Family Abuse/Violence Flashcards
Reasons men do not report being abused
- They are not socialized to express their feelings or see themselves as victims
- Stereotypes of men being abusers, women being victims
- The abuse of men is perceived as less serious or a “joke”
- The belief that there is a lack of support or resources that are available to women
Victim of Abuse Profile
- Represent all age, racial, religious, cultural, educational, and socioeconomic groups
- Have low self esteem; blame themselves
- Grew up in abusive homes
- Perception that the relationship is male dominant
- Learned helplessness
What is learned helplessness?
Occurs when a person comes to understand that regardless of his or her behavior, the outcome is unpredictable and usually undesirable
Profile of the Victimizer
- Low self esteem
- Pathologically jealous
- Limited coping ability
- Have severe stress reactions
- Threatened by signs of independence
- Children often ignored until old enough to try to protect mother
- Demanding and will control through the power of intimidation
Cycle of Battering
- Tension-Building Phase
- Acute Battering Incident
- Calm, Loving, Respite, “Honeymoon” Phase
Tension Building Phase
Phase 1 of the Cycle of Battering
- The man becomes angry with little aggravation
- Could lash out, but is quick to apologize
- Minor battering incidents may occur during this phase
- The victim may become very nurturing and compliant in an effort to prevent his anger from escalating
How long does the Tension-Building Phase last?
May last from a few weeks to even years
The Acute Battering Phase
Phase 2 of the Cycle of Battering
- The most violent phase and the shortest
- Often begins with the batterer justifying his behavior to himself
- Wants to “teach her a lesson”
- May or may not be provoked
- Victim feels only option is to find a safe place to hide from the batterer
- Beatings are severe
- By the end of the incident, the batterer cannot understand what has happened, only that in his rage he has lost control over his actions
How long does the Acute Battering Phase last?
Usually lasts up to 24 hours
Honeymoon Phase
Phase 3 of the Cycle of Abuse
- The batterer becomes extremely loving, kind, and remorseful; will beg for forgiveness
- Batterer will buy her gifts to “win her”
- Batterer believes that he can now control his anger, because he has “taught her a lesson” and she will not “act up” again
- Victim relives her original dream of ideal love and chooses to believe that this is what her partner is really like
Why does she (the victim) stay?
- Fear - for her life and those of her children
- Low self esteem - may have grown up in abusive home, this is “normal” for her
- Religion - “for better or for worse”
Child Behaviors of Physical Abuse
- Unexplained burns, bites, bruises, broken bones, or black eyes
- Fading bruises or other marks especially after an absence from school
- Appears frightened of the parents
- Protests when it is time to go home from school
- Shrinks at the approach of an adult
Parent Behaviors of Physical Abuse
- Offers unconvincing or even no explanation about the child’s injury
- Describes the child as “evil”, or in some type of negative form
- Uses harsh physical discipline with the child
* * The story doesn’t always match the injury
Child Behaviors of Emotional Abuse
- Extremes in behavior
- Inappropriately adult (parenting children) or inappropriately infantile (frequently rocking or head-banging)
- Failure to thrive (physically or emotionally)
- Attempted suicide
Parent Behaviors of Emotional Abuse
- Constantly blames, belittles, or berates the child
- No concern regarding the child
- Overtly rejects the child
Child Behaviors of Neglect
- Frequent school absences
- Bags or steals money or food
- Constantly dirty or severe body odor
- Lacks sufficient seasonal clothing
Parent Behaviors of Neglect
- Appears apathetic or depressed
- Indifferent toward the child
- Irrationally or in a bizarre manner
Child Behaviors of Sexual Exploitation
- Difficulty in walking or standing
- Nightmares or bedwetting
- Sudden change in appetite
- Becomes pregnant or contracts a STI, particularly before the age of 14
- Lack of trust in others
- Seductive behavior/advanced sexual knowledge
- Expressing fear of a particular person
- Compulsive masturbation
- Sexual abuse of another child
- Increase in gifts from unknown source
- Sudden onset of enuresis
- Excessive bathing
- Run away from home
- Suicide attempt
Adult/Parent Behaviors of Sexual Exploitation
- Severely limits the child’s contact with other children, especially the opposite sex
- Secretive and isolated
- Jealous or controlling with family members
- Poor education about child development or care needs
- Expects child to be perfect
Family Dynamic of an Incestuous Relationship
- Usually an impaired relationship between the parents
- The mother is usually aware of the situation or may have a strong suspicion
- Mother may be grateful the sexual needs of her husband are being met by someone else
- Usually begins with touching and fondling
- Child has a confused relationship with father (will he have a paternal role or sexual role for her?)
- Father may isolate the child from peers out of fear that she may expose their relationship