Gender Roles Final Flashcards
Triangular Theory of Love
Sternberg’s Theory of Love
Sternberg’s Theory of Love
Passion: Attraction
Intimacy: Attachment
Commitment: Relationship/Marriage
7 “types” of Love
- Liking (Intimacy)
- Infatuation (Passion)
- Empty Love (Commitment)
- Romantic Love (Passion+Intimacy)
- Companionate Love (Intimacy+Commitment)
- Fatuous (Passion+Commitment)
- Consummate Love (Passion+Intimacy+Commitment)
Development of Friendships (Young Children
- gender segregation
- cross-gender play until 3+ years
- responsive/sharing reserved for same-sex friends
Development of Friendships (Elementary School)
- Very strong gender segregation (bullying if lines are crossed)
- Choice of activities contributes to segregation (Boys: larger groups, outdoors/ Girls: seek & value intimacy)
- Typical gendered “styles” develop (Girls: talk, Boys: games/sports)
Development of Friendships (Adolescence)
- Pre-adolescent friendships important to create intimacy/establish commitment without sexual contact
- Intimacy increases
- Men avoid intimate male friendships
Adult Friendships
No differences between genders
- Number of friends (mean usually 9)
- Importance of friendships
- Time spent with friends
Adult Friendships
Differences between genders
- “Categorization” of friends
- Females more likely to clearly distinguish best friend, friends, not friend
- Females have firm cliques
- Men still more likely to do activities vs talking
How many single people have a best friend?
- 75% of single women
- 33% of single men
- Both genders more likely to name woman as best friend
3 Main Gender Differences
Men
- friendships more instrumental (a way to accomplish something
- friends who do the same thing
- “compartment” friends (good for particular activity)
3 Main Gender Differences
Women
- friendships more communal (all members involved)
- friends who agree on personal values
- “holistic” friends (good for everything)
Similarities between genders
- Trustworthiness and authenticity most important
- Seek intimacy and support in friendship
- Egalitarianism in status and power is important
Flexibility of Styles
Cross-Sex Friendships
- men find emotional intimacy easier with women
- women can be “one of the boys” by having activity-based friendships with men
- “feminine” men and “masculine” women more likely to have cross-sex friendships
- deviate from stereotypes about friendships and cross-gender relationships
Sapadin (1988): 156 professionals rated the quality and intimacy of cross vs. same-sex friendships
- women say same-sex friendships higher in both
- men say cross-sex friendships higher in both
4 obstacles of cross-sex friendships
- Emotional bond (platonic or romantic)
- Sexual challenge (determining sexual interest)
- Equity challenge (equal power or status)
- Audience challenge (false external views of friendship)