Final Exam Flashcards
what are the 3 primary responsibilities of humanity?
- to have dominion
- to replenish the earth
- to subdue the earth
what is the purpose of dating?
to examine the intellectual, emotional, social, spiritual, and physical foundations of marriage for the purpose of determining compatibility
what is the definition of marriage?
the uniting of one man and one woman in covenant commitment for a lifetime
what is the definition of love?
commitment
what is the principle of leaving?
literally means to forsake; meaning we should have a new home distinct from our parents. this denotes the priority of the marriage relationship to be self dependent
what is the principle of cleaving?
literally means to cling to, or to stick to; it implies the act of the will, choosing to be joined to another for a lifetime. this denotes the permanence of the married relationship
what is the principle of becoming one flesh?
it is the result of a couple leaving and cleaving. it is a picture of the sexual union as well as the monogamous nature of the marriage. this principle implies a oneness wherein two people willingly blend their lives thereby completing the other. this denotes the purpose of the marriage relationship.
what is a family?
it is a grouping of individuals who are affecting each other intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically
what is it significant that marriage is a divine institution?
because God created it, so He gets to say what it is and isn’t
what are the 7 ways we can reinforce family values?
- win the lost to christ
- elect christians into public office
- promote pro-christian media
- pray
- build strong marriages and families
- help strengthen the body of christ
- support christian education
what are the 6 layers of the wisdom pyramid? (bottom to top)
- bible
- church
- nature – God’s creation
- books – becoming wise
- beauty – arts and music
- internet and social media
what is at the center of the triangle of family support?
God
what are the three points on the triangle of family support around God?
church, school, and home
what is the marital lifeline?
communication
what are the 8 factors to consider before marriage?
- wait until the proper age
- wait for love
- wait until you know each other
- wait on spiritual problems to be resolved
- wait on health issues to be resolved
- wait on financial matters to be resolved
- wait for the blessing of the parents
- wait on the Lord and His timing
what are the 7 rules for having a good fight by Charles swindle?
- keep it honest
- keep it under control
- keep it timed right
- keep it positive – always attack problem not the person
- keep it tactful
- keep it private – praise in public, correct in private
- keep it clean – don’t leave anything hanging
what are the characteristics of Christ’s love?
- it is unchanging
- it is unconditional
- it is sacrificial
- it is inseparable – never in question
- it is constraining – keeps us within bonds
- it is demonstrative
what are the 7 personal problems that weaken marriages?
- Anger
- forgiveness
- fear
- selfishness
- adultery
- self-rejection
- depression
what are the 3 primary responsibilities of the husband?
to protect, provide, and lead his family
what are the 2 primary responsibilities of the wife?
to respect her husband and to serve as his helper
what are the 3 guidelines for the wedding ceremony?
- It is holy – reflection of christ’s love
- it is a public ceremony – assemble of family and friends as witnesses
- it is a covenantal ceremony – husband and wife pledge themselves to a life together
what are the 4 purposes of the honeymoon?
- to get used to new roles as husband and Wife in privacy
- to discover the intimacy of marriage and enjoy one another
- to adjust to new lifestyle together
- to relax, look ahead, and dream together
what are 3 things to remember when planning the honeymoon?
- plan early – don’t wait last min; find a deal
- determine the destination – need passports? will it be a secret?
- be flexible – enjoy the journey not just the destination
what traditionally pays for the honeymoon?
the grooms family
what is good to remember when planning the honey moon and dealing with the finances?
be prudent in the financial decision. make sure it is not too much for you to handle along with ceremony expenses
what are the qualities of the irresistible man? (5)
- he meets her needs for affection
- he meets her need for conversation
- he meets her need for openness
- he meets her need for financial support
- he meets her need for family commitments
what are the qualities of the irresistible woman? (5)
- she meets his need for sexual fulfillment
- she meets his need for recreational companionship
- she meets his need for attractiveness
- she meets his need for domestic support
- she meets his need for admiration and respect
what is it that the wife most desires?
unconditional love
what is it that the husband most desires?
genuine respect
what does the acronym c-o-u-p-l-e mean for the wife?
Closeness
Openness
Understanding
Peacemaking
Loyalty
Esteem
what does the acronym c-h-a-i-r-s mean to the husband?
Conquest
Hierarchy
Authority
Insight
Relationship
what are the 8 potential challenges a marriage can face?
- arduous vocations
- demanding work schedules
- communication challenges
- job stress
- fatigue
- lack of local familial support network
- critical incident stress
- frequent forced separations
what are some examples of frequent forced separations? (4)
- on call rotations
- TYT (temporary duty)
- deployments
- training / humanitarian / combat missions
what are the 5 components of the christian home?
- foundation of scriptural truth
- floor of loving acceptance
- pillar of time in nature
- pillar of loving admonition
- rooftop of biblical authority
what are the 4 types of parenting styles?
