Exam 2 Units 6-8 Flashcards
Define commitment
expectations of a shared future
personal relationships stem from passion, but endure with commitment
What are relational dialectics?
Opposing and continuous tensions that are normal in all close relationships
What are turning points in a relationship?
move a relationship toward/away from intimacy or change
ex: moving in together, meeting the parents
Define the second shift
What is autonomy vs connection
Relational dialectic
the desire to be both separate and connected
What is novelty vs predictability
the desire for both familiar routine and novelty
What is openness vs closedness
the desire for both openness and privacy
What is filtering theory?
proposes that we use a series of increasingly nuanced filters to determine who we want to become close to
What is equity theory?
What are the characteristics of a personal relationship?
Unique - personal relationships are not replaceable
Commitment - expectations of a shared future, commitment grows out of investment in a relationship
Relationship rules - all relationships are guided by constitutive and regulative rules
Affected by contexts - they are not isolated from the social world
Affected by relational dialectics
What are strategies for managing relational dialectics?
Disorientation - we just don’t do anything
Separation - focuses solely on addressing one dialectical tension
Segmentation - involves assigning each dialectical tension to a certain context
Neutralization - attempts to strike a compromise between competing tensions
reframing - transforming the dialectic so tensions are no longer in opposition
What are the two greatest influences on initial attraction?
proximity and similarity
people will seek out relationships with similar others - homophily
What are two challenges facing people in long distance relationships?
The lack of daily communication about small events and issues
unrealistic expectations about interactions when partners are together
What are the three main stages of Knapps relational model?
Escalation - developing a relationship
Navigation - maintaining a relationship
Deterioration - relationships coming apart
Define emotional intelligence
the ability to understand and manage one’s own emotions, and be sensitive to others feelings
Define reappraisal
involves rethinking the meaning of events to alter their emotional impact
Define Alexithymia
difficulty discussing emotions
What is online disinhibition of self?
Anonymity with an audience
i.e. youtube comments
Define emotional contagion
describes our ability to “catch” emotions from other people
Define rumination
involves fixating on negative thoughts/emotions
What is the rational-emotive approach
involves changing feelings by unproductive interpretations
What is emotional agility?
savor positive emotional experiences
regard challenging situations as growth opportunities
focus on gains, not losses
choose compassion over contempts
What are psychological indicators vs verbal/nonverbal indicators of emotions?
psychological - increased heartbeats, rise in BP, increased adrenaline, elevated blood sugar, slower digestion
nonverbal - enger, fear, disgust, happiness, sadness, surprise
What are facilitative vs debilitative emotions?
facilitative - contribute to effective functioning
debilitative - hinder or prevent effective performance
What factors impact whether an emotion is facilitative or debilitative?
duration - how long we spend thinking about an emotion
intensity - stronger emotions are more likely to be debilitative
Define communication climate
the social and emotional tone of a relationship
What is interpersonal confirmation?
central to the development of a healthy communication climate
Recognition - the most basic form of confirmation, can be verbal or nonverbal
Acknowledgment - involves attending to what a person thinks, feels, or says
Endorsement - the highest form of confirmation, accepting a persons thoughts or feelings as valid