Final Exam Flashcards
Superficial love tends to be equated to
a) sex
b) attraction
c) security
d) all of the above
D) All of the Above
Which component of Sternburg’s Love Triangle has to do with motivation?
a) commitment
b) intimacy
c) Passion
C) Passion
How do we keep a good relationship going?
a) compliment often
b) learn to control less
c) develop equality in the relationship
D) all of the above will help
D) all of the above will help
The tendency to marry someone of the same ethnic group, educational level, relational values, and status is known as
a) mating gradient
b) endogamy
c) exogamy
d) sex ratio
b) endogamy
The pace of dating for senior adults compared to their youthful counterparts tends to be
a) about the same
b) accelerated
c) a little slower
d) much slower
b) accelerated
Seen as a self-defeating emotion, jealousy typically tends to feelings of
a) envy
b) suspicion
c) possessiveness
d) all of these
D) all of these
In order to reduce negative interactions between couples,marital therapists often ask their clients to
a) double the number of compliments they give to their spouses each day for a week
b) spend some time apart from their partners
c) use loaded questions instead of directly asking for what they want so that their partners feel like they are making decisions
d)withdraw quietly and sullenly from an argument
a) double the number of compliments…
Which of the following statements about compatibility is correct?
a) opposites attract
b) the phrase love is blind endorses compatibility
c) the more similar the values of each individual the more likely the couple will be satisfied
d)relationships are supposed to be easy. Compatibility is obvious
C) the more similar the values of each individual the more likely the couple will be satisfied
Which of the following best describes the physical relationship in dating?
a) a relationship that becomes more physical helps the couple know if they are compatible
b) a relationship with definite boundaries about the physical aspect will encourage looking around
c)the more physical the relationship becomes the less apt a person is to view the dating partner realistically
d) it is better to avoid any physical contact with another person
c) the more physical the relationship becomes the less apt a person is to view the dating partner realistically
In the Love Triangle, is the cognative attachment to another person that develops over time
a) commitment
b) intimacy
c) passion
d)Love
Commitment
It appears the strongest love relationship have roots in
a) exogamy
b) courtship
c) friendship
d) heterogeneity
c) friendship
In many non-industralized countries, parent arranged marriages are
a) uncommon and ineffective
b) common and ineffective
c) uncommon but effective
d) common and effective
d) common and effective
Men and women are different. In regards to those differences we should:
a) try to change each other
b) celebrate the differences
c)criticize our partner until there is change
d) try to find a partner more alike than different
b) celebrate the differences
When wanting to date, you must first
a) look for someone who is available to date
b) look for someone who is appealing physically
c) look for someone that everyone agrees is good for you
d) look for someone that has dated about as much as you have
a) look for someone who is available to date
Which of the following is TRUE about dating?
a) dating leads to commitment but not necessarily to intimacy
b) dating is about finding someone with different interests since opposites attract
c) dating provides an effective environment for knowing another person’s character
d)dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love
d) dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love
The key to marriage is
a) trust
b) good sex
c) communication
d) forgiveness
d) forgiveness
According to Olson et al, _____ is the area that most strongly distinguishes happy couples from unhappy couples
a) communication
b) conflict resolution
c) couple flexibility
d)personality compatibility
a) communication
Which of the following statements about jealousy is FALSE?
a) jealousy can create a vicious cycle of greater and greater jealousy
b) jealousy is seen by therapists as a self-defeating emotion
c) jealousy is caused by the other person in the relationship
d) jealousy can be triggered by both internal and external causes
c) jealousy is caused by the other person in the relationship
Throughout history, most arrangments for marriage have been made by
a) a village shaman using astrological signs
b) contractual systems of indentured servants
c) individual choice
d) parents of the bride and groom
d) parents of the bride and groom
Marriage provides intimacy:
a) when the partners enter the marriage to escape loneliness
b) when the partners are creative in making it happen
c) when at least one person can share important emotions and beliefs with the other
d) when both partners avoid bringing up topics that are likely to cause conflict
b) when the partners are creative in making it happen
What component of Sternburg’s love triangle is characterized by a mature relationship in which most areas are open for discussion and sharing?
a) commitment
b) intimacy
c) passion
b) intimacy
Males feel greater ____ through doing things together
a) responsibility
b) intimacy
c) friendship
d) self-disclosure
b) intimacy
John Allan Lee’s research revealed six types of love. which types when combined produced the most marital satisfaction?
a eros/romantic and storge/companionate
b) eros/romantic and agape/compassionate
c) eros/ romantic and pragma
d) agape/ companionate and pragma
b) eros/romantic and agape/compassionate
Which of the following theories of mate selection assumes that the same kind of emotional bonds between parents and children are evident in adult intimate relationships?
