Friend Family Lover Framework Flashcards
2023 Top Best Relationship Books
- The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, Nan Silver
- His Needs Her Needs by Willard F Harley
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence – Esther Perel
- Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment – Gay Hendricks, Kathlyn Hendricks
Ace or Asexual people
Individuals who generally do not experience sexual attraction to others of any gender.
Some do experience romantic attractions. Asexuality differs from celibacy in that celibates have a sexual
attraction, but choose to abstain from sex.
Agender people
Individuals who identify as not having a gender. Some describe themselves as genderless,
while others see themselves as gender neutral.
Androgynes
Individuals who identify androgynously. They have a gender which is both feminine and
masculine, although not necessary in equal amounts.
Aromantic people
Individuals who experience little or no romantic attraction to others of any gender
Attachment Styles
Secure
Anxious-Ambivalent
Disorganized
Avoidant
Beige Flags
“Beige flags” are signs on dating app profiles that the person behind the profile is probably boring.
Think: Someone whose entire personality is liking “The Office” or “Harry Potter.” Or someone who writes that they’re “looking for someone who can keep up with me” on their dating profile.
Bi or Bisexual
Individuals who experience little or no romantic attraction to others of any gender
Cis or cisgender people
Individuals who identify with the gender that was assigned to them at birth (i.e., people who are not transgender)
Cisgender
Umbrella term for those whose gender expression and gender identity are congruent with the sex assigned to them at birth, and whose gender is validated by the dominant culture.
Crossdressers
Individuals who, at times, wear clothes traditionally associated with people of a gender different from one’s own.
Dating Trends in 2023
- Infla-Dating
- Wanderlove
- Ethical Sex-ploration
- Dry Dating
- Open Casting
Infla-Dating
Is a new trend where couples go on less expensive dates due to the rise in prices and everyday expenses.
It means dating on a budget.
Demigender people
Individuals who feel a partial connection to a particular gender identity. Examples of
demigender identities include demigirl, and demiboy, and demiandrogyne
Demiromantic people
Individuals who do not feel romantic attraction to someone unless they have already
formed a strong emotional bond with the person
Demisexual people
Individuals who typically do not feel sexual attraction to someone unless they have
already formed a strong emotional bond with the person
Endogamy
- Endogamy refers to the practice of marrying within one’s own social group or caste.
- Endogamy can be imposed or strongly encouraged by cultural traditions and community norms.
- It has the potential to limit genetic diversity and perpetuate social inequalities by maintaining a closed social system.
- In some cultures, endogamy is a way to maintain cultural practices, religious beliefs, and family traditions.
ENM
Ethical non-monogamy. Is the practice of being romantically involved with multiple people who are all aware of and agree to this relationship structure.
Top 5 most popular dating sites
1) badoo.com - 106M/month
2) Tinder - 95M/month
3) Plenty of Fish - 32M/month
4) OKCupid - 31.5M/month
5) International Cupid - 20M/month
6) Match.com - 17M/month
7) AshleyMadison - 15M/month
??? Bumble ??? Hinge ???
Esther Perel
-Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (2006)
-The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (2017)
Exogamy
- Exogamy is the practice of marrying outside of one’s own social group or caste.
- It can be seen as a way to increase genetic diversity and foster social and economic exchange.
- Exogamy is also common to many societies as it creates inter-group alliances and ensures the peaceful coexistence of different groups.
- It is often encouraged by cultural or societal norm that discourage intermarriage between close relatives
- Exogamy can be imposed by laws or social customs as well as by personal choices, sometimes with different implications.
Future Promiser
A guy who strings women along with “future promises” of, moving in, getting engaged, getting married, having kids… but never materializes
Gay
Men who experience sexual, romantic, and/or emotional attractions to other men.
Gender binary
The social system that sees only two genders and that requires everyone to be raised as a man or a woman, depending on the gender assigned to them at birth
Gender fluid people
Individuals whose gender varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, agender, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities.
Genderism or cissexism
The societal, institutional, and individual beliefs and practices that privilege cis people and subordinate and disparage trans and gender-nonconforming people.
Genderqueer people
Individuals who identify as neither male nor female (but as a third gender), as both male and female, or as somewhere in between.
Gottman 4 negative behaviors
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
Criticism
Contempt
Gray asexuals or Gray A’s
Individuals whose sexuality is not “black or white”; they experience sexual attraction infrequently or not very strongly.
Heteroflexible
Someone who identifies as straight but may engage in same-sex sexual activity in certain situations.
Heterosexism
The assumptions that all people are heterosexual and that heterosexuality is normal and is superior and more desirable than being asexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, and other non-binary sexual identities.
Heterosexual people
Men who experience sexual, romantic, and/or emotional attractions attraction to women,
and vice versa. Also known as “straight.”
Tradwife
Short for traditional housewife. Refers to a woman who prefers to take a traditional role in marriage.
Homoflexible
Hypergamy (Marrying up)
- Hypergamy refers to the practice of marrying someone of a higher social status or economic class.
