Final Exam (Ch. 9, 10, 13) Flashcards
who often has difficulty talking openly about sexual matters
people of all ages
mutual empathy
the awareness of each partner’s reciprocal care for each other
making sure each person feels safe talking about sex
how do college-level sex ed courses help?
help break down communication barriers by demystifying sexual health and practices
how has the internet affected sexuality?
expanded the avenues to explore and express sexuality
altersexuality
increased fluidity of sexual experience
wikisexuality
sexual experiences that are not possible (or comfortable) in “real” life
the problem with wikisexuality
perpetuates the rape myth
how do people learn about appropriate expressions of sexuality?
it is culture specific
learn from family, friends, society, religion
sexually responsible decisions involve . . .
considering the possible consequences of sexual behavior
establishing boundaries is important in . . .
being true to one’s own values
sexual abstinence means . . .
different things to different people, cultures, religious groups
reactance
teens want to do things they’re not supposed to do
causes of sexual guilt
extramarital affairs, sexual promiscuity, hooking up
misconceptions about sex
women should not initiate (not as desirable)
gay bad
hot people are better in bed
old people have no interest in sex
concerns about sexuality
worrying about performance
STIs and STDs
worrying about body
feel responsible for partner dissatisfaction
guilt over sexual feelings + behaviors
feel abnormal
criteria for abnormal sexual behavior
non-consensual
with something that cannot consent
sensual experiences and sexual experiences
relationship between the two
can be enjoyed separate from each other
sexual arousal and response is affected by . . .
numerous factors
sexual health correlation with general health
positive correlation
high ejaculation = lower risk of prostate cancer
sex-> endocrine events, physical + emotional reactions -> better women’s health
what is valued in sexual relationships?
love and affection
important attributes for sexual relationships
commitment
good communication
high quality of emotional + physical intimacy
what is the relationship between love and sex?
positive correlation
hook-up
short-term non-monogamous sexual relationship without the expectation of emotional intimacy
hook ups most prevalent with . . .
American college students
also occurs among younger adolescents, non-college adults
hook ups occur between . . .
people who know one another on an acquaintance level (possibly through a friend)
friends with benefits
they fuckin
no desire for a long-term relationship
“sexual addiction” and “compulsive sexual behavior” controversy
over whether they are appropriate terms
how to deal with sex addiction
12-step peer-led groups
watching more porn causes . . .
stronger sexual urges
indicators of a porn problem
unexplained absences
excessive computer use
social + emotional withdrawal
hiding, lying, and secretive behavior
increased performance concerns
decreased affection, intimacy, non-sexual touching
hazards of unprotected sex
HIV/AIDs
other STIs
unplanned pregnancies
(including mental effects)
questions to consider to make responsible sexual choices
will my actions
-hurt someone?
-limit another’s freedom?
-exploit another’s rights? (power imbalance)
-be consistent with my values and commitments?
good gauge of how you will approach your career
how you approach your postsecondary education
leaving college will make it . . .
more difficult to return later
important factors in choosing a career
motivation and achievement
attitudes about occupations
abilities and aptitudes
interests
values
self-concept
John Holland’s Personality Types
realistic
investigative
artistic
social
enterprising
conventional
process of deciding on a career
- comprehensive information gathering
- analytic information processing
- less procrastination, more effort invested
- greater speed in reaching the final decision
- less dependence on others and less desire to please
- an internal locus of control
- begin by focusing on yourself
- generate alt. solutions (backup plans)
- gather + assess info about alternatives
- weigh and prioritize your alternatives
- make the decision + formulate a plan
- carry out the decision
- get feedback
what to do if you experience discontent in work?
focus on factors you can change
in your work you should . . .
identify ways you can create meaning in your work
if you have to stay at a bad job
find fulfillment outside of your job
(recognition, significance, productivity, excitement)
assess whether your attitudes about work . . .
help or hinder your career success
people often equate what they do with . . .
who they are
job loss leads to questioning . . .
judgement, priorities, and ideals
how to stave off loneliness during unemployment
stay in touch with friends and family
bullying on the job can cause . . .
anxiety and depression
reduced effectiveness at work
negative/pessimistic employees will likely . . .
take out their frustrations on coworkers
abusive supervisors are more challenging to deal with than abusive employees because . . .
power imbalance
a great asset in midlife
being aware of career options
what makes job change harder?
attitudes and fears about changing jobs that are left unquestioned and unexamined
people who feel stuck in their jobs should ask themselves . . .
