Lesson 5: Love, Intimacy, and Relationship Flashcards
is a human experience differently defined and conceptualized
Love
a phenomenon experienced similarly by people across time and cultures.
love as a culture universal
are events or experiences which ensue within our interaction and relationship with other people.
love as a social phenomenon
for social interaction and relationship building, is the process of giving and receiving information between and among people.
communication
symbols that are culturally agreed upon as possessing certain meanings and that are used by people to express certain realities and worldviews.
language
are physiological responses that we evaluate psychologically as we
experience particular life events.
love as an emotion
joy, sadness, fear, disgust, anger, surprised, etc.
basic emotions
are combination of basic emotions in varying magnitude and are made intricate by circumstance surrounding the experiences. Love is a complex emotion.
complex emotions
information > nervous system > neurons > neurotransmitters
love as a neurobiological event
Loving experience is associated with the activation of the ___________ of our
brain right behind our left eyes
ventral tegmental area (vta)
hormones believed to provide humans a good mood.
increased amount in endorphin
our happy hormones
dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin
When you’re attracted to another person, your brain releases
dopamine, serotonin increases, and oxytocin is produced
love hormone or cuddle chemical
oxytocin
famous psychoanalytic figure
sigmund freud
In a nutshell, the psychodynamic theory posits that twe have desires and motives fueled by our
life (eros) and death (thanatos) instincts, that streams from our unconscious
Love can be seen as a manifestation of our eros and the placement of our
libido (life energy)
It suggest that the kind of ______ we have with our primary caregiver/s, influence our relationship in later life, including our choice of romantic partners and the way we relate and operate with this partnership.
attachment (psychic bond)
Sigmund freud is the proponent of theorizing love in what
Theorizing Love: Psychodynamic View on Love
Who is John Alan Lee
Theorizing Love: Color Wheel of Love
suggested the different types of love.
John Alan Lee (1973)
what are the primary type of color wheel of love
- Eros (sexual and romantic
- Philia (friendly)
- Storge (parental/filial love)
what are the secondary type of color wheel of love
- Pragma (practical love)
- Agape (universal love)
- Philautia (self-love)
Robert Sternberg
Theorizing Love: Triangular Model of Love
love from a psychometric stance by trying to measure love as a psychological variable, and in determining the various dimensions and facets that love has as experienced by people.
Robert Sternberg (1986)
what are the 3 interlocking dimensions of love
Intimacy (psychological/ relational aspect)
Passion(physical/emotional)
Commitment (agency/engagement/maintain)
Hatfield and Rapson
Theorizing Love: Romantic and Companionate Love
suggested two general types of
love: Romantic and Companionate
Hatfield and Rapson (1973, 1993)
is characterized by intense passion, “a state of intense longing for union with your partner.”
romantic love
is characterized by intense intimacy – emotional closeness – which is also characteristic of liking.
companionate love
Gary Chapman
Theorizing Love: Love Languages
posited that there are generally 5 love languages.
Gary Chapman (1995)
tend to verbally express their thoughts and feelings.
word of affirmation
express love non-verbally through hugs, kisses, or simply, a tap on the back.
• People with touch love languages value proximity (nearness) and yearns for physical contact (not necessarily sexual in nature) with their partners.
touch
tend to value quality moments with their loved ones.
time
people with this love language want to show and receive affection
through material objects, especially during special occasions.
gifts
those who are much willing to serve the other person by helping her or him in things that they do.
act of service
postulated that there are 5 stages that intimate
relationships go through.
George Levinger (1982)
George Levinger
ABCDE of Love and Intimate Relationships
where intimate human relationship starts
- Acquaintance
Crucial at this stage is attraction
Acquaintance
What are the ABCDE of Love
- Acquaintance
- Buildup
- Consolidation and continuation
- Decline or deterioration
- Ending
when we are physically closer to one another
propinquity or proximity
due to proximity, repeated possibilities of interaction
exposure
are common preferences, interests, and probably beliefs and values.
similarity
some acquaintance build up into deeper relationships. Frequency of interaction increases; kinds of activities shared become diverse; introducing one another to each friends and families; creating larger social networks.
buildup
This is the stage of where two people test their boundaries before engaging fully and so committedly in the relationship.
buildup
is the stage when people commits to a long-term relationship with one another, either through personal agreement (i.e., exclusivity of partnership, domestic partnership) or social-legal agreement (i.e., marriage); people may set standards that are sustainable.
consolidation or continuation
when intimate relationships are unable to sustain and maintain their commitments or attraction.
decline or deterioration
breach of loyalty
infidelity
difference which are already harming each individual and
the partnership as a whole
irreconcilable
if unable to address the causes and circumstances leading to the deterioration of their relationship; termination of agreements made (either personal or socio-legal) through informal or formal means.
ending
