Law 2 Flashcards
The 2nd Law of Human Nature
The Law of Narcissism
The need to have attention is also deeply _________.
Psychological
Humans are _______ to the core.
Social animals.
For attention, people will almost do _______.
Anything
What is the inevitable problem in finding attention?
There’s only so much for it to go around.
The dilemma of getting attention.
We simply cannot rely on others to give us constant validation, and yet we crave it.
Solution the the dilemma most people come up with.
Creating a self that comforts and validates us ‘from within’.
Caution to Solution of the dilemma
Must not go too far. Too divorced from reality can lead to self-doubt because people will make us aware of our discrepancy.
Self-image operates as a…
Thermostat, help regulate doubts and insecurities.
Self-image description
Generally taken for granted , like the air we breathe. Operates largely on an unconscious basis. Cannot be seen nor felt as it operates.
Best way to literally visualize dynamic of self-image
Look at deep narcissists.
Who are deep narcissists?
Those who lack a coherent sense of self.
The key moment in constructing a sense of self
Between the ages 2 and 5.
Deep narcissists as extroverts
Can survive and show future social success.Masters of attention.But can become dangerously addicted to attention.
Deep narcissists as introverts
Retreat to a life of fantasy. Have moments of great doubt and self-loathing. They are either a god or a worm.
