Gendered Intimacy

Question 1

Sapir- whorf hypothesis

Answer 1

The structure of a language determines or greatly influenced the modes of though and behavior characteristic of culture in which it is spoken

Question 2

Linguistic sexism

Answer 2

Sexist language is considered to be any language that unintentionally or not excludes a gender

Question 3

Invisibility/spotlighting

Answer 3

Highlight one group- diminishes the other, steps out of expectations

Ex: male nurses

Question 4

Depreciation (semantic derogation)

Answer 4

Reduction in value, not intentional but demeaning

Ex: assertive vs pushy
Player vs slut

Words that create desirable images for men compared to women

Question 5

Intensifiers

Answer 5

"Extremely" "greatly" 
Donald trump (men)

Question 6

Hedge

Answer 6

A word or phrase that makes a statement less forceful praises as opinions rather than an argument

Don’t want to come across too pushy

Question 7

Back channeling

Answer 7

Soften the assertiveness

Sounds, gestures to make it seem like you’re listening

Keep the conversation going

Question 8

Manterruption/topic rejection

Answer 8

Sign of power - change the subject when uncomfortable

Question 9

Mansplaining

Answer 9

When a man explains something he has no experience in

Question 10

Instrumental

Answer 10

Focusing on tasks or shared activities rather than self-disclosure in their relationships with other men

Question 11

Expressive

Answer 11

Emotional communication

Question 12

Compulsory heterosexuality

Answer 12

Heterosexuality is assumed and enforced by a patriarchal society , material inclination or obligation by both sexes

Question 13

Heteronormativity

Answer 13

Assumes that heterosexuality is the only sexual orientation or only norm, most fitting

Question 14

Double standard

Answer 14

A rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups

Question 15

Gendered language

Answer 15

Shape thoughts, perceptions, communications and interaction

Shapes social arrangements
Keeps biases alive

Linguistic sexism
Treat men and women differently

Invisibility (spotlighting)
Highlighting one group diminishing the other

Depreciation (semantic derogation)
Words that create describable images for men compared to women

Question 16

Friendship - barriers to emotional intimacy among men

Robert Lewis

Answer 16

Robert Lewis

Competition
Need to be in control
Homophobia - encourage men to keep a distance
Lack of skills and positive role models

Question 17

Gendered differences in friendship

Answer 17

Differences in number and depth of friendships

Men do more, women talk more
Activities be personal

Talking about personal issues

Face to face vs side by side
Women vs men

Influence of age, race, sexual orientation

Homophobia in same sex friendships
Around men not necessarily women

Sexual tension in cross sex friendships

Question 18

Men vs women in language

Answer 18

Men 
Establish hierarchy 
Domination 
Less personal information
Fewer intensifiers 
Direct statements
Manterruptions and topic rejection
Mansplaining

Women
Support talk
Closeness and consensus
Negotiate privately 
Ask more questions
Use more personal pronouns
Intonation (declarative statements)
Hedge and back channel

Question 19

Intonation

Answer 19

END declarative statements as questions