Exam 2 Units 6-8 Flashcards

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Define commitment

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expectations of a shared future

personal relationships stem from passion, but endure with commitment

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2
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What are relational dialectics?

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Opposing and continuous tensions that are normal in all close relationships

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What are turning points in a relationship?

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move a relationship toward/away from intimacy or change

ex: moving in together, meeting the parents

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4
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Define the second shift

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5
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What is autonomy vs connection

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Relational dialectic

the desire to be both separate and connected

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6
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What is novelty vs predictability

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the desire for both familiar routine and novelty

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What is openness vs closedness

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the desire for both openness and privacy

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8
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What is filtering theory?

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proposes that we use a series of increasingly nuanced filters to determine who we want to become close to

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What is equity theory?

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10
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What are the characteristics of a personal relationship?

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Unique - personal relationships are not replaceable
Commitment - expectations of a shared future, commitment grows out of investment in a relationship
Relationship rules - all relationships are guided by constitutive and regulative rules
Affected by contexts - they are not isolated from the social world
Affected by relational dialectics

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What are strategies for managing relational dialectics?

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Disorientation - we just don’t do anything
Separation - focuses solely on addressing one dialectical tension
Segmentation - involves assigning each dialectical tension to a certain context
Neutralization - attempts to strike a compromise between competing tensions
reframing - transforming the dialectic so tensions are no longer in opposition

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12
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What are the two greatest influences on initial attraction?

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proximity and similarity

people will seek out relationships with similar others - homophily

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13
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What are two challenges facing people in long distance relationships?

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The lack of daily communication about small events and issues
unrealistic expectations about interactions when partners are together

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14
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What are the three main stages of Knapps relational model?

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Escalation - developing a relationship
Navigation - maintaining a relationship
Deterioration - relationships coming apart

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Define emotional intelligence

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the ability to understand and manage one’s own emotions, and be sensitive to others feelings

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16
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Define reappraisal

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involves rethinking the meaning of events to alter their emotional impact

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17
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Define Alexithymia

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difficulty discussing emotions

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18
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What is online disinhibition of self?

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Anonymity with an audience

i.e. youtube comments

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19
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Define emotional contagion

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describes our ability to “catch” emotions from other people

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20
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Define rumination

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involves fixating on negative thoughts/emotions

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21
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What is the rational-emotive approach

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involves changing feelings by unproductive interpretations

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22
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What is emotional agility?

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savor positive emotional experiences
regard challenging situations as growth opportunities
focus on gains, not losses
choose compassion over contempts

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What are psychological indicators vs verbal/nonverbal indicators of emotions?

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psychological - increased heartbeats, rise in BP, increased adrenaline, elevated blood sugar, slower digestion
nonverbal - enger, fear, disgust, happiness, sadness, surprise

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24
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What are facilitative vs debilitative emotions?

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facilitative - contribute to effective functioning

debilitative - hinder or prevent effective performance

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What factors impact whether an emotion is facilitative or debilitative?

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duration - how long we spend thinking about an emotion

intensity - stronger emotions are more likely to be debilitative

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26
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Define communication climate

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the social and emotional tone of a relationship

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27
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What is interpersonal confirmation?

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central to the development of a healthy communication climate
Recognition - the most basic form of confirmation, can be verbal or nonverbal
Acknowledgment - involves attending to what a person thinks, feels, or says
Endorsement - the highest form of confirmation, accepting a persons thoughts or feelings as valid

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28
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What are disconfirming messages?

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recognition - lack thereof
acknowledgment - when we fail to acknowledge the feelings or thoughts of others, or minimize their importance
endorsement - when we reject what others are thinking or feeling as invalid

29
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What are face-threatening acts

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30
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What is invitational communication?

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openly shares your perspective and invites others to do the same

31
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What are some techniques to minimize defensiveness?

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certainty - treats our own position as the only correct one

provisionalism - communication expresses our openness to others ideas and opinions

32
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What are types of communication that contribute to a supportive communication climate?

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evaluation vs description 
control-orientation vs problem-orientation
strategy vs spontaneity
neutrality vs empathy
superiority vs empathy
certainty vs provisionalism 
***review notes
33
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What is avoidance conflict management?

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lose lose

ignore or stay away from conflict

34
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What is accommodation conflict management?

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lose win
allow others to get what they want rather than asserting our own POV
Culture impacts how this is perceived

35
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What is competition conflict management?

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win lose
achieving your goal comes at the expense of others
more prevalent in individualistic cultures

36
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What is compromise conflict management?

