LAP 2, Pt. 1: Boundary Invasion

Question 1

Who is the most important person in the world?

Answer 1

Yourself

Question 2

What is considered appropriate touching?

Answer 2

Contact that is respectful, kind, and caring

Question 3

What is considered an inappropriate touch?

Answer 3

Touching that is disrespectful, unkind, and not caring

Question 4

What does it mean to trust your instinct?

Answer 4

Listening to a gut feeling

Question 5

TRUE or FALSE. All scary and/or hurtful touches are inappropriate.

Answer 5

FALSE.

Why? Scary/hurtful touches could be like vaccinations or doctor examinations that are meant to keep you healthy.

Question 6

TRUE or FALSE. Bribing, tricking, embarrassing, and forcing are different ways in which someone might try to pressure you into inappropriate touching.

Answer 6

TRUE.

Question 7

What is the proper thing to do when someone inappropriately touches you?

Answer 7

Say no, get away, and tell an adult immediately.

Question 8

TRUE or FALSE. You cannot tell whether a stranger is good or bad by looking at them.

Answer 8

TRUE.

Question 9

What is your private space?

Answer 9

An invisible field (or circle) that can make you feel uncomfortable when someone invades it

Question 10

What does a perpetrator look for in their victim(s)?

Answer 10

Low self-esteem, low self-confidence, and family issues

Question 11

TRUE or FALSE. Most child molesters are strangers to the family.

Answer 11

FALSE.
Why? Most child molesters are NOT strangers to the family because being acquainted with the family and having a working relationship with them allows for false mutual trust. Also less suspicion will be placed on family friends and more opportunities will be available for the perpetrator(s).

Question 12

What does it mean to desensitize touch?

Answer 12

Massaging your shoulders.

Question 13

What are ways a perpetrator may isolate his or her victim(s)?

Answer 13

Private tutoring, private coaching, or offering an unsolicited car ride

Question 14

TRUE or FALSE. Turning curiosity around and making victims think they will get in trouble is a way a perpetrator makes the victim feel responsible.

Answer 14

TRUE.

Question 15

TRUE or FALSE. Using alcohol, drugs, or pornography is a way a perpetrator grooms a victim.

Answer 15

TRUE.

Question 16

Which of the following is NOT an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Taking an undue (immoderate), special interest in a particular student
B. Giving gifts or money to the student for noneducational purposes
C. Fairly punishing students for inappropriate behavior
D. Favoring certain students by giving them special privileges
E. Initiating or extending contact with students beyond the school day and school-approved activities

Answer 16

C. Fairly punishing students for inappropriate behavior.

Question 17

Which of the following is NOT an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Engaging in excessive peer-like behavior with students, i.e., taking drugs along with them
B. Touching students for no educational or health reasons, i.e., being overly “touchy”
C. Hugging, kissing, or other unwarranted physical contact with students
D. Having personal, nonprofessional secrets with a student
E. Taking students on outings, with properly-trained adults/chaperones, for educational purposes, i.e., a field trip

Answer 17

E. Taking students on outings, with properly-trained adults/chaperones, for educational purposes, i.e., a field trip

Question 18

Which of the following is NOT an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Visiting the student’s home without a supervisor’s and/or a parent’s approval
B. Inviting students to the adult’s personal home
C. Being alone with the student behind closed, locked doors at school
D. Discouraging sexual jokes/ innuendo/ banter in the classroom
E. Talking to the student about the adult’s personal problems, without any evident educational purpose

Answer 18

D. Discouraging sexual jokes/ innuendo/ banter in the classroom

Question 19

Which of the following is NOT an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Talking to the student about the student’s personal problems, even if initiated by the student, and not referring the student to a professional counselor who is trained to help the student; the adult becomes a confidant of the student despite the fact that it is not the adult’s job to do so
B. Talking with a student about sexual topics that are not related to a specific curriculum; showing pornography to the students
C. Utilizing e-mail or text-messaging as a form of professional and public communication to contact the students for educational notifications
D. Giving students rides in a staff member’s personal vehicle in a non-emergent situation
E. Invading the student’s privacy, i.e., walking in on a student in the bathroom and continuing to do so

Answer 19

C. Utilizing e-mail or text-messaging as a form of professional and public communication to contact the students for educational notifications

Question 20

Which of the following is INDEED an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Being with an individual student during class time in the view of others
B. Inviting or allowing individual students to visit the adult’s home
C. Social networking/communicating with students in a strictly professional and public manner for educational purposes
D. Displaying fair attention equally to ALL students

Answer 20

B. Inviting or allowing individual students to visit the adult’s home

Question 21

Which of the following is NOT an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Socializing where students are consuming alcohol, drugs. or tobacco, and encouraging the use of such
B. Encouraging students to confide their personal or family problems when the adult is NOT a guidance/counseling-approved staff; adults do not refer the student to the appropriate staff/people
C. Sending students on professional errands for an educational purpose
D. Disclosing personal, sexual, family concerns or other private matters to students without any clear educational purpose
E. Exchanging personal gifts, cards, or letters with an individual student

Answer 21

C. Sending students on professional errands for an educational purpose

Question 22

Which of the following is NOT an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Giving students a ride alone in a personal vehicle in a non-emergency situation
B. Unnecessarily invading a student’s privacy, particularly in the bathroom
C. Acting as helpers, without appropriate training, for serious student problems
D. Confusing a student by touching them inappropriately or in ways that may lead them to misinterpret the intent
E. Discouraging gender inequality and racism

Answer 22

E. Discouraging gender inequality and racism

Question 23

Which of the following is NOT an example of boundary invasion by an adult, particularly one that is affiliated with the school?
A. Suitable and fitting writing of passes for students for excused tardiness to classes
B. Constantly favoring a student over another, signifying friendship beyond the adult-student relationship
C. Maintaining an unreasonable relationship with the student outside of school-sanctioned events
D. Repeatedly sending unsolicited personal notes to a student that has evidently notified the adult to cease such actions
E. Spending personal time along with a student and notifying the student to “just keep it our secret,” devoid of educational expectations

Answer 23

A. Suitable and fitting writing of passes for students for excused tardiness to classes

Question 24

How can you tell if a touch is appropriate or inappropriate?

Answer 24

By the way the RECEIVER interprets your “touching”

Question 25

TRUE or FALSE. You need to be cautious of all strangers.

Answer 25

TRUE.

Question 26

What should you do if… a stranger offers to drive you home?

Answer 26

STRANGER DANGER! Say no, report the license plate number, and notify the authorities immediately. Run to the nearest house or a safe place and call the police. For children, have them ask the stranger for a “password”

Question 27

Who should you let in your private space, your “bubble”?

Answer 27

Parents, siblings, close trusted friends, doctors, etc.

Question 28

Where can the people in your private space touch you?

Answer 28

Like a kind hug or a respectful kiss on the cheek (usually with family members), however if it begins to feel uncomfortable, politely tell the person to stop, give them a reason, and let someone know

Question 29

Is it okay for you not to hug someone, even if you know the person very well?

Answer 29

Yes, you do not have to do anything uncomfortable if you do not wish to do so

Question 30

TRUE or FALSE. Inappropriate touches are disrespectful, confusing scary, and/or hurtful.

Answer 30

TRUE.