Final Flashcards
- Real self
the person you are (experiential system)
What is flow?
When you are “in-the-zone” of something you enjoy
- Ideal self
the person you want to be
o Rational self (social norms)
o In the future, not real
Why is ideal self flawed?
o Cannot know where you are going because you have never been there (psychologically)
What is the state of consciousness?
The connection of real and ideal self
Why do many people fail to connect their real and ideal selves?
- Generous (ideal self) self-created because of my selfish self (real self)
- Since the generous self-came from selfish self, it is actually selfish
- Practice generosity in a selfish way
What are the two steps to mindfulness?
1. Acknowledge it (DO NOT say should/wishful thinking/ideal self)
2. You start to do whatever you were not doing (You stop whatever you were doing)
- Past self
the person you were
How are the 3 selves connected?
o Real self makes assumptions based on past self to predict ideal self
Whos theory involves the selves?
Carl Rodgers (person-centered theory)
What are tensions/anxieties according to Rodgers
o Pressure between ideal and real self
What is the difference between humanistic and existential therapy
- humanists believe that each of us has a
natural potential that we can actualize and through which we can find meaning
-Existentialists focus on the anxiety that ensues from having to create an identity in world that lacks intrinsic meaning
What is conditional positive regard?
Conditions of worth
- using words like: shoulds, musts, always
- Self-acutalizing tendency
striving toward realization (real self; you think you want what society wants you to want), fulfillment, autonomy, and self-determination
Rodgers is view of human nature is concerned with…
maslow’s hierarchy of needs
The 3 Therapeutic Goals in Rogerian Theory
- Provide a climate for the client to self-actualize
- Have to come face-to-face with one’s ideal self that was created through socialization
- Signs that client is coming self-actualized: an openness to trust in themselves and internal source of evaluation, a willingness to continue growing
TEST ON ALDRIAN AND SELF PSYCHOLOGY
- State of incongruence
anxiety from discrepancy between real and ideal self
Why do clients come into therapy (rodgers)
- They come for therapy because feelings helpless, powerless, and not in control of their lives
- Less bound by the past and the future; freer to live in the moment
What are the therapeutic core conditions (3 of them)
congruence, unconditional positive regard, empathic understanding
o Congruence
To be authentic; inner experiences and outer expressions of those experiences match
Openly expresses feelings, thoughts, reactions in the here-and-now to enhance the therapeutic relationship
o Unconditional positive regard
Non-judgmental of client’s feelings, thoughts, behaviors
* Ex. Pedophiles (sin from sinner)
A sense of caring for the clients’ well-being that does not come from one’s own need to be liked and appreciated
* “Are you doing things for them or are you trying to prove you are caring”
o Accurate Empathic Understanding
To sense client’s subjective experience in the here and. Now as if they were his or her own without getting lost in them
Empathy at the emotional and cognitive levels to understand the meaning and feelings of a clients experience
* Perspective taking
- Dasein
being-in-world; inherent need for all of us exist in the world and to achieve a sense of being autonomous and distinct
o My existence is making a difference
How does one live a meaningful life?
by affirming and asserting our Dasein in the face of pressures to conform, misguided rules and standards and DEATH
where does anxiety come from?
an awareness of an eventual end to our being through death, and the impending psychological destruction posed by rejection and insults
how is anxiety different from fear?
anxiety is ontological- it is born out of the clash between being and the threat of non-being
Why is it bad to avoid discussion of death?
Then we deny our Dasein, and choose conformity or apathy
Why is it important to accept proposition 6?
o Death gives significance to life by reminding us to appreciate the present moment
o Death can be the source of zest for life and creativity
What is important in order to be healthy according to existential psychology
accept this anxiety as inevitable part of being, meaning fully accept nonbeing as an inseparable part of being
What is proposition 4?
Search for Meaning
What is proposition 6?
Proposition 6: Awareness of Death and Nonbeing
Why is proposition 5 important?
o We avoid anxiety by creating an illusion of security
o Life is inherently meaningless
Attach meaning to things (ex. a rose is just a flower)
Meaning is that we exist
What is proposition 5?
- Proposition 5: Anxiety as a Condition of Living
o Existential anxiety arises as a result of confronting our death, meaninglessness, freedom, isolation (we cannot change about ourselves/I am not ___), aloneness, and our basic fallibility
How are old values connected with our meaning?
Anxiety created as result of discarding old values (traditions) and not creating new ones
Natural to flounder for a while as a result of the absence of clear-out values
* Ex. Marriage was created, but we do not dare change it
How is meaninglessness connected with our meaning?
Emptiness and hollowness= existential vacuum
If I am going to eventually die, why should I bother doing anything?
Everything just is
* Ex. giving a rose to someone, but in the end, it’s just a flower with no meaning?
How do we create new meaning?
Meaning/happiness is created from engagement with what is valued
Meaning cannot be obtained directly; must be pursued obliquely
* Changing parts of society and making them applicable to you