a) attatchment theory
b) equity theory
c) exchange theory
d) feminist theory
a) attatchment theory
Which of the following is NOT a sign of a bad relationship?
a) lack of trust
b) refusal for change
c) my partner wants to know where I am all the time
d) my dating partner is a bad kisser
d) my dating partner is a bad kisser
Which of the following is a finding of the study conducted by Andersonet al (2020) on online dating?
a) most Americans say people who use online dating sites are desperate
b) online dating has jumped among adults under age 25, as well as those in their late 50s and early 60s
c) generally speaking, online dating is a negaticec experience for most people
d) the vast majority of realtionships today begin online
b) online dating has jumped among adults under age 25, as well as those in their late 50s and early 60s
Which of the following does not belong when thinking about traits that affect marriage?
a) personal happiness
b) parents’ marriage
c) parental approval
d) premarital pregnancy
e) these all belong
e) these all belong
Which of the following kinds of love lacks intimacy, according to Sternburg?
a) fatuous love
b) consummate love
c) companionate love
d) romantic love
a) fatuous love
One of the effects of industrialization on marriage is
a) individuals marry at younger ages
b) an increase in parent-arranged marriages
c) more freedom for women to make marriage decisions
d) none of these are correct
c) more freedom for women to make marriage decisions
According to 1 Thessalonians 4:3, God’s desire is that we be
A) satisfied
b) content
c) pleasured
d) holy
d) holy
Which of the following is true of current trends in searching for a partner?
a) people typically meet their partners in high school or through their family
b) the traditional ways of meeting partners-family connections, church or neighborhood- have all been increasing
c) meeting online has become the most popular way couples meet
d) meeting partners through friends has been increasing
c)meeting online has become the most popular way couples meet
Which of the following describes the process of relationship communication?
a) simple, if both partners learn to read each others nonverbal communication-cues
b)simple, if both partners aquire effective communication skills and consistently use these skills in the relationship
c) none of the choices are correct
d) complex, even if both partners aquire effective communication skills and use them in the relationship
d) complex, even if both partners aquire effective communication skills and use them in the relationship
Emir often doesn’t tell his girlfriend information because he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. He is adopting what kind of communication style?
a) aggressive communication style
b) passive communication style
c) assertive communication style
d) compromising communication style
b) passive communication style
Which of the following statements is true about mixed messages?
a) they often stem from a willingness to be direct and honest in communication
b) they are messages in which there is a discrepancy between the verbal and the nonverbal components of the message
c) they help the sender minimize misunderstanding and confusion
d) the instructions on a cake mix box
b) they are messages in which there is a discrepancy between the verbal and the nonverbal components of the message
Concerning negative emotions such as anger, bitterness, and resentment, most couples
a) learn how to deal with them effectively
b) fear them and hope they will disappear
c) none of these are correct
d) do not suppress them
b) fear them and hope they will disappear
An unwillingness to say what you think, feel, or want characterizes what style?
a) compromising communication style
b) assertive communication style
c) aggressive communication style
d) passive communication style
passive communication style
Effective listening skills involve which of the following
a) formulating a reply while the other person is still talking
b)suspending judgment about what is being said
c) offering solutions as soon as they come to mind
d)speeding up communication by repeatedly restarting the speaker’s ideas
b) suspending judgment about what is being said
Which of the following is an example of the ability to manage stress from the family strengths model?
a) being task oriented
b) seeking help if they cannot solve the problem themselves
c) keeping problems to oneself
d) strong families do not experience stress and so do not need coping strategies
b) seeking help is they cannot solve the problem
Gottman labeled the traits that destroy a relationship as the:
a) the four horsemen of the apocalypse
b) the four processes of anger
c) the four horsemen of conflict
d) the bitter rage process
the four horsemen of the apocalypse
Carl Whitaker’s comment that “there are no individuals in the world-only fragments of families” suggests that:
a) the changes in fmaily structure in the United States
b) there are no more families
c) individuals think and act in ways that are best understood by understanding the influences of their family background
d)it is important to focus on family growth and development as well as individaul growth and development
c) individuals think and act in ways that are best understood by understanding the influences of their family background
Sarcasm is often used to
a) express love
b) point out incongruites about the relationship
c) put others at ease
d) mask anger
d) mask anger
Which statement is least likely to be true?
a) expressions of anger can delude us into thinking that we are doing something constructive about our problems
b) expressions of anger allow people to substitute feelings of superiority for feelings of hurt or rejection
c). expressions of anger can cause guilt feelings
d) expressions of anger make us feel more positive about ourselves
d) expressions of anger make us feel more positive about ourselves
Which of the following includes the ability to express feelings to a partner?