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negotiated lose lose

both parties are required to make sacrifices, but both parties are not fully satisfied

37
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What is collaboration conflict management?

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win win

find a solution that fully satisfies both parties

38
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What are the five types of power?

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reward - the benefits we offer them
coercive - punish for lack of compliance
legitimate - made real by position occupied
expert - you have knowledge they want
referent - obedience based on force of character

39
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What is gunny sacking?

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involves storing up minor grievances until you explode

40
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What are the four horsemen?

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The four most destructive forces in relationships according to John Gottman
Criticism
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
Contempt - the most destructive
**watch video
41
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What are the three I’s of conflict?

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incompatible - mutually exclusive outcomes
interdependence - what i do affects my SO
interaction

42
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What are the five phases of conflict?

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latent -when the conditions are present for conflict to occur
perceived - we are becoming aware that something is wrong
felt - thinking about the conflict, explanations, and solutions
manifest - conflict is verbalized, expression of conflict
aftermath - consequences of conflict

43
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What are the two major dimensions of the conflict styles diagram?

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Degree of cooperativeness

Degree of assertiveness

44
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Define relational maintenance

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communication that keeps relationships running smoothly and satisfactorily
openness, positivity, assurances, social networking, task sharing

45
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What are the love languages?

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words of affirmation
quality time
gifts
acts of service
physical touch
46
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Describe negative vs positive feedback

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negative feedback maintains stability in a system

positive feedback promotes change in a system

47
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What is holism?

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System property

a system is more than the sum of its parts

48
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What is equifinality?

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System property

theres more than just a one way path to success

49
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What is entropy?

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System property

Without new input, a system will die

50
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Define social support

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includes behaviors that “communicate to an individual that s/he is valued and cared for by others”

51
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What are the components of systems?

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systems are hierarchical
interdependent
permeable

52
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What is conformity vs conversation orientation in family communication patterns?

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conformity - high conformity orientation stresses homogeneity of attitudes, beliefs, and values
conversation - high conversation orientation emphasizes free and frequent communication about a variety of topics

53
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What is the buffering hypothesis?

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Social support is most important when we encounter stressful experiences because knowing others are there for us can act as a “buffer” against feeling overwhelmed

54
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What does a systems metaphor suggest about families?

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55
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What are the four different types of social support? What are the three types of over support?

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action-facilitating support - instrumental and informational support, performing tasks or providing info to increase understanding
nurturing - esteem or emotional support - making the other person feel valued or important, making an effort to acknowledge and understand what another person is feeling
over support - over helping (too much instrumental), over informing (too much informational), emotional contagion (too much emotional)

56
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What are the three types of love in Sternbergs triangular theory?
What is the most complete type of love?

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Intimacy, commitment, passion

Consummate love is the most complete type of love

57
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What are the four types of family communication patterns?

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consensual, protective, pluralistic, laissez-faire

***see diagram

58
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Define culture

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a system of ideas, values, beliefs, customs, and language that is passed from one generation to the next and reflects and sustains a particular way of life

59
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Define high vs low context culture

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where meaning is located in an interaction
low - language expresses thoughts, feelings, and ideas as directly as possible
high - communication relies heavily on subtle, often nonverbal, cues to maintain social harmony

60
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What are the individualistic vs collective dimensions fo culture?

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individualistic - emphasizes personal goals over group goals - values competition, self-reliance
collective - emphasizes group goals over personal goals

61
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What is the difference between high and low power distance in cultural dimensions?

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low power distance - societies minimize the distinction between classes
high power distance - values obeying authority and those in power

62
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What is the high vs low uncertainty avoidance?

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high - need clear rules and regulations

low - less threatened by new or unexpected things

63
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What are the masculine vs feminine dimensions of culture?

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masculine - aggressiveness, competitiveness, dominating others
feminine - taking care of others, living in harmony

64
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What is long term vs short term orientation in dimensions of culture?

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to what extent do people focus on history/the future (long term) vs the present (short term)

65
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What is the communication accommodation theory?

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our perception of another person being similar to or different from affects our interaction with them
convergence - adjusting speech to sound more similar to your conversation partner
divergence - adjusting speech to sound more different from your conversational partner

66
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What is person-centered communication?

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person-centeredness can help us interact with members of other cultures without resorting to cultural stereotypes
opposite of totalizing

67
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Define ethnocentrism

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the tendency to regard our way of life as normal and superior

68
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What is cultural relativism?

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recognizes that cultures vary in how they think and behave, as well as in what they believe and value

69
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What is the relationship between culture and communication?

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They are mutually influencing