Exam 4 Flashcards
what types of variables influence attraction?
- balance theory and attraction
- proximity
- similarity
- i-sharing
- physical attractiveness
what is balance theory and attractions
-my enemy’s enemy is my friend
-cognitive dissonance
proximity
-the more we see and interact with people the more likely they are to become your friends
-leads to liking because makes it more likely you will come into contact with them
Festinger dorm friendship study
live in same dorm AND closer to each other within the dorm —-> friends
functional distance
functional distance
you pass by each other more
cops- people with similar last names are more likely to be friends
anticipating interaction
we think they will be nice and we behave nicely when interacting with them
-self-fulfilling prophecy –> you think they will be nice –> you’re nice –> they are nice back
mere exposure effect
repeated exposure to a stimulus leads to increased liking of that stimulus
-study with mice to make them listen to 2 different classical musical composer when eating. always chose tunnel with music they were familiar with
letter-name effect
-we tend to have a slight bias to like letter in our own names because you are exposed to your name a lot
similarity
-more often than not ppl like ppl similar to them
-facilitates smooth interactions
-validates our own beliefs
-similar people have qualities we like
-expect them to be nice to use
I-sharing
-feeling that another person “shares” your subjective experience
-we are drawn toward I-sharers because they give us a sense of existential connection and a feeling of “kindred spirits”
Halo effect
belief that attractive people possess a number of positive qualities beyond their physical appearance
passionate love
strong feelings of longing, desire, and excitement toward a special person
compassionate love
mutual understanding and caring to make the relationship a success
Triangle Theory of Love
- passion
- intimacy
- commitment
passion
an emotional state characterized by high bodily arousal, desires, and approach motivational states (automatic)
intimacy
feeling of closeness, mutual understanding, and concern for each other
-self and emotional disclosure
investment model of relationships
3 primary variables that determine if commit or leave
1. rewards (ex: happiness
2. alternatives
3. investments (ex: children, social circles)
According to Gilovich, to create stronger bonds…..
- be playful, break out of routine: vacation
- set reasonable expectations
- forgive
Kitty Genovesse
- bartender in NY took subway home and got killed when she got home
- yelled for help but no one helped
- because: fear of putting self in danger, belief someone else will step up (bystander effect), not the only case where this happens
Making decision to help
- notice the incident (emergencies are unannounced AND theres distractions)
- interpret as an emergency (social proof)
- assume responsibility
- know what to do
- decide to help
social proof
hard to know if something is an emergency or not
social proof study
experimenters pour smoke out of a vent:
alone= more likely to help
with confederates= takes longer to help
CONFORMITY!
Seizure experiment
1 witness= more willing to help fast
more ppl= less willing to help and slower
why= assuming you do not know how to help and that someone more experienced than you
How to teach a child to be willing to help
- Teach them to be confident and sure of themselves- think about the greater good
- Decide to notice situations- be prepared if something happens
- Teaching to help in non-emergency situations
- Display helping values yourself- social learning theory
Other factors that play role in helping
- number of people present ( bystander effect)
- helping those you like (similarity, attractiveness)
- attribution of victim’s responsibility (ex: escaping police, look innocent, etc)
- time pressures
good samaritan study
1st speech: content of speech (helping vs employment)
2nd speech: Time (in a hurry vs lots of time)
66% helped if not in a hurry
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How to increase helping
- reduce ambiguity
- learn about helping
prosocial behavior
any act performed with the goal of benefiting another person (ex: donating, volunteering)
Why do we behave pro-socially?
- Rewards, punishments
- Upsetting to see someone else suffer (motivated to reduce unpleasant tension)
- .Reciprocity
- Enhancement/ maintenance (want to feel good. Searching for meaning/happiness)
- Having a sense of social responsibility
- Values: compass guides our actions
Motivations for helping
egoistic helping: to receive self-benefit
altruistic helping: to increase another person’s welfare (strong sense of empathy)
Empathy-altruism link
-empathy triggers altruistic motive
-can help distinguish altruistic from egoistic helping
empathy
ability to put oneself in another’s shoes
extrinsic goals
-external goals
-more extrinsic goals —> less likely to be happy
-ex: To be admired by many people, have people comment often about how attractive I look, be rich
intrinsic goals
internal goals
-correlated with happiness
-Ex: To work to make the world a better place, To have good friends I can count on, To continue to grow and learn new things
competence
most days I feel a sense of accomplishment from what I do