exam #2 Flashcards
who said friendship is unnecessary?
C.S. Lewis
what is some evidence for animal friendships?
- cows stress levels go down when with another cow
- vampire bats trust by grooming each other and blood sharing and can have decade long relationships
- dolphins form friendships based on shared interests
What are the 5 characteristics of friendships according to William K.Rawlins?
- voluntary
- personal
- equality
- mutual
- affective
what are 4 friendship rules across 4 cultures?
- respect other’s privacy
- trust and confide in one another
- volunteers to help in time of need
- should not be jealous or critical of other relationships
what views do Ghanaian’s show about friendships?
- less amount of friends
- suspicious of friends
- having no friends is not sad and having a lot is suspicious
why do Ghanaian’s have this view?
- moral obligations
- less relational mobility
how many relationships does Robert Dunbar suggest we can keep track of?
150
generally speaking, does eastern or western culture value friendship more?
western
which people tend to value friendship more?
- women
- people of higher education
- countries with lower income equality
what benefits are there for those who value friendship more?
- better health
- greater happiness
- higher well-being
what are the 7 stages of friendship according to william rawlins?
- role delimited interaction - meet people in roles
- friendly relations - breaking the script of the roles you once had
- moves-toward-friendship - hanging out outside of work or school
- nascent friendship - not interacting with original roles anymore
- stabilized friendship
- waning friendship - friendship isn’t as important
- post friendship - friendship is over but you may have symbolic link to friend
what are three patterns that can happen in the stabilized friendship stage (stage 5)?
- active friendship = friends are accessible
- dormant friendship = don’t see everyday but can resume at any time
- commemorative friendship = still see each other as friends but do not really do anything together anymore
what are the 5 stages of friendship according to selman?
- 0 - momentary physical interaction - someone you are playing with in the moment
- 1 - one way assistance - a friend is someone who does something nice for you
- 2 - fair-weather cooperation - a friend is someone who returns a favor
- 3 - intimate and mutual sharing - a friend is someone you can tell things that you wouldn’t tell others
- 4 - autonomous interdependence - a friend is someone who accepts you and that you accept
what are 3 friendship styles according to sarah matthews?
- independent - sees friendships based on circumstances
- discerning - deep connection regardless of changing circumstances
- acquisitive - make friends as they go but also have a core group of friends
what are two ways you can classify good and bad friends?
- health
- enjoyment
what are the 4 types of friendship you get base don enjoyment and health?
- ideal = enjoyable and healthy
- problematic = enjoyable but not healthy
- waning = healthy but not enjoyable
deviant = unhealthy and unenjoyable
what is the theory that explains people who seek out toxic relationships?
self-verification theory = we want our lives to match what we think we deserve
what are some differences in same-sex friendships?
- women - more self-disclosure, more time on the phone spent with friends, talk about more relationships and personal issues
- men - side to side, talk about sports and less personal stuff and tend to be less intimate
what is a similarity attraction effect in opposite sex friendships?
more expressive males tend to have more female friends
true or false: men are more likely to think that having sex is good for the friendship
true
What are the 5 different challenges to opposite sex friendships proposed by J. Donald O’Meara
- emotional bond
- sexuality
- inequality and power
- public relationships
- opportunity structure
define: post-modern friendships
people co-construct their realities within their friendships and can affirm their identities
what do post-modern friendships allow people to do?
allows people to create friendships that aren’t based on traditional gender identities
what are some negative effects of friendships?
- depression can spread if your friend is depressed
- increases the risk of obesity, suicide, smoking and other types of substance abuse if friends are involved in those activities
define: capitalization
we share good news with friends and receive enthusiastic, rewarding responses that increase our pleasure and enhance our relationships
what are 4 ways in which social support is given?
- emotional support
- physical comfort
- advice support
- material support
what are some physiological effects of emotional support?
- lower blood pressure
- better sleep
- faster recovery from stress
who is better at providing social support? an insecure person or a secure person?
secure
define: invisible support
support provided subtly without fanfare and actually goes unnoticed by the recipient
define: perceived partner responsiveness
the judgment that someone is attentive, respectful, caring and supportive with respect to our needs and aspirations
what need do we have in early elementary years in regard to friendship?
acceptance
what need do we have in preadolescence in regard to friendship?
intimacy
what need do we have in teen years in regard to friendship?
sexuality
what are four components of attachment in friendships?
- proximity seeking
- separation protest
- safe haven
- secure base
true or false: primary attachments shift from parents to peers in teens?
true
define: socioemotional selectivity theory
change that occurs because seniors have different interpersonal goals than younger people do
define: relational self-construals
the extent to which we think of ourselves as interdependent rather than independent beings
what three traits are apart of the dark triad?
- narcissism
- Machiavellianism
- psychopathy
define: polygny
multiple wives