Exam 5

Question 1

What is reactive jealousy,
How does it differ from suspicious jealousy

Answer 1

Reactive - occurs when someone becomes aware of an actual threat to a valued relationship

Suspicious - occurs when one’s partner hasn’t misbehaved and one’s suspicious do not fit the facts at hand

Question 2

What attachment style is least related to jealousy

Answer 2

Dismissing style of attachment

Feeling self-sufficient and try not to depend on others is apparently one way to stay immune to jealousy

Question 3

Which personality variable is most associated with jealousy

Answer 3

People who are high and negative emotionality those who tend to worry about a lot of things are particularly prone to jealousy

Question 4

Who makes us jealous

Answer 4

Attractive romantic rivals who have high meet value and make us look bad in comparison

Question 5

Which theory views males jealousy as springing from the importance of ensuring that children are their biological offspring

Answer 5

Paternity uncertainty ( evolutionary theory)

Question 6

In forced choice questions women report they would react more to a threat of __ Infidelity and men report they would react more to the threat of____ Infidelity

Answer 6

Emotional infidelity

Sexual infidelity

Question 7

What is poaching

Answer 7

Behavior that is intended to lure someone away from the existing relationship

Question 8

Who poaches

Answer 8

Horny extrovert people who are low in agreeableness and who approve of adulteress Promiscuity

Question 9

How frequent is it that someone tries to poach another relationship partner

Answer 9

54% of men and 34% of women have tried to push someone else

Question 10

What are the personality traits of mate poachers

Answer 10

In general male poachers are horny extrovert people who are low in agreeableness and conscientiousness Add who approves of adulteress promiscuity

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Question 11

Mate Poachers are high in which dark traid traits

Answer 11

They are callous manipulative and diss interested in trusting intimacy with others

Question 12

What do women do when they want to poach someone? What do men do when they want to poach someone

Answer 12

Women advertiser good looks in sexual availability

Man publicize Their power and willingness to provide their lovers desirable resources

Question 13

Two important strategies for overcoming unwanted jealousy or self reliance and______

Answer 13

Self-worth

Question 14

Those who lie to others can begin to perceive the recipients of the lies as less honest and trustworthy …..

this is called

Answer 14

Deceiver trust

liars assume that other people are just like them so they assume the other share their own deceitful motives and because they feel better about themselves when they believe their faults are shared by them

Question 15

What most often gives liars away

Answer 15

Lying is usually a parent and changes in a persons ordinary demeanor

Question 16

What are constructive responses to betrayal

Answer 16

Know what is required in apologies and how to make forgiveness possible

Question 17

If someone wants their betrayal to do the least harm in a relationship they should do what

Answer 17

First admit are wrong doing without being asked
Second make a response as truthful as possible
Third don’t contradict the truth

Question 18

What is forgiveness? What does it involve doing

Answer 18

Forgiveness is a decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with or hold in debt someone who has wronged you

1. It involves your sincere contribution. ( feeling of remorse)
2. Desire to continue the relationship
3. Letting go of anger and resentment
4. To be explicit telling them of your decision and inviting discussion of the event and its consequences

Question 19

What type of person is most likely to forgive

Answer 19

Secure People those who have high agreeableness and people with self-worth

Question 20

Our apologies helpful in forgiveness? What role do expression of shame and regret play

Answer 20

Forgiveness is less likely to occur when excuses are given or when an apology seems half hearted.

Victims are more likely to forgive those who betrayed them when offenders offer a meaningful apology by acknowledging their wrongs excepting responsibility for their actions and offering genuine expression of shame regret and remorse

Question 21

At what age do we learn to lie

Answer 21

4

Question 22

What is the main reason why people are not good at detecting lies

Answer 22

Truth bias

Question 23

What are different technologies used for lie detection

Answer 23

Polygraph test
Layered voice analysis
Thermal imaging
Laser Doppler vibromiter 

Question 24

What did Paul Ekman conclude from his research in New Guinea

Answer 24

People from all over the world no matter what background make the same basic expressions

Question 25

What are micro expressions

Answer 25

Authentic flash is a real emotion that are visible during moments lapse of control

Question 26

What is a full proof method for detecting human lying

Answer 26

There is none

Question 27

What are dialectics
know the different types
know how to apply them

Answer 27

Dialects are opposing motivations that can never be entirely satisfied because they contradict each other

1 Autonomy vs Connection
Having freedom and independence versus seeking warm clothes connections to the other

2 Openness and closeness
Intimate partners are expected to share their thoughts how are people also like their privacy

3. Stability versus change
   People like the same things every day but also people like excitement in new things too much stability and predictability becomes Monday

4 integration versus separation
Stay at home or go to party

Question 28

Which attachment style is most commonly Associated with conflict

Answer 28

Insecure people

Question 29

What are illegitimate Demands? Which phrase of conflict are they associated

Answer 29

Involves requests that seem unjust because they exceed the normal expectations that a partner holds for each other for example when one partner has a major project the other may be upset by being asked to fix dinner and do the dishes three nights in a row
This is the beginning phase

Question 30

What are social allergies

Answer 30

Through exposure to small reoccurring nuisances people may develop hypersensitive reactions of disgust that seem out of proportion to any particular 

Question 31

What is attributional conflict

Answer 31

When different views come to light partners will fight over who is explanation is right versus who’s is wrong

Question 32

What are the characteristics of the avoiders, hostiles, Validator’s, and volatiles 

Answer 32

Avoiders really argue avoid confrontation and I are unlikely to discuss conflict

Hostiles arguments are harmful filter maintain 5 to 1 ratio of nice behavior to nasty contact

Validator’s fight more politely they tend to be calmer and behave like collaborators

Volatiles Have frequent and passion arguments

Question 33

What are structural improvement, integrative agreement, compromise’ and domination 

Answer 33

1 structural improvement partners not only get what they want but learn and grow and make desirable changes to the relationship

2 Integrative agreement- satisfy both partners original goals and aspirations usually through creativivity Flexibility

3. Compromise- Both parties reduce their aspirations or gradually change their goals so that the mutual acceptable alternative can be found

4 domination- One party gets their ways over the other

Question 34

structural improvement, integrative agreement, compromise’ and domination Are associated with which stage of conflict

Answer 34

Outcomes of conflict

Question 35

What is the speaker – listener technique, and how does it work