if their personal satisfaction outweighs the financial rewards
technological advances that revolutionized the way we work
email and mobile technology
normal personal/professional life boundary changed by . . .
technology
more people working at . . .
home
retirees may experience . . .
dissatisfaction, purposeless
actively involved in recreation, community work, new ventures
retirement may need to be delayed due to . . .
unanticipated financial hardships
how to make retirement a new beginning
keeping oneself vital as physical, psychological, spiritual, social beings
5 retirement paths
continuers - keep working
adventurers - travel
seekers - try lots of new things
easy gliders - easy transition
retreaters - isolated
recreation involves . . .
creating new interests that become our path to vitality
appropriate work/recreation balance depends on . . .
the needs of the individual
pursuit of leisure activities is associated with . . .
improved physical and cognitive functioning
increased happiness
greater longevity
3 existential questions for meaning
who am I?
where am I going?
why?
quest for identity involves . . .
identifying core values
listening to inner selves
may go against cultural upbringing
continuous, never ending
how to find our meaning
creating our own meaning
two things related to meaning in life
nostalgia and hope
(past and future)
philosophy of life is made up of . . .
the fundamental beliefs, attitudes, and values that govern a person’s behavior
how to form your own philosophy
create alone time for reflection
reflect on basic assumptions about life
consider what eventual death means for your current life
listen to those who challenge your beliefs - civil discourse
adopt an accepting attitude towards people who believe differently
historical figures to look up to
Martin Luther King Jr.
Mahatma Gandhi
Viktor Frankl
Dr. Edith Eva Eger
Nelson Mandella
logotherapy
therapy through meaning
Viktor Frankl believed . . .
our search for purpose is what distinguishes us as humans
Nietzsche claimed . . .
“He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how.”
what shapes the meaning of our lives?
the decisions we make or fail to make
Philip Zimbardo addresses . . .
the perplexing issue of how average decent people become perpatrators of evil
behavior change: 2 critical catalysts
the external situation
the system that creates and maintains the situation
who is trying to understand the phenomenon of radicalization?
political analysts, scholars, and countless others
Philip Zimbardo’s current passion
Heroic Imagination Project
mission of the Heroic Imagination Project
teach people skills/knowledge to make effective decisions in challenging situations
4 criteria for an act to be heroic
voluntary
helps others
potential risk/cost to self
don’t expect gain/payoff
spirituality
a set of beliefs and practices that can result in a life-changing path that gives greater meaning, purpose, and fulfillment to a person’s life
Dalai Lama believes the ultimate goal of religion is to . . .
produce better human beings who will demonstrate caring and acceptance of others
basic spiritual values include . . .
goodness, love, compassion, tolerance
forgiveness
human warmth, caring
kindness to self
compassion involves . . .
caring about another’s suffering and doing something about it
questions for our values
where did values come from?
have I questioned my values?
are my values open to change?
are my actions consistent with my beliefs?
can I accept people with different values?
do I avoid judging others?
how to embrace diversity
pay attention to common ground and universal themes that unite us
life philosophy should embrace understanding and acceptance of diverse worldviews
paths toward an ever-narrowing existence
prejudice and discrimination
prejudice vs. discrimination
prejudice = attitudes
discrimination = actions
first step toward change (for diversity)
becoming aware of our own subtle prejudice
unintentional bigotry
being convinced we do not harbor prejudice
microaggressions
persistent verbal, behavioral, environmental assaults, insults, and invalidations
often occur subtly, difficult to identify
how to break down the barriers that separate us
acknowledge and understand your biases and prejudices
be respectful of those who are different
learn about different cultures
be willing to test, adapt, and change your perceptions
imagine being someone of [group]
we can make a difference through . . .
our attitudes, choices, and actions
examples of ways we can make a difference
help out someone (family, friend, neighbor)
get involved in human rights organizations, support social justice
take steps to protect our planet
first step to protecting the planet
recognize there is a growing global crisis
second step to protecting the planet
recognize that each of us can assume personal responsibility to bring change
landmark climate change agreement where?
UN Climate Change Conference in Paris
personal growth is a . . .
process, not a destination
who can change your ways of thinking, feeling, and doing?
only you!
consider counseling if you . . .
feel out of control of your life
are stuck
in unsatisfying relationship
in spiritual crisis
experiencing significant loss
are a victim of discrimination/oppression
fear using your potential
pathways for continued self-exploration
develop a reading program
practice ongoing self-assessment
engage in self-directed behavior change
get involved in a support group