- permissive: high love - low control
- neglectful: low love - low control
- dictatorial: low love - high control
- authoritative: high love - high control
how does Adam and eve’s relationship serve as the foundation of the family? (4)
- for it was instituted by God
- for it was designed by God
- for it was utilized by God to illustrate spiritual truth
- for it was utilized by God to illustrate spiritual truth
how was Adam and Eve’s relationship instituted by God?
God saw that it was not good that Adam was alone so He created Eve to be his helpmeet, solving Adam’s incompleteness
how was Adam and eve’s relationship designed by God?
- it was created for male and female
- it was created monogamous
- it was created permanent until death
- it has 4 designed purposes
what are the 4 purposes for marriage?
- companionship
- fellowship
- intimacy
- procreation
how was Adam and eve’s relationship utilized to illustrate spiritual truth?
- it illustrates God’s relationship to humanity
- It illustrates humanities relationship to the law
what is the purpose of the physical union in a marriage?
to guard against temptation
what is the design of the emotional union in a marriage?
that it exists
what is the purpose of the spiritual union in a marriage?
to draw the spouses closer to God and closer to each other
what are the implications of God’s original design of the family referring to reproductive ethics? (4)
- the marital relationship depicts the primary human relationship
- the family unit is a spiritual entity as well as a physical entity
- any technology or action that departs from God’s original design should be approached with extreme caution
- there is a difference between managing human reproduction and avoiding pregnancy at all costs
what are the three types of assisted reproductive technology?
- artificial insemination (AI)
- in vitro fertilization
- surrogate motherhood
where does conception happen for artificial insemination?
inside the body
what is the main use for artificial insemination?
used to combat male infertility
what are the two types of artificial insemination?
- by the husband AIH
- by a donor (AID)
when is artificial insemination by the husband used?
when he is fertile but cannot participate in normal sex relations, or he may have a low sperm count, or if illness is predicted caused sperm loss so it is saved for a later time
when is artificial insemination by a donor used?
when the husband is not fertile, when the couple wants to avoid a specific genetic illness carried by the husband, or because a single woman longs for a child
where does conception happen for in vitro fertilization?
outside the body
what does In Vitro mean?
in glass
how many couples actually have a child when using in vitro fertilization?
less 1/3 of couples conceive
what are the 4 types of in vitro fertilization?
- W/O selective reduction
- With selective reduction
- artificial embryo nation
- embryo adoption
what is in vitro fertilization without selective reduction?
only a few eggs are harvested, fertilized, and implanted
what is in vitro fertilization with selective reduction?
lots of embryos are harvested, and fertilized, then the ones with the higher likelihood of survival are implanted
what can result when using selective reducation?
multiple children within one pregnancy because more fertilized eggs are implanted
what is artificial embryo nation?
a donor’s egg is fertilized by the husband’s sperm and implanted into the wife’s womb
what is embryo adoption?
a couple adopts an already fertilized egg and it is implanted into the wife’s womb
what is the solution that christian’s offer to combat the loss of embryonic life in the use of selective reduction?
allow for embryo adoption instead of eliminating the life or giving it to stem cell research
what are the two types of surrogate motherhood?
- commercial surrogacy
- altruist surrogacy
what is commercial surrogacy?
woman is payed to carry the married couple’s child to term
what is altruist surrogacy?
woman is not payed to carry the married couple’s child to term
what biblical principles can we apply for and against reproductive technology?
- parenthood is a divine gift
- desiring children is natural
- correcting physical conditions preventing pregnancy is not inherently wrong
- married couples should carefully consider God’s will for their family before pursuing additional assistance
- married couples should always protect the concept of marital “oneness”
- IVF raises serious ethical concerns
- financial issues should always be considered
how much does one cycle of AI cost?
$15-30,000
what is the definition of birth control?
the managing of the number and spacing of children
what is birth control directly connected to?
sanctity of life, sanctity of marriage, and sanctity of sex
what are the three kinds of birth control?
- abortifacients
- continents
- contraceptives
what are abortifacients?
prevents conceived life from implanting
what is an IUD?
it is an abortifacient intrauterine device
what are the contraceptive effects of an IUD?
- it prevents sperm from fertilizing
- it has ions to prevent implantation
- creates mucus in utero to prevent the egg from implanting
what is the abortifacient effect of an IUD?
it irritates the endometrium making the uterine inhospitable, causing embryonic death
what is the RU-486?
it is the abortion pill marketed as mifeprex
what is LNG?
the morning after pill marketed as Plan B (abortifacient)
what is Ulipristal Acetate?
another morning after pill marketed as Ella (abortifacient)
what is a continent form of birth control?
the method of self restraint with regard to sex; keeping the sperm out of the woman’s body when she is fertile
what is the coitus interruptus method?
a continents better known as the withdrawal method; pulling out
what is the rhythm method?
the woman traces her minstrel history to know when she ill be fertile (continents)
what is the basal temperature method?
temperature way to know when the wife may be fertile (continents)
what is the symptom-thermal method?
monitoring the change of the uterine lining / mucus to determine when the wife may be fertile (continents)
what is a permeant form of continent birth control?
a vasectomy
what is a contraceptive?
it is intended to prevent the sperm and egg from uniting; the sperm is already in the woman’s body
what are the three different categories of contraceptive birth controls?