a) self-confidence
b) partner dominance
c) avoidance
d) assertiveness
d) assertiveness
Nonverbal communication includes all the following except
a) gestures
b) eye contact
c)nodding
d) written words
d) written words
Which of the following includes the tendency to minimize issues?
a) assertiveness
b) partner dominance
c) self-confidence
d) avoidance
d) avoidance
In terms of the most common conflict resolution problems for couples, the national survey of married couples conducted by Olson et al. 2008, revealed that most couples
a) only have disputes over important issues
b) felt that one person ends up feeling responsible for the problem rather than both
c) preferred to resolve rather than avoid conflict with their partners
d) agreed on the best way to solve disagreements
b) felt that one person ends up feeling responsible for the problem rather than both
A family’s flexibility relates to its ability to
a) switch roles
b) all of the choices are correct
c) share power
d) adjust rules
b) all the choices are correct
The most controversial finding of family strengths researchers is the importance of
a) the ability to cope with stress
b) religion or a sense of spiritual well-being
c) humor
d) economic security
b) religion or a sense of spiritual well-benog
An example of appreciation and affection is
a) disciplining children
b) sarcasm
c) expressing one’s ethical values
d) a pat on the back
d) a pat on the back
Constructive approaches to resolving conflict include
a) bringing up old issues
b) emphasizing differences
c) focusing on issues instead of people
d) expressing predominantly negative feelings
c) focusing on issues instead of people
The majority of our communication with other people is
a) nonverbal
b) we communicate the same amount verbally and nonverbally
c) verbal
a) nonverbal
A wife wants a drink on a driving trip with her husband. She asked him “Would you like a drink?” but was upset when he truthfully answered “no” and did not stop. Which of the following was occurring in the ancedote?
a) he was not listening
b) she was showing concern for her husbands wants, he was not showing concern for hers
c) he thought she was asking an information question, but she was trying to initiate a discussion about what both of them would like
d) she was playing “mind games” with him
c) he thought she was asking an information question….
People in conflict must consider
a) the merits of the argument
b) the level of investment each has in continuing the relationship
c) all of the choices are correct
d) the personalities of those involved
c) all of the choices are correct
Constructive arguments focus on
a) the past
b) the future and the past but not the present
c) the future
d) the present
d) the present
Which type of statement is most helpful in resolving conflict?
a) an I statement
b) a you statement
c( a they statement
d) a we statement
a) an I statement
Families need to balance the flexibility dimensions of their relationships between the extremes of
a) chaos and rigidity
b) disengagement and chaos
c) structure and connectedness
d) adaptability and rigidity
a) chaos and rigidity
Families need to balance the cohesive dimensions of their relationships between the extremes
a) disengagement and enmeshment
b) intimacy and enmeshment
c) rigidity and stability
d) autonomy and rigidity
a) disengagement and enmeshment
When both people in a relationship exhibit a passive communication style, the level of intimacy usually becomes
a) higher
b) nonexistent
c) ambiguous
d) lower
d) lower
Research on family time together indicates that pleasurable family time
a) often centers on simple, inexpensive activities and often involves outdoor recreation
b) often involves outdoor recreation
c) is usually related to the amount of money spent
d) often centers on simple, inexpensive activites
a) often centers on simple, inexpensive activites and often involves outdoor recreation
From a family systems theory perspective, when a child of a single parent constantly gets in trouble at school
a) the child is the problem
b) everybody in the family (including the noncustodial parent) is the problem
c) the teacher is the problem
d) family systems theory does not apply since school problems are outside the family boundaries
b) everybody in the family is the problem
A chaotic family would most likely live by which axiom?
a) we have nothing to fear but fear itself
b) there is nothing new under the sun
c) the more things change the more they stay the same
d) the only thing you can count on is that you cant count on anything
d) the only thing you can count on is that you cant count on anything
Which of the following is an example of spiritual well-being from the family strengths framework?
a) all of the choices are correct
b) having strong ethical beliefs
c) faith in God
d) a feeling of oneness with the world
a) all the choices are correct
In intimate human relationships, conflict is
a) predictable
b) none of the choices are correct
c) inevitable
d) abnormal
c) inevitable
When arguing, active listeners
a) change the subject if they think conflict may be arising
b) uses down time in the conversation for other mental tasks
c) hear the messages of the words as well as the words themselves
d) send a new message that obviously builds on the previous messages
c) hear the message of teh words as well as the words themselves