- It is often driven by societal norms or individuals’ personal aspirations to improve their social and economic standing.
- Hypergamy is prevalent in cultures where social status and wealth are highly valued, and where there is a significant disparity in social and economic power between groups.
- Hypergamy can contribute to the maintenance of social hierarchies by ensuring that wealth and power are passed down through generations.
- It can also be a way for women to improve their own status in societies where they have limited opportunities or face discrimination.
Hypogamy (Marrying down)
- Hypogamy refers to the practice of marrying someone of a lower social status or economic class.
- It can be the result of societal norms or individual choices and can happen for different reasons
- Hypogamy is less prevalent than hypergamy in many cultures, as it goes against traditional societal expectations or norms
- It can also be the result of a lack of options, or the result of a personal decision to prioritise love and compatibility over social status.
- Hypogamy can be a way to promote social mobility and greater equality by allowing individuals to rise in social status through marriage.
5 Love Languages
Quality Time
Words of affirmation
Gifts
Acts of service
Physical Touch
Intersex
An umbrella term used to describe a wide range of natural biological variations of individuals who are born with a chromosomal pattern, a reproductive system, and/or sexual anatomy that does not fit typical binary notions of male or female bodies.
Intersex
A general term used for a variety of bodies in which a person is born with reproductive or sexual anatomy that does not fit into the sex binary
Isogamy
designates marriage between social equals.
All things Gottman
John Gottman
July Gottman
The Gottman Institute
Gottman Connect
“Process of conflict not content of conflict”
SO
Significant Other
Lesbian
Women who experience sexual, romantic, and/or emotional attractions to other women
LGBTQ
Acronym used to describe lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer
MENINIST
Men that believe in and support the feminist principles of women’s political, social, and economic equality
Neutrois people
Individuals who identify their gender as neutral or null. They may also identify as “agender.”
Non-binary gender and gender-nonconforming people
-Umbrella terms for individuals who do not fit into traditional “male” and “female” gender categories.
-Includes individuals who identify as agender, bigender, gender fluid, genderqueer, and various other
genders
Pangender people
Individuals whose gender identity and/or gender expression is numerous, either fixed
(many at once) or fluid (moving from one to another, often more than two).
Panromantic people
Individuals who is are romantically, but not sexually, attracted to others regardless of
their gender identity or biological sex.
Pansexual
One who can feel an attraction to anyone, including individuals who do not identify as a specific gender. Pansexual people may describe their attraction as focusing on personality rather than gender.
Pansexual people
Individuals who are attracted to others regardless of their gender identity or biological sex
Partnership
A healthy partnership means learning about the other person and appreciating what is important to them.
Polysexual people:
Individuals who are attracted to more than one gender and/or form of gender expression,
but not to all.
Queer
Reclaimed derogatory slang by many who reject gender and sexual binaries. Also used as a political identity by many who want to dismantle oppressive systems in society.
Queer:
An umbrella term to refer to all LGBTQ+ people. It is also a non-binary term used by individuals who see their sexual orientation and/or gender identity as fluid.
Queerplatonic:
Non-romantic relationships that involve close emotional connections that are often deeper or
more intense than what is traditionally found in friendships
RED PILL
Refers to men awakening to the reality of male subjugation by women under feminism
Same-gender loving people:
Individuals who experience same-gender attraction. The term originated within
communities of color as an alternative to “lesbian” and “gay,” which they feel does not speak to their cultural heritage.
Sapiosexual people:
Individuals who are attracted to people based on intelligence, rather than gender identity
or biological sex.
Sexually fluid people:
While many people will experience changes in their sexual orientation over their
lifetimes, individuals who are sexually fluid experience changes in their sexual orientations more frequently.
Skoliosexual people:
Individuals who are sexually attraction to people with non-binary gender identities.
TERF
Trans-Exlusionary Radical Female
TERP
Trans-Exlusionary Radical People
Trans men:
Female-to-male (FTM) transsexual people or transsexual men – individuals assigned female at birth who identify as male.
Trans women:
Male-to-female (MTF) transsexual people or transsexual women – individuals assigned male at birth who identify as female.
Transgender or Trans
- Umbrella term for those whose gender expression or identity is not congruent with the sex assigned at birth and/or whose gender is not validated by the dominant culture.
-Trans people include transsexuals; individuals who cross-dress or who present androgynously; agender, demigender, and genderqueer individuals; and others who cross or go beyond traditional gender categories.
Two spirit people:
A Native American term for individuals who blend the masculine and the feminine. It is
commonly used to describe individuals who historically crossed gender. It is also often used by contemporary LGBTQIA Native American people to describe themselves.
LGBTQIA+
Acronym used to signify Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual people collectively
Binary / Trinary
Binary. consisting of two parts
Trinary: consisting of three parts
Acronym “OLD”
Online Dating
Acronym “LTR”
Long term relationship
Acronym “Sexual Preference”
Oudated
Acronym “Sexual Orientation”
2020 accurate
