Marriage Flashcards
Why is it helpful for your patient to be married when you are trying to improve their health?
b/c it helps w/ compliance & outcomes, need to understand the family dynamics
What is the deal w/ the correlation b/w health & marriage?
Seems to have health-buffering effects for men & women.
But only health-buffering for women if it is a good quality marriage.
Main negative: more likely to be overweight if you are married…
What is Gottman’s Love lab?
couples spend a weekend in an apartment & they are videotaped to watch their communication patterns. Patterns are evaluated w/ who gets a divorce & who doesn’t many years later…
Watching a couple’s communication in the love lab…Gottman predicted divorce w/ ____ accuracy.
91% accuracy
What are the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse?
These are 4 predictors of divorce...if you even see one of these. Criticism Contempt Defensiveness Stonewalling
Describe the type of criticism that is indicative of impending divorce.
attacking the partner’s character or personality, rather than a specific behavior.
Describe the type of contempt that is indicative of impending divorce.
communication w/ the intent to assault or psychologically abuse your partner.
Describe the type of defensiveness that is indicative of impending divorce.
playing the victim denying responsibility making excuses complaining about the other person repeating yourself
Describe the type of stonewalling that is indicative of impending divorce.
withdrawing from a discussion
**this is often seen in men
What is the difference b/w complaining & criticism?
Criticism would be like: You are always late home from work & you clearly don’t love me.
Complaining: You have been late home 3/5 days this week. I don’t like that.
T/F Arguing is bad for a relationship.
True & False…what is really important is HOW you fight.
According to Gottman, if you have a negative fighting behavior (like defensiveness) what is it important to do?
Counteract that one negative behavior with 5 positive arguing behaviors.
What are positive behaviors to exhibit during an argument?
Using humor Expressing affection Acknowledging partner's point of view Exit argument gracefully Accept your partner
T/F Partners tend to fight about the same things over & over again.
True.
Why is too little passion or too much passion in an argument bad?
Too little passion: don’t care
Too much passion: too aggressive, hostile
T/F Never go to bed angry.
False–>might be better if you can’t agree to go to bed angry & exit the argument gracefully, think things over, & address them more reasonably in the morning…
T/F Divorce rates & relationship satisfaction & dynamics are similar b/w heterosexual & homosexual couples.
True.
Are there negative effects that children experience when they are a part of same sex families?
No.
Do children that are in same sex families have more behavioral issues? Are they more likely to be homosexual?
No. No.