- barrier methods
- hormonal methods
- permanent method
what are some examples of the barrier method? (5)
- condoms (internal or external)
- sponges (vaginal sponge)
- spermicides (damages sperm inside woman’s body)
- diaphragms (dome shaped cup keeps sperm from egg)
- cervical cap (blocks cervix opening)
what are some examples of the hormonal method of birth control? (4)
- birth control pill
- depo-provera
- vaginal ring
- the patch
what are the two types of birth control pills?
- combination pills
- mini pills
what are combination birth control pills?
they have both estrogen and progesterone in them
what is the mini birth control pill?
it only has progesterone in it
what does progesterone do to the woman’s reproductive system?
causes it to produce more mucus to prevent pregnancy by making the uterine inhospitable
what is the Depo-Provera form of hormonal birth control?
it is a shot that prevents ovulation
what is the vaginal ring as a form of hormonal birth control?
it is marketed as the nova ring and is placed in-utero for up to three weeks. it produces estrogen and progesterone to prevent ovulation
what is the patch as a form of hormonal birth control?
it can be work for up to three weeks and produces estrogen and progesterone to prevent ovulation
what is the permanent form of contraceptive birth control?
a tubal ligation or steroidization by the woman commonly knowns as getting her tubes tied
what are the two arguments given when people try to say there are laws in God’s word against birth control?
- the command to be fruitful and multiply
- the story of Onan
why is the command to be fruitful and multiply not apply to birth control?
- it was a blessing from God, not a command
- it was issued corporately, not to individual couples
what are the three sins of Onan that make it unlikely God was displeased with his use of continent birth control?
- he was disobeying and refused the responsibility to his brother to raise up godly seed
- he was being selfish
- he was fulfilling his own lust continually
what are the biblical principles that apply to the conversation on birth control? (6)
- birth control may be a legitimate option as a couple considers God’s will for their family
- the birth control method must not violate biblical standards
- the main thing we need to distinguish what is moral and immoral is the sanctity of life
- motive principle
- conscious principle
- edification principle
what is the best practice for reunion and reintegration into the family unit?
H-O-T communication
Honest – Open – Transparent communication
what are some tips for families in high stress vocations?
- know everyone struggles with the same sort of problems
- the problem presents isn’t really the issue
- marriage and family systems are very complex and powerful
what are some individual concerns for people in high stress vocations?
- addictions
- suicide
- post traumatic stress disorder
- moral injury
what are some examples of moral injury faced in high stress vocations?
- spiritual health condition triggered by a violation of one’s values
- it is a deep soul wound
what are some tips for individual’s concerns in a high stress vocation?
- listen to understand
- consider heart responses
- speak truth in love
what is gross income?
income before taxes
what is net income?
income after takes and retirement has been drawn from it
how much retirement should you try to save?
15% of your gross income
what is a 401K retirement?
it is from the employer, usually matching up to 5%; not taxed until pulled, and it adjust your gross income possibly lowering your tax bracket
what is a ROTH retirement fund?
it is taxed before it is goes into the fund, so it isn’t taxed when taken out. it also grows over time; not made with job, it is a personal fund
it is better to use either 401K or ROTH retirement?
it is better to use both for a combined 15% total retirement
what is a reasonable budget?
a flexible budget
how much of the income is given to tithe?
10% – offering is added to the 10% not taken from it
how much of the income is given to the housing yearly?
30% split between electric, water, trash pickup, cable / internet, cell phones, HOA fees, and a home repair fund
how much of the yearly income is given to food?
13% used for both grocery store items and the occasional going our to eat
how much of the yearly salary goes towards transportation?
10% – split between car payment, car insurance, gas, and maintenance
how much of the yearly income goes towards clothing expenses?
5% split between the husband, wife, and dry cleaning
how much of the yearly income goes to medical / dental needs?
5%
how much of the yearly income goes towards insurance needs?
8%
how much of the yearly fund goes towards recreation / vacations?
5%
how much of the yearly income goes towards miscellaneous expenses like hair cutes, gym memberships, etc.?
4%
how much of the yearly income goes towards debt reduction?
5% – when debt is clear this can go towards ROTH IRA or into saving
how much of the yearly income should go into savings?
5% but if you can 10% is ideal
which kind of life insurance is better, term life or whole life?
term life
is it better to buy a new or used car?
a lightly used car is good to allow for lower payments
what should you do with the extra cash when you pay off your car?
continue to set the same amount aside so that when maintenance is needed or even a new card you have a decent amount of money set aside for a total or down payment
