy love is because we are compensating for an absent ______
parent
When getting back at a spouse a split family can use kids as ________
pawns
Parents tend to feed off their children’s __________
achievements
Ephesians 6:1-3 tells us that ___________ will bring self-discipline, and this brings stability leading to a long life
obedience
The key to understanding a child lies in understanding the child’s perceptual field. Only __________ will change perceptions
experience
Parents/caregivers hurry children toward independence before they are ______________ ready
emotionally
Children _____________ themselves more fully and more directly through self-initiated spontaneous play than they do verbally because they are more comfortable with play
express
Play is voluntary activity by ____________
nature
An advantage of play therapy would be ______________; which would include a child’s need for function, mastery over situations and mastery over conflict
intrapersonal
Garry Landreth defines a play therapy as a “dynamic interpersonal __________ between a child and a therapist trained in play therapy procedures”
relationship
The role of the child-centered therapist is to facilitate the client’s ______________
growth
___________ is considered important and is facilitated by comments and questions by the therapist
interpretation
The counselor does not lead or take responsibility for the _____________ of the play
direction
Play therapy ____________ children to use their own natural medium of communication-play
enables
Proverbs 21:2
Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts.
Dr. Charles Schaefer gave a list of benefits for play therapy. He believed that play therapy enhances ________
relationships
Dr. Schaefer also believed that play is the natural medium of self-expression in ___________
communication
Dr. Gary Landreth asserts that play therapy will help the child experience a feeling of ___________
control
Dr. Gary Landreth asserts that play therapy will also help the child become sensitive to the process of _____________
coping
According to your notes, ________________ are invaluable sources of information about the child’s developmental history and interactional patterns
Parents
Children are not miniature _______________
adults
A pitfall of over-protecting would be a lack of ____________ and social responsibility
discipline
A pitfall of over-indulging causes children to become self-_____________
destructive
A pitfall of over-controlling would be that the children will ______________ themselves for everything
blame
Another pitfall of over-controlling is that the through over-controlling the parent can ___________ the child’s view of self through criticism
restrict
John Bowl by developed the 3 stages of separation. What are these three stages?
protest/despair/detatchment
The Proximity Principle is the fear of ____________ is the fundamental human fear
abandonment
Dr. Mary Ainsworth developed a method for measuring an infant’s security. This method focused attention on how the infant responded with _________________
a stranger
There are 4 attachment styles. The ____________ response of self-dimension was built on comfort and protection
secure
This attachment style is based on a _____________ response where in abusive families the child questioned their sense of self and others
disorganized
_______ believe they are good and careful
parents
The Bible tells us God desires _______ with us
Intimacy
Relationships define the _______ of our lives
quality
The _______ wires itself based on experience
brain
When repairing the damage or preventing the Soul Wound, that person is _______ a healthy family context
establishing
Core Beliefs Relationship Rules is when a person is measuring ______ Beliefs
attachment
In times of emotional distress or loss, it has been found that people turn to _______ rather than the church
prayer
In times of emotional distress or loss it has been found that grieving persons tend to ____________ their faith and religious devotion
increase
God is the Ultimate attatchment figure, a ___________ for the wounded soul
refuge
___________: I’m too flawed; God is sure to reject me. I probably committed the unpardonable sin
ambivalent
___________: I’m flawed, beyond repair
disorganized
____________; He isn’t there for me when I need Him. I will have to go at life alone. I dont really need Him.
avoidant
____________; He is there I can count on him. He will accept me in spite of my flaws
secure
What are three kinds of religious doubt?
factual/emotional/volitional
Step 1 of Breaking Free
___________- Your Story- Narrative Recall
remember
Step 2 of Breaking Free
___________- Your pain and need for healing- “Cant heal what you dont feel”
recognize
Step 3 of Breaking Free
___________- the meaning of your story
reframe
Step 4 of Breaking Free
__________- Your Story- ‘forgiveness, grace and acceptance’
repair
Step 5 of Breaking Free
__________- deepening emotional strands of safety, trust and intimacy; able to accept influence from others
reconnect
The Avoidant Attachment Style has __________ Connections – difficult to listen sensitively to the thoughts and feelings of those are they closest to
emotional
In the Avoidant Attachment Style parenting is ____________
insensitive
The Ambivalent Attachment Style has a _____________ dependency (display their insecurity)
melodramatic
The Disorganized Attachment Style limits the ability to __________
reflect
The Disorganized Attachment Style is typically an ______________ family
abusive
The person who has the Secure Attachment Style has a _____________ in ‘Who I am’ (able to express their thoughts and opinions more confidently)
confidence
A characteristic of the Secure Attachment Style is ___________ Strength (not afraid of emotions)
emotional
Most researched area of attachment theory in the context of religion is ______________
emotional distress
Research Shows people seek God for a safe haven and secure base during times of _____________
stress
